Does anyone talk to the donors...

[mama24]

I talk to mine once in a while, when he would call I would get on and try to update him on the going ons, like he cares, because he never ever called to see how things were when he knew they had things going on. Anyway I refuse to talk to him now(yes I know I am being a baby) I am so angry with him. When his daughter was born in Jan. he had the nerve to tell me he was setting up a shcolarship fund for her but that he wasn't going to for the other 3, and that she was being added to his health benefits and that the other 3 weren't(luckily they are on my husbands) How in the hell can he purposely show favortism to this one but not have a care for the other 3?? Anyone else have this problem.
I used to try to talk to him because silly me, I thought if we could be friends maybe he would try to be a better dad, well I realize that it is not about me at all, he is just a bad dad.

[bubbles1984]

I might be being a baby too.... but in your shoes I wouldn't talk to him either.... just meet him in court!

[noah_sadie]

Mine calls once in a while..we havent been friends since the divorce..He doesnt really see our son, and i think that has something to do with his new girlfriend...I think that what he is doing by showing favortisim for the daughter, will not only hurt his other 3 children, but will hurt him in the long run...Have you taken him to court for anything??

[mama24]

Quoting noah_sadie:

Mine calls once in a while..we havent been friends since the divorce..He doesnt really see our son, and i think that has something to do with his new girlfriend...I think that what he is doing by showing favortisim for the daughter, will not only hurt his other 3 children, but will hurt him in the long run...Have you taken him to court for anything??

I have NOT taken him to court yet, but I am in the process. In the beginning, I was so afraid that he would take the kids away out of spite that I kept it out of the courts, now I am not afraid at all, there is no way that he would ever be granted custody. He will get what is comming eventually. My daughter Logan alrady calls her stepdad dad , even if she is around her donor.

[Poetmom]

I haven't spoken to former husband #1 in four years, and if he stays 'disappeared' until next January, Adrienne will be 18, and then I won't ever have to speak to him again about anything, even if he should show up again and WANT to speak to me.

Former husband #2 and I have been pretty civil since we split in 2002, but the more times he lies to me about support stuff, and disappoints Amy when it comes to visitation, the less inclined I am to continue that relationship with him. At this point, we haven't seen or heard from him since Christmas, and probably won't hear from him again until the pending child support enforcement case is settled.

[JCam8506]

I had to get a restraining order, with all the harrassment and threats he put against me.. When I occasionally still do get a letter or email from him, I just throw it out- I don't even bother to read what he has to say.. communicating with that deadbeat is just a complete waste of time.. All he did was hurt Cameron and me.

[drequinjules]

I totally try to stay on good terms with my baby's daddy but have found that making nice is just not possible....only in a perfect world I suppose. I always offered him info on his son but he never seemed interested so I stopped, figured if he wanted to know he would ask...which he doesn't. I manage to force a smile when my son wants to talk to me about him and I never deny him visits...which are seldom and very spontaneous....

[Kelli_and_Riley]

I've changed my phone number 5 times to try and end communication with my ex, but he somehow keeps getting it. Right after I had the baby I tried to give him the opportunity to see his daughter, but he expected me to play hostess in my home. On top of that he would send harassing text messages calling me names and telling me no one would ever want to be with me, etc etc. I don't care if he never sees his daughter again - she would be better off without him. The only way I communicate with him is through court documents.

[ally_cat219]

Well this sounds familiar. When I needed my daughers sperm donor (that is what I call him) he wasnt there. After I got married and I was happy and I was sure he was out of my life there he was. He started calling me asking me when he can see me and my daughter. Now he is emailing me (I live in Germany so he cant call me) he wants to know when he gets to see "his daughter" You have a right not to want to talk to him.

[alaskansglmom]

I was trying to keep my kids donor updated but ever since his new "fiance" (3rd one in 6 months) he doesnt want to call but once a week and wont answer my calls. So today when I got a hold of him telling him that we have kinda a emergency doctor appointment with the ENT for my daughter he got really mad at me and started to treat me with disrespect. He doesnt pay for child support doesnt do anything...I told him that I wont even answer his calls until he can treat me with respect and his new fiance was in the background saying "tell her that you will treat her with respect when she treats you with respect..tell her..tell her" omg I have been treating him with respect I dont have to call him and tell him about the kids..there is nothing that tells me I have to. I am done with the drama!

[mommaof3]

i havent talkedt to mine and i dont want to he just had a new baby w/ a girl and he loves her