Hello Ladies I know alot of you haven;t seen your baby daddys and its a pain, but are there any ladies out there that do have him around and feel like you'd be better off with out him there???
Well Here's my Story... My Baby daddy and I were together for 4 years but when i got pregnant i saw another side of him he didn't want anything to do with me during my pregnancy, HE told me i was gross and nasty, I smelled and i was lazy, I had to go on bedrest and disability b/c i almost lost my son when i was 5 months pregnant, HE wasn't working at all, he didn't want to work and his mommy said it was ok for him to not work. She paid everything for him, Car,cell phone, school loans, you name it she did it. BUt he did come to me for Food, and He had to eat out everyday 3 times a day plus snacks. when i was 8 months pregnant he wanted me to buy him a car with the money i saved for the baby, he told me that he didn't want me or the baby to see my family, he wanted me to live with his mother when i couldn't afford to live in my apartment, and Sadly i did b/c i had no where else to go, and he ignored me the hole time. he finally got a job when i was 9 months pregnant, quit after 3 weeks. then after My son was born, He freaked out, His mom told me to leave her house with My 1 week old son, in the middle of the winter, she told me i ruined her son's life, that he doesn't need to be a father and i shouldn't of had my son, and he said nothing to her, and told me he can't leave his mother b/c she's the only one who's been there for him his whole life.
Then he got another job, work there for 2½ months and quit b/c i wanted to take him to court for child support. The decided to help me with baby sitting b/c i was paying $600 a month for part-time daycare. He did see my son 3 days out of the week b4 that but he didn't do much with him, he would hold him for 20mins then i would put my son to bed and he just watched TV for alittle bit then leave.
SO Now, he's been baby sitting, and i say that b/c he only watches him for 5 hours 3 days a week, he wont wait until i come home and half the time he wont put him to bed, but he swears that he does it every night. So since he's there , he feels like he's doing his part, but I'm the one paying for everything, he even gets me to give him gas money b/c he'll drive on E with my son and get stuck and then blame me for not giving him gas money, i work nights & overnights and gets mad at me b/c i'm tired and can't stay up more then 24 hours a day, he tells me i'm a crappy mom when i leave some bottles for him to do, he tells me he hates that i live with my parents and tells me to get with it and get a place. Then he blames me for him not having a job . b/c i have him watching the baby and that i have to put him in daycare. and Then finally he actually had the nerve to say , if i don't get over what his mom said about me and my son, and start acting like we're a family he'll leave and never come back........ LOL That is not a threat!!
So, Yes he is around but thats all he is, he doesn't help financially but i did save $600 a month for a little while. He wants to go back to work, but only to fix his car and to pay his mom back for all the things she paid for him. SO On his List its Car first, Mom 2nd What he wants 3rd and his son?......... NOt even on the list, soo what do you think? is he a deadbeat or Should I be happy he's there???
BUT MY BOYS DAD IS A DIFFERENT STORY WE HAVE BEEN SEPERATED SINCE THE END OF MAY HE HAS GIVEN ME A HUNDRED DOLLARS THAT'S IT AND ACTUALLY CALLS TO ASK ME TO GIVE HIM MONEY OR DO SOMETHING FOR HIM I HAVE JUST STOPPED ANSWERING HIS MESSAGES AND PHONE CALLS UNLESS IT HAS TO DO DIRECTLY WITH THE KIDS
So very sad! How Pathedic
- JaysMomma
on Sep. 8, 2007 at 4:14 AM