Having Kids in the room during your delivery????

I like having kids in my delivery room (as long as they are well behaved)...honestly that's how I keep my cool and don't become one of those crazy labor mommies that scream and curse and attempt to injure docs or nurses lol

I think a screaming/crying, red-faced, sweating woman, outside her normal state of mind might frighten children that young.  Of course, you know them better than anyone on here so if you think they can handle it I don't think there is anything wrong with that.  I don't have any kids yet, but I probably will not have them in the room for my other children's births either.  I would not want them to see me in distress.

When I had my daughter, my son was 26 months old and I just had him wait in the waiting room with grandaddy, my mom was with me in the room.  This time around my kids are 8 soon to be 9 and 6 and i've decided to have them keep grandaddy company in the waiting room.  I have a few reasons for this.  One is I am already having dh, my mom, and my MiL in the room with me, which already makes it a bit crowded.  two even tho my kids are very interested in the baby and everything involved, they would get bored and want to play around in the room , they couldn't even make it through our 30 minute 3d/4d u/s yesterday without starting to play around lol.  Also my dad has always wanted to be in the delivery room with me, and I just don't feel comfortable with that, having the kids keep him company, and having him watch them is the perfect excuse for him to not be in there, without hurting his feelings lol.  When I had my daughter, I had my dad and son come in as soon as tey weer done weighing, measuring and bathing her and had given her to us to hold.  I will prolly do the same thing this time, as soon as the dr's are done doing what needs to be done, they'll be in the room.

Riley Quinn Chambers EDD 11/21/08

I think they are too young, especially since they aren't your bio kids. JMHO. What does their mom think of the idea?

i think my 4 yr old is to young, but i am going to have a c-section so i do not have the choice anyways

Mandi

I suggest you talk to your OB first as some Ob's don't like having children in the delivery room. And then if he's/she's OK with it talk to the Kids they could always wait in the waiting room and then be the first to see the baby once you're all hidden down there. Just send the nurse to get them and maybe have them some t-shirts they can put on Like I'm a big brother/ big sister. Also make sure hubby is OK with it too.

I was really wondering this too myself.My boys are 5 and 6. I may not have a sitter for them and of course dads going to want to be there to see the baby born.

I wanted my 12 yr old in with me but i was in labor for three days and i delevered and 3:30 in the morning :( so she missed it she was a little upset because she really wanted to be there and there wont be no next time ill tell you that much lol but i dont know about a four yr old maybe they will get scared i know its a very painful but happy experience and im not sure at they age they can understand that

lol I must be the odd ball out.

I was thinking about letting my 5 yr old and 10 yr old in the room when their sister will be born. Until I watched one of those birth shows on discovery health. The mom had her 5 yr old daughter in the room. This poor girl was crying her eyes out because mommy was hurting and she was hysterical by the time the baby was born. I honestly think this poor girl will be traumatized for quite some time. Having a baby is not a very PG experience. It is very bloody, messy, and quite frankly from a kids perspective pretty dang gross. As a mom I dont see it that way, but thru the eyes of a kid, IDk it may have given me nightmares if I were to experience that so young.

I asked my 10 yr old what she thought about going into the room to see her sister be born, she said no thank you. I asked why......she said "I am not allowed to watch horror movies because blood is gross"

So I guess maybe talk to the kids and see how they feel about it. I now know that mine dont wanna be there!