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  • Gabeys_Mommy
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 12:49 PM

• That baby will be the best Christmas present you've ever recieved, trust me. =) And it may be hard, but remember...in the end that baby will make everything worth it with one smile.

  Congrats on the pregnancy!!
  

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  • BlueEyes689
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 12:52 PM

• oh mamma dont beat up on yourself, christmas has become something other then what it was intended for. thank god that you have a baby that is healthy, sweet and just needs you, make that your christmas present to her, soemthing very important that she needs very much. YOU...I MEAN THAT.  you will get through this i promise hun,. if you need anything let me know  ill be here for you.

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  • doulala
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 12:53 PM

• Hi Mama!   Welcome!   :-)

  Sorry to hear things are rough, I am going through some tough times, myself.  :-(
  Is this your first baby?   Do you have money saved up to live off of?   Do you have medical insurance?   Who will be with you for labor and after?

  
  

  Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers ~ strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength.

  ~Barbara Katz Rothma

  
  

  When you change the way you view birth, the way you birth will change. -Mongan

  
  

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  • PoorMomToBe
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 12:59 PM

• Hi, thanks for ur reply, i have no money saved up,  my sister is planning in being with me through the laber ( i hope), and yeah i have 4 kids.

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  • doulala
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 1:10 PM

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  Quoting PoorMomToBe:
  
  

  Hi, thanks for ur reply, i have no money saved up,  my sister is planning in being with me through the laber ( i hope), and yeah i have 4 kids.

  Wow, that is hard!   Is your ex contributing at all?  
  

  Do you have other family-friends around that can help out?

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers ~ strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength.

  ~Barbara Katz Rothma

  
  

  When you change the way you view birth, the way you birth will change. -Mongan

  
  

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  • PoorMomToBe
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 1:23 PM

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  Quoting doulala:
  
  

  
  

  Quoting PoorMomToBe:
  
  

  Hi, thanks for ur reply, i have no money saved up,  my sister is planning in being with me through the laber ( i hope), and yeah i have 4 kids.

  Wow, that is hard!   Is your ex contributing at all?  
  

  Do you have other family-friends around that can help out?

   

  yeah it is, well he hasnt done nothin so far and he said he wasnt goin to help me out that he didnt want this baby. just my sister, but she has kids also so she really cant help much just support which is alot at this time.
  

  
  

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  • doulala
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 1:56 PM

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  yeah it is, well he hasnt done nothin so far and he said he wasnt goin to help me out that he didnt want this baby. just my sister, but she has kids also so she really cant help much just support which is alot at this time.
  

  I am really glad you're here for more support.

  What about finding a birth doula to help you?  

  
  

  Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers ~ strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength.

  ~Barbara Katz Rothma

  
  

  When you change the way you view birth, the way you birth will change. -Mongan

  
  

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  • PoorMomToBe
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 2:06 PM

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  Quoting PoorMomToBe:
  
  

  yeah it is, well he hasnt done nothin so far and he said he wasnt goin to help me out that he didnt want this baby. just my sister, but she has kids also so she really cant help much just support which is alot at this time.
  

  I am really glad you're here for more support.

  What about finding a birth doula to help you?  

  
  

  Me to, what is a birth doula?
  

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  • doulala
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 2:16 PM

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  Quoting PoorMomToBe:
  
  

  Me to, what is a birth doula?

  A birth doula is a labor support person.  A woman who will be available to you before labor, to help you plan for and get ready to deliver.   Then she will be there with you at home in early labor, keeping you strong, comfortable, and progressing.   She'll be with you through labor and delivery, helping you to be as strong and comfortable as can be.   (Nurses come and go, not constant support.   A doula is there all the time.)   She will make sure you are settled postpartum, too.

  She is sort of like a temporary best friend who gets you through labor.   ;-)

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  You can scan through:

  http://dona.org/

  www.findadoula.com

  www.alldoulas.com

  www.doulanetwork.com

  www.maternitywise.com

  http://www.bellywomen.net/

  http://www.cappa.net
  
  Childbirth International
  
  Mothering.com Forums - Tribal area
  

  even craigslist!

  Even ask local midwives/prenatal yoga teachers/birth class teachers... I always see business cards on coffee shop boards, too!

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  • Doulas mother the mother.       :-)
  • Every woman who wants a doula should have one!      :-)
    
  • If you don't know your options you don't have any.      ~Korte & Scaer
    
  • If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it.    -John H. Kennell, MD
  • Women's strongest feelings (in terms of their birthings), positive and negative, focus on the way they were treated by their caregivers.       ~Annie Kennedy & Penny Simkin
  • labor is not about dilation.  Your body knows how to give birth whether or not you have a pelvic exam during labor.  Birthing women need encouragement to trust their bodies, and to be the stars of their own labors.     ~The Doula Guide to Birth
    
    

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  • PoorMomToBe
  on Nov. 8, 2009 at 2:53 PM

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  Quoting doulala:
  
  

  
  

  Quoting PoorMomToBe:
  
  

  Me to, what is a birth doula?

  A birth doula is a labor support person.  A woman who will be available to you before labor, to help you plan for and get ready to deliver.   Then she will be there with you at home in early labor, keeping you strong, comfortable, and progressing.   She'll be with you through labor and delivery, helping you to be as strong and comfortable as can be.   (Nurses come and go, not constant support.   A doula is there all the time.)   She will make sure you are settled postpartum, too.

  She is sort of like a temporary best friend who gets you through labor.   ;-)

   

   

   

   

  You can scan through:

  http://dona.org/

  http://www.cafemom.com/www.findadoula.com

  http://www.cafemom.com/www.alldoulas.com

  http://www.cafemom.com/www.doulanetwork.com

  http://www.cafemom.com/www.maternitywise.com

  http://www.bellywomen.net/

  http://www.cappa.net/
  
  Childbirth International
  
  Mothering.com Forums - Tribal area
  

  even craigslist!

  Even ask local midwives/prenatal yoga teachers/birth class teachers... I always see business cards on coffee shop boards, too!

   

   Thanks i will look into that :)

   

   

  
  

   

  
  

  
  

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