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MIL calls me fat....! Calling all Smart Alecks! edited *pic*
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on Jul. 3, 2009 at 4:53 PM
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* So this is me, 18 weeks pregnant 6 days pregnant, With my third, taken today. Those are my regular jeans, not even maternity! * Thank all you ladies for your support! It really makes me feel better!
So heres the story. This is my third baby, I work really hard after each pregnancy to loose my weight and get down to prepregnancy size (this takes months ladies, I am not one of those people the fat just melts off of after birth! I have to work hard, because I breastfeed, so I don't diet)
Well, I am 5'2 and 115 pounds. I lost all my weight and was in great shape before i found out I was pregnant again. I am 18weeks 5days and just now starting to show. I have not gained even a pound. obviously I don't have a weight issue.
But she every single time i see her, (MIL) she looks at me and says "wow, you sure have gotten FAT!." She says this continually. Each time I see her. Each time It catches me off guard. I have no idea what to say. She has done this with all of my pregnancies. And even makes mean joke and comments when I'm not!
It would be easier if she were fat, I could come up with a SMart A^^ comment then. But she is a stick. She is 5'2 and maybe a little over 100lbs. And really good looking for a woman in her mid forties. I hate her.
She makes me feel so bad about myself, and I can't talk to her about it because then it would look like I was being too sensitive, because after all, "its just a joke!" But it really puts me down. I mean I worked hard to get into shape, and all she ever does, is "joke" about how fat I am or "joke" about my body in some other way. Btw she never exercises, the reasn she is so skinny is because she only allows herself one meal a day, if that.
I know a good humored sarcastic joke, and this isn't that. She is a catty woman, and will try to draw attention to how wonderful she looks compared to everyone else. She is in a constant state of competition.
So just once I want to have a smart A$$ remark to come back with, But I am not a smart a$$ by nature so if anyone could help???
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 4:59 PM
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Im sorry that you are dealing with this. Its sad that people are so rude and mean. I dont have any smart comments to give to you because I suck at gettin smart with people. But the only thing that I know to do is to talk to your hubby and tell him how it hurts and maybe he could talk to her. And if not, then you can talk to her and explain that even though she may be joking it still hurts and that you dont want to hear it anymore. She can take it however she wants.
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 5:01 PM
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Maybe silence is the best option here. She is most likely insecure about herself, which is the reason she acts like a teenager. Just let her sit and stew and be jealous of you. It would probably give her a kick if she knew it bothered you. Just let her go, it probably pisses her off that you don't act like it bothers you.
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 5:02 PM
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mil "wow you have gotten fat!"
you "really? *lean closer* have you always had that many wrinkles?"
you "have your boobs always been that saggy?"
you "I might be fat, but you're ugly and I can lose weight"
you "yeah, well you're old"
Jackie
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 5:03 PM
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The only thing I know to do is turn it around on her and talk about how thin she is in a negative way..like you need to eat something woman! LOL I usually tell people that say things about me that they need to spend more time worrying about themselves and less time about me (or other people) and the world would be a better place! LOL
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 5:05 PM
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im sorry but 5'2" and 115 it not FAT by any means... i mena not even chubby or thick!! jmo! maybe she is just jealous that you have some "curves" i wouldnt want to be a stick!! i would just comment WOW! IS THAT YOUR HIP BONE STICKING OUT FROM THOSE JEANS???... GROSS...
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 5:10 PM
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I love the wrinkles comment!!
See the only problem about confronting her is that it would make her happy to know that it bothered me, and if I did, she would be gossiping about it to everyone, and I would turn into the thin-skinned girl who can't take a joke.
And When I don't say anything, she feels like she has the upper hand.
She is a bully. She really is, I know it sounds stupid.
I have talked to hubby and we both agree that the best strategy is to beat her at her own game!
Quoting tiny_mama:
mil "wow you have gotten fat!"
you "really? *lean closer* have you always had that many wrinkles?"
you "have your boobs always been that saggy?"
you "I might be fat, but you're ugly and I can lose weight"
you "yeah, well you're old"
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 5:12 PM
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bwah hahahaa lol
Quoting vannahsmom07:
im sorry but 5'2" and 115 it not FAT by any means... i mena not even chubby or thick!! jmo! maybe she is just jealous that you have some "curves" i wouldnt want to be a stick!! i would just comment WOW! IS THAT YOUR HIP BONE STICKING OUT FROM THOSE JEANS???... GROSS...
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 5:16 PM
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Tell her "That's ok, at least I can lose weight, really sorry you can't lose Ugly"
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 5:19 PM
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ugh my mil sounds like the same woman... she is a bully too! lets never be bullies when we become MIL's!!
Quoting AlwaysExpecting:
I love the wrinkles comment!!
See the only problem about confronting her is that it would make her happy to know that it bothered me, and if I did, she would be gossiping about it to everyone, and I would turn into the thin-skinned girl who can't take a joke.
And When I don't say anything, she feels like she has the upper hand.
She is a bully. She really is, I know it sounds stupid.
I have talked to hubby and we both agree that the best strategy is to beat her at her own game!
Quoting tiny_mama:
mil "wow you have gotten fat!"
you "really? *lean closer* have you always had that many wrinkles?"
you "have your boobs always been that saggy?"
you "I might be fat, but you're ugly and I can lose weight"
you "yeah, well you're old"
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- by on Jul. 3, 2009 at 5:20 PM
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Next time she calls you fat you could say....
Well since you seem to care so much about it, why don't you start actually eating 3 meals a day and you could be fat just like me....and walk away
*and no way am I calling you fat at all.....you are tiny by your weight and height!*
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