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MIL calls me fat....! Calling all Smart Alecks! edited *pic*
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on Jul. 3, 2009 at 4:53 PM
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* So this is me, 18 weeks pregnant 6 days pregnant, With my third, taken today. Those are my regular jeans, not even maternity! * Thank all you ladies for your support! It really makes me feel better!
So heres the story. This is my third baby, I work really hard after each pregnancy to loose my weight and get down to prepregnancy size (this takes months ladies, I am not one of those people the fat just melts off of after birth! I have to work hard, because I breastfeed, so I don't diet)
Well, I am 5'2 and 115 pounds. I lost all my weight and was in great shape before i found out I was pregnant again. I am 18weeks 5days and just now starting to show. I have not gained even a pound. obviously I don't have a weight issue.
But she every single time i see her, (MIL) she looks at me and says "wow, you sure have gotten FAT!." She says this continually. Each time I see her. Each time It catches me off guard. I have no idea what to say. She has done this with all of my pregnancies. And even makes mean joke and comments when I'm not!
It would be easier if she were fat, I could come up with a SMart A^^ comment then. But she is a stick. She is 5'2 and maybe a little over 100lbs. And really good looking for a woman in her mid forties. I hate her.
She makes me feel so bad about myself, and I can't talk to her about it because then it would look like I was being too sensitive, because after all, "its just a joke!" But it really puts me down. I mean I worked hard to get into shape, and all she ever does, is "joke" about how fat I am or "joke" about my body in some other way. Btw she never exercises, the reasn she is so skinny is because she only allows herself one meal a day, if that.
I know a good humored sarcastic joke, and this isn't that. She is a catty woman, and will try to draw attention to how wonderful she looks compared to everyone else. She is in a constant state of competition.
So just once I want to have a smart A$$ remark to come back with, But I am not a smart a$$ by nature so if anyone could help???
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- by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 12:56 AM
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Quoting mnt_2_b_mommy:
I think you look great, first of all, and secondly, next time she says anything, just wink and tell her that her son is obviously loving you the way you are. then add something about he likes a little cushin' for the pushin....and walk away. :-)
LOL i love this one. anytime i bitch about my weight hubby gets mad. i have always been thick but it takes me a lot to get bk down to pre pregnancy size..
I would just say "well your son loves it." n walk away. that way ur only stating the truth n not stooping to her level cause that seems to be wut she wants to know she is getting under ur skin..
and by far you are not fat by any means... Just be happy with yourself n i think that will be ur best revenge cause she seems to be misaberle.(sp)
Momma of 4: Jazlyn (6), Jacquez (3), Jo'Nika (1), Jay'Dyn Ray (due 9-2-09). Proud Wifey to Do'Shan.
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- by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 3:20 AM
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You could say, "Yah I guess looking healthy is better than looking like a toothpick" or "I didn't know I was supposed to look skinny for you"
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- by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 3:43 AM
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Maybe you aught to tell her that the only thing fat in the room is her yap. Sorry I know probably uncalled for but so is her "Jokes". Your a stick especially for 3 kids. I really would tell her that if you wanted her opinion then you would have asked for it, therefore she can keep it to herself otherwise. JMO.
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- by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 8:34 AM
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Your pic hadn't been posted when I commented... I think you MIL, has a severe issue with weight. I can't beleive that you are 18 weeks preggers! If she thinks that you are fat, she may need to check herself into a weight counseling class. She sounds like someone who has a seriously harmful idea of what a healthy weight should be! I would totally ignore the negative feelings her words bring to you, and turn the concern to her. A pyschological evaluation may be in order for her.... she is not right in the head.
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- by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 11:23 AM
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am i the only one who thinks maybe shes being sarcastic>???!!!! if you really were fat, i doubt she would be calling you fat!! and since you are so slim, the only explantion is that she is being sarcastic... i would laugh and say "yeah i know, itll be hard to lose these many pounds after baby is born.. hahahah" maybe she just has a wierd sense of humor. gl with this
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- by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 1:35 PM
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ok so i DO NOT think you are fat AT ALL! and i have the perfect ending to one that has been posted a few times lmao
mil: your getting fat
you: maybe but your son doesnt seem to mind, obviously since you are being blessed with yet another blessed grandchild!
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- by on Jul. 5, 2009 at 4:55 PM
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ok so i have to comment again since you posted the picture. If thats you 18-19 weeks pregnant, I am a freakin cow because I look like that and Im not pregnant!! Neither one of my kids did I look like that at 19 weeks! With my first I was visably pregnant,while not huge and with my son , Good LORD look out, I felt like I should have been due any day! Girl your mil has some serious issues!!!
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