I dont believe it!

My husband has this ability too. I can struggle with her all day, or try to put her to bed and she cries and keeps coming out, but when daddy is home no problems! She isn't scared of him or anything and he doesn't do anything differently it's something daddies have I guess...

lol i guess it is it just gets me that hes only been here a month of her whole life and hes not here now but him saying it through webcam/mic and boom no problems lol but i use that now when shes being really really bad i just ask if she wants me to tell daddy shes being bad for mommy she says no and starts behaving lol hopefuly it lasts till he gets home at least!

It's human nature. Dad is the rough hard mean one- mom is the soft nurturing one. She gets away with more from you because you put up with more.

It's entirely natural for her to be more "scared" of dad. It's not neccessarily a fear of dad's wrath, but a respect for his authority. Men are head of the home... it's built into their DNA. As long as she's listening to SOMEONE, I wouldn't worry about it. In the mean time, since daddy's gone and his authority is being administered online, eventually she may realize that he really can't do anything about it if she chooses not to listen, so it's up to you to carry out what dad would normally do- even if it isn't part of your nature. If your husband says "Go to bed or you're gettinga  spanking" and she doesn't go to bed.... give her a spanking. That helps her realize that YOU are in control here- and helps enforce the idea that Dad is the ultimate authority in the house.

I'm not sure what your discipline structure is, but make sure you follow through on whatever standards your husband sets. She should come around!!

I know what it means. My DH is the same way all it takes is one word coming out of his mouth and my daughter is a perfect angel..lol

She needs to feel approval from both of you- your both her parents. Being with the same person day in and day out, you tend to take them for granted and start being rude....even as adults. Kids aren't really any different. :O)

It's the oppisite in my house, and I spend all day with him. His daddy just laughs, if mommy says go to bed then he is walking to his bedroom getting on his bed and lying down (he may not go to sleep right away but he goes and lays down) :-D

see i have the opposite problem here. my 3 yr old WALKS over him! and so does my 1 yr old. he's not strict enough and lets them go and go until i have to intervene and i'm always yelling and shouting. all because of him. and i'm always telling him hello step up here. you can't let them act that way. and his response is that i have to be the one in control cuz when he goes away then they have to listen to me. ya nice load of crap huh!?

Quoting usmcwifemom2:

see i have the opposite problem here. my 3 yr old WALKS over him! and so does my 1 yr old. he's not strict enough and lets them go and go until i have to intervene and i'm always yelling and shouting. all because of him. and i'm always telling him hello step up here. you can't let them act that way. and his response is that i have to be the one in control cuz when he goes away then they have to listen to me. ya nice load of crap huh!?

My husband had that attitude too- until, in my 2 year old's sweet innocence, he started calling him "Uncle Matt"....lol. No joke. We asked him why and he said "Cuz uncle's are fun- daddy's are dads." Tell your husband he's gonna become Uncle Dad if he doesn't knock it off!! LMAO

My husband shaped up a lot after that. He definately does his part- and there's nothing that sets him off more then when the kids don't mind ME.  It's nice to have his support- it helps so much to know you're not alone in your struggle to maintain your kids!!