Well, my world basically came crashing down around me when my DH and I went to the doctor last Wednesday and were told that my little bean did not have a heart beat. We were TTC for about 13 months before I got pregnant. I should be about 10 weeks, but it looked like the embryo stopped growing around 6 weeks. I chose to have a D & C this past Friday so that we could move on, seeing as that I still hadn't had any signs of miscarrying on my own.
I guess I am writing this to see if anyone else has had a similar situation and what your outcome was. The doctor said we can start trying again right away. I feel so robbed and just completely depressed. Any advice or uplifting words would be great.
I'm so sorry! That must really suck, but I'm sure it'll get better. I miscarried a few years ago myself and had to have a D&C. I did recover, but there is no denying that I "should" have a 2 year old right now. I just found out on friday that my ovaries have shutdown, so the likelyhood of conceiving again and having a successful pregnancy for me is slim to none
I want to say I'm very sorry for your loss, and I've been there. I got pregnant in May, and had my 1st trimester ultrasound at 11 weeks 2 days in July. I knew something was wrong because the tech wouldn't show me the screen. Finally, they told my DH and I that the baby had no heartbeat. It measured at 10 weeks 5 days. My doctor wanted me to have a D & C the following day, but I couldn't do it. I needed time to process everything. So, since my doctor only does D & Cs on Tuesdays I had to wait a full week. I know how you feel about being robbed. I should be 30 weeks this week, and with a big ol' preggo belly but I don't. It was very hard in the beginning, but gradually it gets better. Hang in there, and if you need to talk just PM me. :)
im very sorry and i know how you feel. i had gotten pregnant may 2005. i went in at 5 weeks and found out i was pregnant with twins. two days later i went to the er thinking i was miscarring and found out i lost one of the twins. they said i should carry to full term with the other one. well at nine weeks i lost the other one. the doctor had to do a d&c. it killed me to lose not just one but two all with in a couple of weeks. one thing that really helped me was i went to my family grave yard and put up some crosses. one for each of my 4 children i lost. the hard thing to get over was after the d&c the doctor told me that it was a boy. his mame daniel thomas barker. rip my little boy.
I had my 3rd miscarriage in June. That one i had to have a d&c. It was awful. Not the actual d&c but the mental part. Luckily the hospital i was at put me in peds(lol) instead of L&D so iwouldn't have to hear the babies. You will move on but it will never leave you. The only thing i can say is lean on your hubby.
((hugs))
so sad, and i just feel terrible for your loss. it must feel so unfair. im so sorry. i pray you concieve again and soon and that its a full term happy healthy pregnancy. you just have to believe that it will happen. rip baby xoxox
xoxox ~Jess~Trevon's momma & Timmy's wife xoxox
I know houw you feel exactly..I lost a little girl in July @ 17 weeks.
You have been robbed and you need to grieve...we are still TTC...it's been very hard b.c I wannna be preggo like NOW...but I guess God is teaching me patience....
I am here if you need a friend to talk...
I am deeply sorry for your loss
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I too understand all to well what you are going thru. I am so sorry for your loss :( I had a miscarriage in 05 followed by a d&c. Same thing ..no heart beat. I thought that it could not get any worse... I was so upset. We got preggers a few months after the miscarriage and things were going well. Then when I was 24 weeks pregnant I went into preterm labor and lost my baby girl. I know..sounds sad and boy I was at first. But let me tell you...Now...I am the happiest person on earth. I take nothing for granted and I appreiciate everything on a different level. The loss of my baby girl (gracie) was the best thing that has happened to me. She taught me so much. I am so strong now and I relieze how precious life is. At her funeral I had a very hard time leaving and the pastor leaned in and told me"the most beautiful roses always get picked first"....Truth er what?! God has a plan for us all and in time you will have a baby. You are a stronger person now have gone through this hard time. Oh...and guess what..........I have the most beautiful perfect little boy that is 26 months old. "everything happens for a reason"
Im so sorry to hear that! I went through it earlier this year I had a very horrible miscarriage and a horrible doctor! He knew I was miscarrying and said it will just happen but for 5 days it didnt and then one day i began to bleed so bad that i seriously would soak a pad in 1 min!and i had huge clots. I called him and he said hed meet me at the hospital and not to walk so i freaked out! Turns out i was hemmorging i went to the hospital at around 1 in the afternoon and finally at 930 at night they did a d&c after i had asked for it days before. It took me months to get over it and now we are actively trying for another! But in all ths just listen to your heart if you are ready to try agin go ahead if not give yourself time its a tough thing to go through.I hope everything works out for you! and good luck!
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on Nov. 15, 2009 at 3:30 PM