Having a bittersweet holiday

[Aayjay1007]

 Happy Turkey day everyone!  So, just a recap, I have a tentative diagnosis of premature ovarian dysfunction and was told this recently.  I've been on an emotional roller coaster for the last week or so.

Well, it appears that I may be O'ing based on the appearance of EWCM for the last few days.  I can't really confirm my suspicions with BBT or OPK's because the house training regimin i have my new puppy on has me interupting my sleep too often to  get an accurate temp, and I've been honestly too discouraged and depressed about the subject to really care to do OPK's anymore.

Anywho, I noticed the EWCM a couple days ago and it's still there, so I'm kinda curious.  I want to BD just in case, but (and this is the sad part) I'm afraid to approach my DH about it.  He's on one of his "not in the mood kicks" and I just can't handle any rejection right now.  I kinda hinted this morning knowing that he's more prone to be interested in the morning, but he was still very stiff and sore from work, and...go figure...wasn't interested *sigh*.  I did of course think of telling him why I really want to BD, but Mr. Science here would be skepticle and it wouldn't sway his mind anyways even if I had the temps and stuff to back up my theory. 

So whatcha think ladies? Should I tell him and risk my ego...again?  I guess maybe I should, either way I'd be bummed right?  I'm having a good holiday as far as dinner and good company goes.  My food (yes I cooked this year =} ) turned out wonderful and everyone was grateful for my hard work in the kitchen. I love my husband wouldn't trade him for anything, but I guess I just can't help but feel disappointed that I seem to be alone in this battle.  He's supportive and wants a baby too very much, but I guess there is only so much he can do ya know...and it happens to be what he's NOT in the mood for.....GAH!  Any ideas on what I can do to help him be more in the mood?  He was doing this before we started trying for a baby, so I know it's not related to TTC.  I've tried approaching him in the morning when I KNOW he's more likely to be interested. I've tried asking him what new things he wants to try to keep in interesting, I've sacraficed my own pleasure by servicing him a few times just to be spontaneous. He swears it has nothing to do with me and he's not "helping himself". I JUST DON'T GET IT!  I'm wracking my brain here and I've just about had all I can take. It's hard enough to try to keep it together through all these constant reminders of what I probably won't be able to do as far as babies go, and I can't handle the rejection anymore.

I realize that he's a human being too with his own emotions and feelings. I know that I can't expect him to just be ready at the drop of a hat, and I'm not asking him too.  I'm not approaching him several times a day or even every day for that matter.  I usually wait a couple days to give  him a chance to come to me....when it's not baby week, lol.  all I really ask of him is that we BD when we need to during baby week.  I even tried to make a deal with him.  We try when I say we need to during baby week and then I'll let him come to me for the rest of the month....I don't recal ever getting an answer.

Thanks for listening ladies and hope you have/had a great holiday!

[Melinda32]

I say just smack his ass and get it on.  I don't know if you can handle a rejection if that's what happens, that's up to you and how you handle it.  Back in the day when we were TTC if I knew it was time or thought it was time to BD and my SO didn't seem like he was in the mood I'd try something to get him started, whether it be right in his face like smacking his ass and getting rough with him or giving him a massage and letting my hands wander.  If he rejected then I knew he really wasn't up for it.  There's no harm in trying. 

[Aayjay1007]

Oh honey I've tried that too, give him something to want ya know.  He's a smart one he is and would catch on to what I was getting at rather quickly...it doesn't usually work.  I swear, he's the only man I've been with who can keep their hands to themselves, LOL.  Can't say I didn't know that about him, he's a very smart person and I wouldn't trade that for any of the neanderthals I've been with in the past.  It just irks because I KNOW that he does know what he's doing and is basically turning our bedroom life into a battle of wits, like he's trying to teach me some patience.  Thanks for the reply!

Quoting Melinda32:

I say just smack his ass and get it on.  I don't know if you can handle a rejection if that's what happens, that's up to you and how you handle it.  Back in the day when we were TTC if I knew it was time or thought it was time to BD and my SO didn't seem like he was in the mood I'd try something to get him started, whether it be right in his face like smacking his ass and getting rough with him or giving him a massage and letting my hands wander.  If he rejected then I knew he really wasn't up for it.  There's no harm in trying. 

[lindsayWA]

Do you think there's anyways he would see a Dr about having low sex drive?  Someone else recently posted about there husband having this problem and someone said they can get a blood test to see if there is something they can do to help.  It's worth looking into it anyways.  I would at least try even though your feeling are at stake.  Like you said you would be sad either way at least this way you tried.  Good luck to you.