Hi ladies im new to this group I jus got in about a week ago well i want to start off by saying ive been on cafe mom before two yrs ago i suffered a loss at five months i loss my baby girl chase. It was very hard and emotional for me. i joined a group on cafemom women that have loss a child and it helped me alot im still not over it but ive learned to get thru it . well after my loss i became prego again after eleven months it wasent planed it just happened. well i was going thru a divorce when i found out i was five weeks I made a decision to have an abortion because i new my ex husband would not be there he wasent there financially or in enyother way when we were a family it hurt me to do it because of my loss and now ijus feel real sad about it and guilty. well ladies ive been with someone for a yr and a half and now i want to try again but sometimes i feel like god is punishing me because he gave me life and i got rid of it and thats why i cant get pregnant. i prayed and asked god to forgive me and to jus try not to think about it but its hard. well i jus wanted to share that i was feeling emotional this morning on my way to work even cryed well thanks for listening.
lady T
Oh honey I'm so sorry that you are going through this. But you made the decision that was best for you and I really don't think that God would punish you by making it so you can't get pregnant. I really hope that one day you will get pregnant again and you will have that beautiful baby that you were meant to have!
I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't even begin to imagine how hard that must have been and in some ways probably still is.
I'm going to get plenty of hate for saying this I'm sure... But if it makes you feel any better I had an abortion 7 years ago, nothing about the situation was right, I was on BCP, but ended up getting pregnant with a BF who I just didn't need to be linked to for the rest of my life. Yes there are other options, but for me that was the right one. I know people will hate me for that, but from the moment I found out I knew that was the only and best option for me. I now have a 3 year old son with the man of my dreams, working on number 2. **HUGS** It'll happen, maybe not as quickly as we would like sometimes, but you just have to have faith. It's nice that there are forums like this that we can let it all out with people who may come close to understanding. :)
God understands where you were in you're life when you made that decision. and you are not being punished. God knows the decisions you're going to make before you make them and the choices you're going to me make before you're even born, he knows the ins and outs of you and your life, he has counted the hairs on you're head before the beginning of time, the forgiveness for ALL of your sins is setting there at the foot of the cross waiting for you and as long as you ask for it it's yours, that's all you have to do, believe that Jesus was the son go God and died to forgive your sins, all you have to do is claim that forgiveness! I will keep you in my prays, I will pray for you to find peace!
well im not religious at all. so of course i dont think 'god is punishing you'. and even if there WAS a god, the 'god' i hear of is supposed to be all nice, loving, and forgiving. so either way, please dont think that.
the fact is that an abortion can cause fertility issues. it just a risk that runs with the procedure. you are not being punished. its just a part of it sometimes. and i hope that is not what is happening.
but IF you are having problems, that might be why. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE dont feel guilty. you cant go back and change what happened. you can only move forward!! have you seen your doctor since then just to make sure everything healed up ok and stuff like that?
I could not have said it better myself!! GL MOMMA
Quoting ready_for2:well im not religious at all. so of course i dont think 'god is punishing you'. and even if there WAS a god, the 'god' i hear of is supposed to be all nice, loving, and forgiving. so either way, please dont think that.
the fact is that an abortion can cause fertility issues. it just a risk that runs with the procedure. you are not being punished. its just a part of it sometimes. and i hope that is not what is happening.
but IF you are having problems, that might be why. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE dont feel guilty. you cant go back and change what happened. you can only move forward!! have you seen your doctor since then just to make sure everything healed up ok and stuff like that?
As a Christian who does not believe in abortion, I just wanted to say something to both of you ladies that are worried about people hating and judging you. You will find no "hating" here. I may not agree with the decision you made, but I would never hate you for it, either! Original pp - you said you asked God for forgiveness. If that is so, then it's been given! God commands us to love one another - and to forgive - and it isn't our place to judge. I'm so very sorry for both of your losses and the struggles you are going through. You'll be in my prayers.
~ Lisa ~
Hun, I don't beleive God ever punishes us. Abortions can cause difficulty in concieving, but If you have asked God for forgivness, the next step is forgiving yourself, maybe even asking the aborted child for forgiveness, speak it outloud, even though they can't answer, sometimes it releases us, Ask God to restore you and your body..I pray for him to open your womb to new life :)
Quoting ready_for2:
well im not religious at all. so of course i dont think 'god is punishing you'. and even if there WAS a god, the 'god' i hear of is supposed to be all nice, loving, and forgiving. so either way, please dont think that.
the fact is that an abortion can cause fertility issues. it just a risk that runs with the procedure. you are not being punished. its just a part of it sometimes. and i hope that is not what is happening.
but IF you are having problems, that might be why. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE dont feel guilty. you cant go back and change what happened. you can only move forward!! have you seen your doctor since then just to make sure everything healed up ok and stuff like that?
That's what I was going to say. It'll happen, you might have to go see a doctor or fertility specialist. Good luck!
HUGE HUGS!!!!!!!!
I dont have anything to say that hasnt already been said, but just wanted to offer support!
You'll only find love and support in this group!!
Have you seen a doctor yet and spoken with him/her about your issues?
GOOD LUCK!! : )
This group is here for love and support! None of us are here to judge. Besides, who are we to judge anyways?
Me, myself, I am against abortion but this is because my own mother "tried" to abort me and magically I survived her three attempts! Whats meant to be will be.
I am not religious but if youve asked for forgiveness then all religions I know of say you are forgiven.
See your doctor and seek help. Most importantly be open with your partner. They can make the transition easier. And when you do get pregnant again, be prepared for everything. You may feel sad, more than most, you may suffer depression and anger. Just be open with the doctor and your partner. I am always around if you need someone to talk to. :)
Good luck hun!
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