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Frustrated...

Posted by on May. 2, 2010 at 12:09 AM
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 So after being in the group for a few months and hearing about some of your struggles to conceive, I feel horrible complaining, but I just have to let it out and see if any of you have any advice for me.

My cycles are pretty irregular, but since having my last son I have had 3 periods (he will be 2 in 3 months). I took soy last month and I did ovulate, but my luteal phase was only 6 days. This cycle my CM started changing to appear more fertile, but I never did ovulate and now it has changed showing no signs. I am on CD 20 something now, and still have not ovulated. I am just frustrated because I feel like I don't even have hope.

I have not been TTC for too long, so I feel like I am being impatient, but since I am temping and using OPK's and know I am not even ovulating, I just feel frustrated that I know I won't be getting pregnant.

Any suggestions?

by on May. 2, 2010 at 12:09 AM
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Tryin2Concieve
by on May. 2, 2010 at 2:08 AM
I'm Sorry For What Ur Going Through. I ope You Have Ur BFP Soon. I've Been TTC Baby #1 For 3 years With No Luck. But Good Louck.
sunnyflower417
by on May. 2, 2010 at 7:55 AM

I thought I Od on CD 28 but in fact I O'd on CD 36 and I am now 10wks pregnant! Keep temping and using your OPK's, you may not have O'd yet.

olivejuicebby
by on May. 2, 2010 at 10:05 AM

Aww hun! *hugs* It doesn't matter how long you have been trying, everyone is allowed to be frustrated!! Its unfortunate that its not easy for us like it might have been other times, or like it is for other people. Just try to take it one day at a time. Keep doing what your doing, temps.. opks.. DON'T GIVE UP! Other than that, i'm not really sure I have any other suggestions. GL!

crissysworld
by on May. 2, 2010 at 11:56 AM

Aww don't feel bad, we all want to be mommies no matter how long we have been having troubles. I would go to the dr and see if you can get some help with ovulating. Good luck.

eeyorerdl
by on May. 2, 2010 at 12:01 PM

Don't give up...It's normal (for me anyway LOL) to get your hopes up from the start, then you start to see what actually goes into ttc.  Some get lucky right off the bad, and others...well...we have to wait a while, but "good things come to those who wait", right?

Frustration is all a part of it and you are entitled to it...DON"T GIVE UP, DON"T GIVE UP!!!  We're working on our 10th month ttc, it's rough, but I haven't given up.  Every cycle I try something new and/or different...

GOOD LUCK to you and BABY DUST!!!!!

busymomwithboys
by on May. 2, 2010 at 12:40 PM

(((HUGS))) I know how your feeling about the whole frustration and knowing there are many others out there that have been trying a long time, i too feel horrible complaining but i also think that many women understand too.  we are on our 5th cycle after loss in dec and this month marks 1 year since we started.... its going to be really hard for me if im not pg by 7-4 my initial due date.  we made the decision that 30 is our cut off and i only have 3 yrs togo so i feel like my clock is ticking away... i have a 9 and 4 yo so i hope not to have too many year between.

GL!!!

candcsmom2008
by on May. 2, 2010 at 1:22 PM

The problem does not seem that you are not O-ing it seems like you are Oing late and luteal Phase is too short..So I found this for you and perhaps it will help. GOOD LUCK MOMMA

Luteal Phase Defect

A luteal phase is the time in a woman’s cycle between ovulation and menstruation. In a pregnant woman, during the luteal phase the fertilized egg will travel from the fallopian tube and into the uterus for implantation. The luteal phase is normally 14 days long and on an average it can be anywhere from 10 to 17 days long. If your luteal phase lasts anything under 10 days it is considered a luteal phase defect. But some doctors believe that if the luteal phase falls under 12 days, then it is a problem. If you conceive and you have a luteal phase defect, you will have an early miscarriage.

A luteal phase defect cannot sustain a pregnancy because the uterine lining in these women begins to break down, bringing on the menstrual bleeding and causing an early miscarriage. There could be more than one reason for the luteal phase defect which can be found out after medical analysis. Going by statistics, the number one reason for a luteal phase defect is low progesterone levels. Your doctor can do a progesterone test on you 7 days past ovulation to determine exactly how deficient you are. Once you know that there are several ways of correcting this defect.

Causes of Luteal Phase Defect

The three main causes of luteal phase defect include poor follicle production, premature demise of the corpus luteum, and failure of the uterine lining to respond to normal levels of progesterone. These problems occur at different times during the cycle but can also be found in conjunction with each other.

  1. Poor follicle production occurs in the first half of the cycle. In this case, the woman may not produce a normal level of FSH, or her ovaries do not respond strongly to the FSH, leading to inadequate follicle development. Because the follicle ultimately becomes the corpus luteum, poor follicle formation leads to poor corpus luteum quality. In turn, a poor corpus luteum will produce inadequate progesterone, causing the uterine lining to be adequately prepared for the implantation of a fertilized embryo. Ultimately progesterone levels may drop early and menses will arrive sooner than expected resulting in luteal phase defect.
  2. Premature failure of the corpus luteum can occur even when the initial quality of the follicle/corpus luteum is adequate. In some women the corpus luteum sometimes does not persist as long as it should. Here, initial progesterone levels at five to seven days past ovulation may be low; even if they are adequate, the levels drop precipitously soon thereafter, again leading to early onset of menses and hence a luteal phase defect.
  3. Failure of the uterine lining to respond can occur even in the presence of adequate follicle development and a corpus luteum that persists for the appropriate length of time. In this condition, the uterine lining does not respond to normal levels of progesterone. Therefore, if an embryo arrives and tries to implant in the uterus, the uterine lining will not be adequately prepared, and the implantation will most likely fail.

Correction of Luteal Phase Defect

Fertility charting is an easy way of detecting whether you have luteal phase defect. If you do, don’t worry because luteal phase defect can be easily corrected. Immediately seek the advice of your physician first before starting any treatments to correct it. In most case, luteal phase defect can be corrected through over-the-counter remedies and/or with prescription drugs.

1. Over the counter remedies for luteal phase defect:
The two main over the counter remedies for luteal phase defect are vitamin B6 and progesterone cream. Vitamin B6 is perfectly safe and can be taken daily in dosages from 50 mg to 200 mg. Taking vitamin B6 every day during the entire month will help to lengthen the luteal phase.

A progesterone cream is usually targeted for menopausal women; however this cream is also useful in lengthening the luteal phase. A cream with natural progesterone works best. Use about 1/4 to 1/2 a teaspoon of progesterone cream spread on the inner arm, inner thigh, neck, and chest - alternating places - twice a day from ovulation to menstruation or until the 10th week of pregnancy.

2. Prescription drugs for luteal phase defect:
The most common prescription drugs for luteal phase defect patients are Clomid or progesterone suppositories. Clomid is taken orally as prescribed by the doctor. The suppositories are taken through the vagina after ovulation has occurred and until either day 14 post ovulation or at some point weeks later during a pregnancy, if pregnancy occurred.

mysonismyjoy
by on May. 2, 2010 at 9:40 PM

Thanks so much ladies. It is so nice to have support.

and thanks so much candcmom2008 for all that great info!

jenniferw10
by on May. 2, 2010 at 9:45 PM

I am thinking I have a LP defect and I just started taking B6 100mg once a day this month. Hoping it helps.

olivejuicebby
by on May. 2, 2010 at 10:40 PM

 Yep, we got your back :) *hugs*

Quoting mysonismyjoy:

Thanks so much ladies. It is so nice to have support.

and thanks so much candcmom2008 for all that great info!

 

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