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TTC at 41?

Posted by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 1:56 PM
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Yes, I am 41 years old and turning 42 this November. I don't know if there is many women out there who are TTC at my age cause lets face it, even the doctors are very wary of older women and pregnancy.

I still have my cycle and they are pretty sporadic in the dates I have them, but every month Mother Nature comes to visit for a couple of days.

I already have 4 wonderful boys, but I really need my little girl. There are way too many testosterone in the house and I figured having a little girl would even things out. But I am a little worried about my age. Not that I am scared to carry the baby...but on whether I will concieve. We have only been trying for almost a month now and usually, first try and I hit the jackpot, but this time round, I am feeling the pressure of TTC and like so many other negative tests, it weighs me down and I get all depressed.

Is there anyone in this age bracket that has actually succeeded in TTC, or is in the same predicament as myself and trying for another baby?

 

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BettyI
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 2:02 PM

Hey. I will be 37 on the 5th of September. My husband and I are TTC our first baby. We have been trying since June. Hopefully when I test around the 9th, I will get my bfp. Good luck to you.

candcsmom2008
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 2:39 PM

I just wanted to say Best of luck momma.

EllenSusan
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 2:43 PM

 Honestly you should just adopt if you are so set on a girl, there are so many babies out there waiting for someone to adopt them! If you don't you will probably end up with another boy! GL!

tatyana1982
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 2:43 PM

 Hi  I am not in your age range. But my aunt had her baby in her mid 40's and she is doing very well. I have seen many women have childern latter in life. Don't let anyone tell you, you are to old to conceive. Go for that baby girl!!! Sending baby dust!!! baby dust  

lbaby3
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 2:46 PM
I will be 40 in 4 months and am just recently pregnant with my 3rd, I went to a fertility specialist though and used clomid to help with egg production. Good luck!
MZZLADYJ
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 2:49 PM
My aunt was 43 when she concieved her 3rd child...if she was able to im sure you can to i mean look at jlo and celine dion...good luck ttc ;) ...
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sanoe08
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 2:51 PM
I just turned 39..ttc #3..I'm on clomid (again) and will do an IUI with a trigger this cycle.. good luck to both of us =)
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Darlah
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 3:17 PM

40 here....first at 38. M/C in april. Shooting for #2 but not agressively. We'll see what happens. Good Luck...You'll do great!

miraclewaits
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 3:30 PM

I am 36 and trying for our first baby.  We adopted two beautiful children in 2003 and 2004 as we just weren't having any luck getting pregnant at all even though there was no reason as to 'why'?

I definitely can support adoption as a way to build your family too as we had a super team of people helping us to adopt and lots of support from our friends and family.  It is a different route, for sure,  but something to be considered as well as there are so many dear little children waiting to be loved and have a 'forever family' to call their own.

But, as for conceiving, your cycles, you mentioned are sporatic, and with our ages, (once you hit age 35 and up) it makes it more difficult anyway, so we have to be more patient and give our bodies time. 

I did get pregnant this past spring but sadly m/c in June.  No reason except that it was most likely a chromosomal anomaly so we were told that we could start 'trying' again as soon as I felt physically and emotionally ready.  We've been trying for 2 months now.  My cycles are regular and I have been charting my BBT each morning and checking my cervical mucus (sorry if TMI) and doing the ovulation predictor kits to see when I am most fertile and can time things accordingly to make each month count.

I know of two women who have conceived and had perfectly healthy babies (of course, I don't know all the particulars about their cycles or their fertility issues, if any) but one woman was almost 40 while the other is just over 40.  She is trying for baby #2 now!

All you can do, is keep trying but if you aren't having any success after a year (or less, if you just can't take it!) get an appt. with your doctor and ask to be referred to a fertlity specialist who can run a slew of tests on both of you, and if need be, recommend other things to try or even some fertility treatments, if necessary.

I have also downloaded the online book, "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" and "Personal Path to Pregnancy" as they have given me alot of insight as to what vitamins we both should be taking as well as foods to eat/avoid and other tips as well that I believe are truly helpful.

Good luck!

miraclewaits
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 3:32 PM

I should clarify my first statement about trying for our first baby.  We have two wonderful children who we believe are truly part of our family but what I meant to say was that we are trying for a biological baby as we have had some difficulty concieving.

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