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ugh...i give up

Posted by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 3:36 AM
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So ive been charting since the mc and know my fertile days ect. dh works 3rd shift ect. ok so he thinks that it will happen with him just wanting to bd on the weekends. Um no not likely. I really think he is not serious about having a baby. It upsets me that he thinks it will happen with just weekends as bding. I really want to cry after hearing that from him. I cant believe he thinks him sleeping more than 10hrs and playing WoW is more important than spending time and being with me. I thought he wanted to have children not be one himself. I dont know wat to do i feel as if i should just give up on having children. I feel as if nothing i do will make him want to bd more than once every 4 days if that if im lucky. We just got married in may. wat happened to the honeymoon phase? Why doesnt he want to bd more? Why doenst he understand what I am going through? Im starting to think he wants me to give up. I feel as if i have no support from him and like he doenst care. 


Im sorry ladies rambling on and on. I just feel as if i should give up.

by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 3:36 AM
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lbrummett
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 3:51 AM

Sometimes I feel that way also.  Mine is so tired from working outside all day in the heat.   He works with me but is not successful very often on a weekday:(  I was thankful that  my o time was around the weekend this month. Most of the time it is my idea to bd and I thought guys wanted that more.  Hope you can work this out and he will understand how important this is.

MrsParsons11
by Gold Member on Aug. 17, 2011 at 3:55 AM

Mine works inside a factory assembling seat slides. Not hard ( i worked there last yr and its easy work lol) i dont know if he is looking at this as important or if he is just being lazy. i have no idea. my fertile days run from the 25-30. just goin off of cm and cp not acual o date. my o date ranges from cd15-17 and i always miss it cuz he is either playing games and cant be bothered or somthing else. I dnt tell him my o date just cuz i dnt want to take away from the fun of it. but im starting to wonder if i should just say "hey you this day this day and this day in bed now " lol idk im glad you get where im coming from :)

jenniferw10
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 4:28 AM
Have you tried talking to him about your feelings? Maybe he wants to enjoy the "honeymoon" phase without kids for a bit. ((hugs)) I hope it works out for you.
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MrsParsons11
by Gold Member on Aug. 17, 2011 at 4:33 AM

There is no honeymoon lol there was for a few days then nothing. like i thought guys were suppose to be the ones wanting to bd alot lol but apparently not him. idk im so confused by him. he says he wants something and shows it then the next its like he doesnt care. im so lost :'(

keli5
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 5:07 AM
Well I know how you feel
My DH says weekends too,if I'm lucky I might get it once during the week,it's crazy he will sit and jerk off to porn and I'm like what a fxxxxing waste.I am highly sexed and thought most men was....oh well I think this is going to take ages and ages for me to get pregnant!!!!
Mind you weekend just gone I had my positive opk so we did the deed Friday Saturday and Sunday

Let's hope I get lucky
I'm hoping things work out for you mrs parsons

Lots of baby dust to us all x
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lbrummett
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 7:29 AM

That's what I like about this site you can find people who understand each other.  I tell mine what days we need to bd.  Yes it isn't as much fun as other more spontaneous times but at least we get it done:)

Kelly_Joy11
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 8:58 AM
Awww... I'm sorry, ladies. Don't get down on yourselves. I'm beginning to think it's a myth that men want it more than us lades do. I definitely have a higher drive than dh! He works a lot and has a bad back, so often, he just physically can't. We just got married in June. We had a long talk about how it was making me feel (which the talk happened outside the bedroom when neither was upset about sex). We both ended up understanding each other more and came to a bit of a compromise. I think a lot of us girls want it more than the men in our lives. I'm realizing it's somewhat normal.
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Devious103102
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 9:01 AM

(((HUGS))) I'm sorry hun. It sounds like you need to have a very long conversation about things.  GL.

MrsParsons11
by Gold Member on Aug. 17, 2011 at 4:44 PM
agreed im thinkin about talkin to him about it. Wknds just dont go long enough. Specially for him. He works thurs night till 630 friday morn then ends up stayin up till 3 then sleeps the rest so tech sat is the only day for me cuz he goes back to wrk sunday night. Def need to sit his little butt down and talk to him about this. I really hope this is it for u!!! Tks for advice ladies!
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