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Just joined! TTC for two years, 4 failed IUI's, 1 ectopic and 1 failed IVF so far....

Posted by on Nov. 9, 2011 at 12:02 PM
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Hello everyone! My name is Kelley and I'm new to the Cafe Mom site. I've been trying to get pregnant since Nov 2009 so it's been two years now. My husband and I tried naturally for the first year per my doctor's recommendation and after a year of no results I decided to seek help from a fertility specialist. I had my first IUI with Clomid in Dec 2010. My second and third IUI in Feb and Mar were with Clomid too from which I got no results. Finally in April 2011 I switched from Clomid to injections with Follistim and I got pregnant! Got a BFP on Easter morning. My husband and I were extremely happy only to find out that the pregnancy was ectopic. I had emergency surgery in mid-May to remove the pregnancy and while I was recovering we decided to try IVF since I had two rounds covered with my health insurance. I was implanted on Aug 20 and got the bad news on Aug 29. My doctor isn't sure what happened but said my chances of getting pregnant are still excellent. I just turned 30 in October so he says I'm still young (althought I feel like my clock is ticking by way too fast). I am starting Lupron on Nov 15 and stimulation on the 25. This is my last round covered by insurance and I'm so very nervous that we will be disappointed again. I know stress can hinder fertility but working at a job I hate and taking all of these mood-altering drugs it's VERY hard not to be stressed! Is there anyone else out there that had the IUI/IVF experiences? How do you de-stress during the whole process? The anticipation is already killing me!

by on Nov. 9, 2011 at 12:02 PM
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Lincolnsmommy
by on Nov. 10, 2011 at 1:33 PM

I'm sorry and send lots of hugs your way! I've had 5 failed IUI's and this month my IUI was cancelled due to no follicles big enough :( They even increased my MEDS so I don't understand why the meds didn't work or what happened with my body???? That's great that your IVF's are covered. I want to do IVF so bad but have zero coverage. We've had a tough year and are thankful that the inlaws said they would help us with the IUI costs and we could pay them back with no interest. :) I had one successful IUI, my very first one with no meds, 5 years ago. He is our one blessing. I don't know how it was so easy then and since then it's been tough and no pregnancy's. I know how you feel. I blame myself for being a rebellious teenager and doing lots of partying, lol.

Your in my thoughts. I hope you get your BFP Soon!!

gzlily
by on Nov. 12, 2011 at 5:00 PM

Have you ever checked out the fertile heart website - www.fertileheart.com  The techniques on there can help with the stress and maybe you will conceive naturally.  There are alot of testimonials like that on there.


take good care

corrinacs
by Ruby Member on Nov. 12, 2011 at 9:45 PM

Hey,

Welcome to the group!  I know everything you are going through is just so darn tough :/.  And working through those medications is no easy task :/.  I had to do it for over 6 months before I got my BFP....and I was one WRECK, let me tell you :/

As far as de-stressing, I asked my boss for "personal days" when I could.  He could just tell I needed it some days, when Iwould get the phone call from my RE with bad news "I wasn't responding to the meds, another failed cycle, etc).  Those days really helped me re-coup.

I also just took time to greive.  I took time to cry my eyes out and feel the pain....just to "get it out".  I also had a great circle of friends here on this board.....I think they were my lifeline, the reason I kept going as long as I did.  I also spent more time with my husband and we actually started talking about things we had never talkeda bout in detail......like indept about our finances.  (unfortunately, my insurance didn't pay for anything infertility.....so we had to pay for it all out of pocket....you are so blessed for that much at least :)).

Hang in there.....we are always here :).  

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