Hi Everyone. My name is Katie. DH and I started ttc back in May 2010. We tried until September 2010, but unfortunately I had to go back on the pill at that point (needed surgery for the very early start of cervical cancer and doctor suggested going back on the pill as a pregnancy at this time would be unsafe). Came back off pill July 2011 and have been trying again since (On month #7).
DH and I are both 23. I am healthy, do not drink or smoke, exercise, eat well. My doctor really thinks there is nothing wrong with me but had urged me to have DH get a sperm analysis. He is a very heavy marijuana smoker and it breaks my heart because he is so addicted, even though he wants a baby he won't give that up. I think between what it's probably doing to his sperm, and by causing him to have 0 sex drive, that is what is taking us so long.
We are the only one of our friends left not pregnant/ with a baby. We own our own home, have good jobs, we are ready for this. I am more than ready for this.
We are on a break right now though, I'm not tracking O at all this month, though I have a roug idea in my head, it would be between cd 15-18. Although with us taking a break doesn't mean much because we don't really have sex anyways!
I joined this forum in the hopes of receiving some support and maybe some other lovely ladies to talk to who are going through something similar because I really have no one to talk to about this.
Welcome to the group!
I'm sorry your DH is having such a hard time giving up marijuana. I would agree that it likely is the reason you are having a hard time. Is your DH willing to do the sperm analysis? Perhaps, assuming it wouldn't be good, he would be willing to quit smoking when faced with the reality of what his sperm is like.
You might also just have him take Fertiliaid for Men. Maybe it would counteract the effects of marijuana even if he is still smoking.
Hi Gwen. Thanks :) We have talked about him getting tested, but he said he doesn't want to confirm that he is the 'problem', and he thinks I would leave him. But I told him if there was something really wrong out of his control of course I would not be upset, but if it was just that he had poor sperm quality from the mairjuana then I would be upset because that is preventable. He said if we don't conceive by the time we're 25 he'll get tested, which is 2 years from now, and we're already on our 7th month. My doc said at our 1 year mark he will refer me to a fertility specialist, but I just think it would be silly for me to have all the testing done before dh, especially because a sperm analysis is so simple. I dunno, I've just left it alone for now, but I'm hoping in time he'll come around.
I did get him Fertilaid, but unfortunately he keeps forgetting to take it. It is kind of hard because you're supposed to take it 3 times a day, but he's only taken a couple vitamins in the past month.
I'd have to disagree with the marijuana, I know they say it effects sperm count but my husband is a HEAVY smoker, has been for the past 10 years or so and we have gotten pregnant 4 times and had 2 healthy boys! It might just be you are looking for a reason that things aren't happening as quickly as you hope, I honestly think if you had more sex you would get pregnant lickity split! :)
Interesting article on the effects of THC on the swimmers.
Quoting casedellic.:I'd have to disagree with the marijuana, I know they say it effects sperm count but my husband is a HEAVY smoker, has been for the past 10 years or so and we have gotten pregnant 4 times and had 2 healthy boys! It might just be you are looking for a reason that things aren't happening as quickly as you hope, I honestly think if you had more sex you would get pregnant lickity split! :)
As the article that was posted said, its not that smoking marijuana makes getting pregnant impossible, but it is going to hurt someone, esp if their fertility is borderline.
My DH smokes a cigar about once a month. Our RE suggested he stop smoking even that much due to the possible affect of it on his sperm. DH commented that he probably hasn't even had a cigar in the last 6 months (1 month is an average over many years, and is probably too high given how little he's smoked over the last few years). But if it will help, he's willing to never smoke a cigar.
Hi Ladies, thanks you so much for all your responses. That is my main concern, is because it has been taking a while that maybe we need every bit of help we can, so maybe all the marijuana smoking is holding us back. Our best friends got pregnant first try and he smokes mj regularly, though not as much as my dh does. But if he has prime sperm, than that wouldn't hold him back enough for it to have an impact, but if my dh's is iffy, I worry all that mj could be just enough to hold us back. And even still, if it really isn't have an impact on his sperm, it definitely has an impact on his sex drive because he's so stoned all the time he doesn't feel like doing anything. So I pretty much agree with what everyone is saying in part :) Just need to figure out a way to get his libido going.
Hello, I am so sorry that your husband doesn't want to stop his smoking habit, but even if Maj does not have an impact in his sperms and sex life, and you got pregnant quickly, how could you trust a stoned father with your newborn and when this baby grows, how can you allow a kid to see his father like that ? I think you should convince your husband to go to a rehab or something before you try to build a family together so you can have a healthier family. I hope you all the best, baby dust to you :)
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