Ok so I have thought long and hard about this and no saying mean or rude things. If you dont agree you can post but dont be mean plz. Anyway I figured if me and DH can not have a baby due to his seman not getting any better and IVF fails I thought about adopting eggs and sperm from people who look close to what we look like. I can not bare the thought nor can DH of using my eggs and someone elses sperm or using his sperm and someone elses eggs. I figure if we go this route it would be about the same as adoption but I would get to experience pregnancy and labor and have our baby. As far as adoption the birth month would have so much time to say no I change my mind I am keeping the baby and the way I am going to do it no one could take him/her from us. . We are going to try IVF as much as we can before doing something like this but the idea popped in my head last night. Just a thought for now.