Would you even consider adoption while TTC?? My Hubby's niece is 17. She had a baby by an illegal alien who was just sent back to Mexico. Well since he got sent back she has been acting....well a little more like a 17 yr old and a lot less like a Momma. Her mom (My SIL) called me today and said she has 4 different men she is messing with, that she keeps leaving the baby with people until 3 or 4 in the morning, and even in some cases is taking her with her to party. So I told her mom that if this young girl was interested I would take her daughter for awhile, or even permanently. I called the young girl too and talked to her a bit, just letting her know if she needed us for anything we were here. I also let her know if she wanted me to ever keep her daughter I would. I let my SIL know that I didn't offer to step on any toes but that I would be more then happy.
So now I am kinda excited, hopeful even. But I am also nervous too. #1 back when Hubby and I were dating I kept his cousin's baby off and on a year (I was 17 at the time) I got extremely attached was considering adoption when his Grandmother decided because I was white I shouldn't be raising him. So they took him away from me. Unfortunately he since has been caught in all kinds of trouble including smoking and drinking and running from the cops (He is 8) So anyway I am scared what if I am allowed to get her for a time and I get attached what if they take her away from me. Also I am wondering if it would be wrong to continue TTC our own even if I do get her. I just can't stand the idea of her not having a Mother to really be there for her and nurture her. My Hubby isn't so big on the idea of us keeping her but I know he would be ok with it if it actually happened. So ladies...what do you think?? Would you consider adoption in this situation?? Would you still TTC?