Hello ladies
my husband and i have been ttc for 3 years on and off ! we where pregnant about 2 years ago but we ended up having a miscarriage but ever since we have been tying But still NO BFP yet ! every time i see that BFN i get so depressed and it like know one understand.. Every Time i try to talk to someone about it they say its just not your time yet and that god will bless me with one when he feel we are ready... i am so tired of hearing this .... it just hurts so bad . because i know i want a baby but not being able to achieve this is killing me . it seems like everyone around me is getting pregnant except me... i try to be happy for them but i find myself being angry and i don't want to be like that i want to be happy for them but how can i . i don't know what to do... i think it might be time to look for outside help .... can any of you ladies give me some reassurance on the subject all comments are welcome.... 
honey i am right there with you.i dont understand why people that dont want or need kids can have them but the ones that pray every night for god to bless them with one have to go though so much . i just keep asking why not me but to answer your question , i did see a doctor like a year ago to find out if i was ovulating and i was so that wasnt the problem. then i seen another doctor after losing my baby at 5 weeks, and she acted like she didnt care all she said was well we know you can get pregnant so just keep trying it will happen dont rush it . i think it was because of my age i was 21... but i think i am going to make a doctors appt. to have my husmand sperm count check if he will go.. i have asked hi to go a couple of times but he refuses to beleive that us not being able to concieve might have some thing to do with his swimmers.... and he said he wouldnt b able to do that in a doctors office because he is a little shy. but maybe i can have the doctor talk to him... also i am going to start charting my temps and make myself another appt to have more test ran so just in case i can be sure nothing is wrong which prevents us from getting a BFP . but thank you soooo much for your support and lots of baby dust coming your way
I have asked my DH to go get his count checked and he's always said no. It was more of a pride thing at the time. Now, he's trying everything he can to figure out why we can't conceive. I also know what it feels like to be surrounded by pregnant women. Or have someone remind me that it's just not my time yet. I'm still praying it'll happened and I will pray for you too!! Baby dust!!
Ugh - we are all in the same crappy boat, huh? FYI on the swimmer check... at least where I live, I had to have my dr order the sperm count through a lab, then I went by the lab and picked up a cup. Then DH and I had our "play time" except his happy thoughts ended up in the cup AT HOME. It was nice and private, I just had to keep the cup warm and rush to lab within 30 minutes. A bit crazy but they were able to tell us his swimmers were sluggish but not the main problem. So now I'm the lab rat and DH only had to temporarily suffer some aiming fun.. LOL!
Quoting samanthab1989:
honey i am right there with you.i dont understand why people that dont want or need kids can have them but the ones that pray every night for god to bless them with one have to go though so much . i just keep asking why not me but to answer your question , i did see a doctor like a year ago to find out if i was ovulating and i was so that wasnt the problem. then i seen another doctor after losing my baby at 5 weeks, and she acted like she didnt care all she said was well we know you can get pregnant so just keep trying it will happen dont rush it . i think it was because of my age i was 21... but i think i am going to make a doctors appt. to have my husmand sperm count check if he will go.. i have asked hi to go a couple of times but he refuses to beleive that us not being able to concieve might have some thing to do with his swimmers.... and he said he wouldnt b able to do that in a doctors office because he is a little shy. but maybe i can have the doctor talk to him... also i am going to start charting my temps and make myself another appt to have more test ran so just in case i can be sure nothing is wrong which prevents us from getting a BFP . but thank you soooo much for your support and lots of baby dust coming your way
I am just glad that I'm not the only one out there who is currently having angry thoughts about pregnant women. I just want to scream everytime one of my friends or family posts something on facebook about a baby, or I see a cute pg woman waddling down the street. I don't mean i would ever do something so awful, really, but I can now understand why some women are desperate enough to harm another woman and steal her unborn child! We have been TTC for three years this June and it totally sucks. ((Hugs)) to you, all of you. I am so glad there is a group out there where we can vent. We need this support when it's so hard to be happy for our friends, family, and distant accquaintances. Keep strong!! ANd LOTS OF BABY DUST!
I'm kinda in the same boat. My hubby and I have been trying for 2 years, and I've never been pregnant...ever. I completely understand how depressing, overwhelming, and upsetting this whole process can be. I feel happy for all my friends & family who are pregnant or had babies, but I get very sad wondering when it'll be my turn. I get tired of all the stupid advice [throw your legs in the air after BD, wear sox, maybe you're not doing it right (what!?) etc etc etc], and it's not helping me feel any better.
Here's how I cope with it. I cry and have a complete emotional meltdown when I need to. Getting it out makes me feel better. Then, I pick myself and keep going.
Here's one positive note for you: you're able to get pregnant, and you know this because you've conceived before. I know that it didn't result in a baby (sorry for your loss :-( ), but you know you can do it again. Have you and DH considered any fertility work-ups to see if there are any underlying issues?
Feel better, hun!
I have been there and am there. just about a week ago i got that BFN after knowing that i Oed. I haven't Oed since i started charting about 5 months ago, and last month was the 1st that i was aware of that i Oed. So me and dh bd our buts off. I went through that long dreadful 2ww. Just to get a BFN. I was hurt crushed and down right mad. Everybody and there mother is getting preggo but me. All my friends that i graduated with 11 years ago has children but me so I know where you are in your journey. We are all there. We just has to stay strong it will be tough but we all WILL GET OUR BFP....
39 yrs old and trying to get pregnant/anyone else my age trying to concieve?
- samanthab1989
on Jun. 3, 2012 at 2:13 AM