I'm in a wedding Saturday and I was asked if I was able to go get our nails and such done today on Sunday (sunday is when she asked) by another bridesmaid . I told her yes. We had planned this one other time (but that day fell through) and it was planned for the evening so everyone who had jobs could go to so I figured that's when it was anyways. But regaurdless I told her yeah I could go.
I called the bride today and was talking to her about something else and then was like oh when are we getting our nails done today? And she said well in a little bit because so-and-so has to go to the airport to get someone. So I got invited to go- never got the final information as to when and where... and it's too late to find a sitter now even if I wanted to go but I'm sure I couldn't go because obviously they didn't schedule for me to go.. The bride was like well I can go with you at a later time. Yeah- with what time?? Your getting married Saturday. Then I get asked help with center pieces and when I could help. NO big deal- I don't care to help. But I get asked to do the work but not to relax and enjoy myself with all of them.
I want to cry right now. My feelings are so hurt :(
People can be rude without even thinking about it. Have you mentioned this to her? Maybe she is just thinking to much about other things, and the things your mentioning just slipped her mind. Getting married is very stressful.
I'd call her up and talk to her, and tell her how your feeling. GL : )
That really blows! I would be upset and hurt too. And I am sure you don't want to cause all kinds of drama either by saying something about it. Who is the bride to you? A good friend, sister, soon to be sil? Maybe once everything is over if she is a good friend of yours talk to her about it and how it made you feel?
My first reaction was maybe this other girl is the one who didn't want you along for whatever reason?
Either way I really sorry this happend and I h8 getting left out of things too and then to top it off you are doing work for the wedding as well! Ppl can be so thoughtless sometimes.
It's not the bride that I think was rude... I think it was her cousin who planned it that was rude. I don't understand how hard it would be to send me a text or fb message and say this is the day and time I made the appointment for.
I know the bride is busy and she would never do anything to intentionally hurt me.. but I wouldn't put it past one of her cousins because she's very jealous of our friendship. She told me at the brides bachelorette party to stop calling her my best friend because until I've been friends with her as long as she has and been through what they went through together then I can earn the right to call her my best friend. So I fully suspect this was intentional. Of course she was drunk when she said that- but I still think she meant it absolutely.
Quoting ageel2012:
People can be rude without even thinking about it. Have you mentioned this to her? Maybe she is just thinking to much about other things, and the things your mentioning just slipped her mind. Getting married is very stressful.
I'd call her up and talk to her, and tell her how your feeling. GL : )
She is a good friend who is marrying my DH's cousin. They live next door and she's at my house practically every day. We are very close. I don't want to bother her with my hurt feelings. She has too much going on and I don't want to cause any drama. If you read my post above that I replied to another poster- you'll see that there was an incident of jealousy. This wasn't the women who had asked me if I was available but they are really close so I could see it being intentional because this was planned around her going to the airport to get get someone. SOrry if this is confusing. haha
Quoting X.Rukia.X:
That really blows! I would be upset and hurt too. And I am sure you don't want to cause all kinds of drama either by saying something about it. Who is the bride to you? A good friend, sister, soon to be sil? Maybe once everything is over if she is a good friend of yours talk to her about it and how it made you feel?
My first reaction was maybe this other girl is the one who didn't want you along for whatever reason?
Either way I really sorry this happend and I h8 getting left out of things too and then to top it off you are doing work for the wedding as well! Ppl can be so thoughtless sometimes.
ouch :( what a b*tch!!!! HUGS! I am sorry you are feeling hurt. This is exactly why I don't have many girlfriends IRL. I am always willing to drop everything for a friend but never get it back in return.
Quoting amy31308:It's not the bride that I think was rude... I think it was her cousin who planned it that was rude. I don't understand how hard it would be to send me a text or fb message and say this is the day and time I made the appointment for.
I know the bride is busy and she would never do anything to intentionally hurt me.. but I wouldn't put it past one of her cousins because she's very jealous of our friendship. She told me at the brides bachelorette party to stop calling her my best friend because until I've been friends with her as long as she has and been through what they went through together then I can earn the right to call her my best friend. So I fully suspect this was intentional. Of course she was drunk when she said that- but I still think she meant it absolutely.
Quoting ageel2012:
People can be rude without even thinking about it. Have you mentioned this to her? Maybe she is just thinking to much about other things, and the things your mentioning just slipped her mind. Getting married is very stressful.
I'd call her up and talk to her, and tell her how your feeling. GL : )
I am so sorry! You know, I am an event planner for a living so I have to deal with brides all the time. Let me just say that a wedding is one of a girls most important days of their lives. There is so much stress involved and in so many different areas. Don't take it to heart. The bride is up to her neck in finishing touches and details of the wedding and probably is not thinking it through all the way. That is usually why the Maid of Honor coordinates all the small details and such. I am sorry that this is happening to you but she obviously loves you, you are in her wedding party :)
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- amy31308
on Jun. 28, 2012 at 10:51 AM