Need to vent

[Rachelz123]

So I'm just feeling really bummed right now. I am TTC for #2. I have an 18month old DD which it took me 3 years to get pregnant with. I am on my second cycle after having my mirena removed and I just started charting and temping. It doesn't look like I ovulated yet and I'm on CD17. I don't think I'm going to ovulate this month. I just really hope it doesn't take as long as it did with DD to get pregnant again. I'm 33 years old and I'm feeling like my time is running out.

And DH has been making me feel like BD is a chore cause I tell him when we have to do it. I know there really isn't any spontaneity but I really want to make sure our chances are good. I'm just so scared it will take me forever again.

Sorry I just really needed to vent a little. I have a tendency to be a glass half empty kind of person and I let my mind go way too far in the negative direction.

[eesmommy]

Just tell him you have to bd every other day and if he initiates on the in between days you will take car of him when af arrives;) lol.
We just bd everyother day all month, takes the pressure off:)

[Rachelz123]

That sounds like a better idea. I hate that there is so much stress involved with TTC. Why can't it be as easy as our health teachers told us it would be lol.

Quoting eesmommy:

Just tell him you have to bd every other day and if he initiates on the in between days you will take car of him when af arrives;) lol.

We just bd everyother day all month, takes the pressure off:)

[bebe42081]

HUGS! Sometimes it really does feel like a job! I am lucky to have a DF who thrives under pressure lol, he makes sure to know when it's O time & that he's doing his job!!

[amy31308]

When my husband last cycle acted like he didn't want to I told him that is fine it's up to him but if he wants a baby then he needs to- it just depends how bad he wants one. Did the Rick a few times lol

[amy31308]

Trick*

[eesmommy]

If you look at it as something fun it takes the work out of it. We have a date night each week, its a night I put the kids to bed a few minutes early with a book and thier leapster or ds, then I throw together a tray of finger foods or snackies things like grapes cheese and wine with slices of buttered bread, or seafood salad on gourmet crackers.... lite and breezy, we rent a movie or pop in an old favorite, snuggle on the couch and enjoy each other, that leads to other things of course;) as a general rule we manage everyother day, some days we wake up early some days we go to bed late. Trying new things or retrying old things helps too, make it funa nd enjoyable and its not work and both parties can perform at peak.

Quoting Rachelz123:

That sounds like a better idea. I hate that there is so much stress involved with TTC. Why can't it be as easy as our health teachers told us it would be lol.

Quoting eesmommy:

Just tell him you have to bd every other day and if he initiates on the in between days you will take car of him when af arrives;) lol.


We just bd everyother day all month, takes the pressure off:)

[steph.sublette]

aWW! hun! Sounds to me like you just need to talk to some one right? Maybe you can tell your hubby what you just told us, opening the lines of communication can often ease the stress that is building inside of you. If you are feeling stress, he most likely is feeling it too. You guys can even have a HANDS FREE week too... its amazing how not touching each other for a week can make you guys hot for each other all over again  : ) Also, practice praise, saying something you love about each other every time you say 'I love you' .. tack on something you love about him.. like 'I love you because you are a strong man' ..

: ) Hugs, feel free to message me if you wanna chat more in depth!

[Rachelz123]

Thank you so much ladies. It really helps to get things off of my chest and know that there are awesome women like you all who will be here to listen!