just need advice mentally...

[Always_April]

so i finally came to the fact that im 24 weeks and nothing gonna happen for me to lose the baby. however coming to the realization of it now im feeling guilty. I have an 11 yr old dd and for the past 11 yrs its been all bout her and i ( her father has never been in the picture) everything was mommy and ari time. I think she knows obviously that im pregnant and i kbow she wants a sibling but feel soo guilty it wont be just us anymore. My dh is great with her and treats her like his own but i dont want her to feel upset that her brother will have a father and she really doesnt. Iv got so much goin on prepareing for baby with work and doc appts that i dont want her to feel neglected even tho we do go and do stuff together just not as much. Like i said this is more mental just tryin to get it off my chest type of thing thanx

[WishingAway]

Just continue to let her know that shes important thats all she needs!! <3 Good luck!!

[Always_April]

thanks :) ya shes not like other 11 yr olds shes still very much a mamas girl and thats the way i like it

Quoting WishingAway:

Just continue to let her know that shes important thats all she needs!! <3 Good luck!!

[Nickie76]

Its all about how YOU deal w/ it. If you show outwardly that you'll feel bad she'll sense it, and she'll feel bad if your strong and positive she'll bite off of that. I have 5 kids and twins coming any day and not one of kids feel neglected. If you say she wants a sibling foster that and allow her 2 be involved. :-) Good luck!

[TTC2Long]

I agree. And talk a lot about how excited you are that she's going to be a big sister and what an amazing sister she is going to be. Talk about how your and dh's love for her is going to grow so even more seeing her as a big sis. Stuff like that. And ask her how she feels about it. Don't say, "I'm afraid you feel this way," just ask an open-ended question and see what she says.

Quoting Nickie76:

Its all about how YOU deal w/ it. If you show outwardly that you'll feel bad she'll sense it, and she'll feel bad if your strong and positive she'll bite off of that. I have 5 kids and twins coming any day and not one of kids feel neglected. If you say she wants a sibling foster that and allow her 2 be involved. :-) Good luck!

[eesmommy]

^^^^ All of the above. and congrats on your super duper sticky baby:)

[mandasue0678]

My 8 year old DD is doing great with my 1yr old DD from my 2nd marriage. we've included her in most everything involving her baby sister. she helps me a lot with the baby bc she wants to not bc we have ever asked her too. she has only had one moment of jealousy this entire year but that is over for now. I love having my girls so far apart bc I feel like I can have one on one time with each one a lot easier.

[rainbowbabe220]

Take her along for apts and stuff let her help out make her feel a part of it all also have dh explain to her that he loves her and she is and will always be his dd at heart...