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TTC when DH has ED-UPDATE

Posted by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:08 PM
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I'm 32 and DH is 38. We've been TTC for 10 months with no luck. Well, I take that back- no good luck. I've been on 3 rounds of Provera (2 to kicks tart AF and once to try to stop the never ended flow). Currently on CD 12. Took first round of Clomid CD 5-9. Tracking with OPK, all negative so far. My biggest worry is that we'll never see that BFP due to DH's ED.  The ED has been a problem since we dated and hasn't improved in the 2yrs we've been married. DH started taking Cialis over the weekend, and it's really not working. He's still not able to get it up and keep it up. We tried to BD what seems like 6-8 times today and DH ended up in tears! He's frustrated. I'm frustrated (and trying not to show him that) and feeling very unattractive. DH tells me how beautiful and sexy he thinks I am; but it doesn't help when I'm laying there naked and he's as flaccid as he would be looking at a bar of soap.  I'm starting to worry that he'll never be able to get/ keep it up so we can finish BDing.  I'm starting to worry that we'll have to try other methods to conceive because of his ED.  Has anyone else had this problem? What was the outcome? We want to be parents soooooo bad! Any advise is greatly appreciated!!!


UPDATE- Well, my DH snapped out of it and things went well! He finally admitted he was freaking out a bit.  So, we just made up our minds to keep it fun and not worry about it.  That totally worked! We got our smiley face on CD 19.  Now all we have to do is wait to see if we'll get our BFP.  Baby dust to all! 

by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:08 PM
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mama2gg
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:36 PM

 Viagra

charm2mama
by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 11:11 PM

I'm so sorry hun. I don't know anything about ED, but trying 6-8 times a day seems like it would be hard for any man to keep it up. I'm not certain, but I think there is a way to extract semen from the testicles to use for insemination. I don't know how your DH would feel about that. Does the ED only happen during BD? Can he masterbate? If so, I'm wondering if you can do home insemination. The only other thing I can think of is couple's therapy...but I guess that would only work if his ED is psychological. If it is physiological, then as mama2gg suggests, viagra and or trip to the urologist?

jenniferw10
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 11:13 PM
Has he seen a doctor about trying something other than Cialis?
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mandybimama
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 11:31 PM

Ok so I dated a guy for a while who had this problem and you could try a vacuum constriction device (aka penis pump) and see if that helps at all. I know that with my one ex it worked to get him and keep him hard enough to have sex. You might want to use soft cups though as some of the semen gets a bit uh trapped behind the rubber band so those might be a good option to help with conception. GL! 

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