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Fostering

Posted by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:25 AM
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My fiance and I are thinking about fostering children, until we can have some of our own. I thought he brought up fostering because he didnt want to try anymore but, thankfully, that was NOT the case at all. He promises to keep trying! We do need the aid of a fertility specialist and cannot afford one. He told me that he knows how heartbroken I am and this way, I get to start being the mom I have always wanted to be. To any of you ladies that have looked into fostering or know anyone that has done it, do you have any tips or advice? All responses will be appreciated. Thanks.

Just to let you all know, this will be my first child.

Kimberlysmile mini

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:25 AM
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mama91605
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:54 AM
My mom has done foster care for 15 yrs. It has its ups and downs for sure. I provide daycare for most of her foster kids and get way more attached than I should. I think fostering is wonderful, however be prepared for the day the kids go home. It can be so heart breaking. My mom had a baby from 3mns to over 2yrs when they then gave the baby to her dad. It was devastating to us because my family had wanted to adopt her and the mom had no chance at getting her back and out of no where dad came and did what he needed and got her back. On the positive side of it I am sitting here watching my 4yr old baby sister play with my kids. My mom has adopted 3 girls (all siblings) and I couldnt imagine life with my baby sisters. Good luck.
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waitingmommy12
by Eva on Dec. 18, 2012 at 10:36 AM
I'm a foster mommy! I'd say it's definitely something you should talk about and think hard on. It took dh and I a year before we officially became certified. We have welcomed 4 kids into our home so far and all have come and gone its a rough thing to do. I fostered my cousin from 2months until she was about 3, her brother too after he was born, then they went back to their abusive alcholic mother just before we were going to adopt them. It's next to impossible not to fall in love with them and it tears you apart when they leave, but I'll do it over and over again. Each child comes and has so much to offer, so much love, and they will change your life forever. You get to be that rock their stability. You take them in and show them the love they may have never known. I will carry every one of them in my heart forever, they showed me that the smallest things in life are often the biggest and make the biggest difference. My one foster daughter said to me one night "mommy your an angel, cause God gave you to me so you'll love me forever" and its true foster parents are like angels you step into their world often filled with hate and betrayal and you give them compassion and love. These kids may move on but someday they will know that somebody took care of them once and that they are loved, that person is you. I wish you and your husband the best and I'll be praying for you. Just remember this journey has its challenges and times of sorrow but also its rewards and happiness.
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