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is there any hope?

Posted by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:07 AM
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my soon to be husband had a vasectomy 9 months ago. i didnt want it but i went along with it because he wanted it. He never went and had his count done so i just pray everyday that it didnt take. i want us to have a baby so bad, i know my chances are slim and he is totally against having it reversed. i have read alot of storyies about people getting pregnant after the vasectomy. is there anything i can do to help my baby fever or up the chances of me getting pregnant?


by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:07 AM
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Mommy4Clara
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:33 AM
I have a friend whose hubby got his vasectomy reversed, and they were pregnant within a few months. If your hubby is against reversing, ask why. Is he against having children or just the procedure? If you really want a baby, why won't he let you have one?
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wishingforabump
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 11:38 AM

everytime i bring up him reversing his vasectomy he gets mad,  he is against it. he really dont want a baby, but he says if for some reason it happens then its ment to be. im obsessed with wanting it to happen. i actually get depressed over the fact it will most likely never happen. he has two kids in from two prior relationships and i have two from a prior relationship. i just feel if we could have one together we would have that bond. i wish there was a way i could just make it happen but im losing hope   :(

3kidz123
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:14 PM

yes, sleep with a guy who didn't have a vasectomy :)

Sorry that's all I have....just not sure what to say other than that...

GL :0

mama2gg
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:19 PM
I wouldn't be ttc if my husband didn't want a child
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mama2gg
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:20 PM
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Really... is this even an option for a women?

Quoting 3kidz123:

yes, sleep with a guy who didn't have a vasectomy :)

Sorry that's all I have....just not sure what to say other than that...

GL :0

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3kidz123
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:21 PM
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why is that not an option? it was sarcastic but technically she could...or even just a sperm doner :)

Quoting mama2gg:

Really... is this even an option for a women?

Quoting 3kidz123:

yes, sleep with a guy who didn't have a vasectomy :)

Sorry that's all I have....just not sure what to say other than that...

GL :0


mama2gg
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:23 PM
To me sleeping with a random other man, when my husband doesn't want a baby at all makes you a whore PERSONALLY that is

And to go behind my dh back and use a sperm donor are you kidding me i would HOPE he would leave my ass if i was that disrespectful
Quoting 3kidz123:

why is that not an option? it was sarcastic but technically she could...or even just a sperm doner :)

Quoting mama2gg:

Really... is this even an option for a women?





Quoting 3kidz123:

yes, sleep with a guy who didn't have a vasectomy :)

Sorry that's all I have....just not sure what to say other than that...

GL :0


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alteschulemom
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:23 PM
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If he truly doesn't want to have another baby then doing some thing to make that happen isn't a good idea.  I think your best option is to either find another partner, because trying to ignore your heart isn't a good idea, or consider adoption.  That's all you can do.

Unless you are poly and you can sleep with someone else I don't reccomend that.  It's got Maury written all over it.

3kidz123
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:30 PM

um did I read this post wrong? You are in a ttc group right? He doesn't want a baby right? Hmmmm

enough said...

Quoting mama2gg:

To me sleeping with a random other man, when my husband doesn't want a baby at all makes you a whore PERSONALLY that is

And to go behind my dh back and use a sperm donor are you kidding me i would HOPE he would leave my ass if i was that disrespectful
Quoting 3kidz123:

why is that not an option? it was sarcastic but technically she could...or even just a sperm doner :)

Quoting mama2gg:

Really... is this even an option for a women?





Quoting 3kidz123:

yes, sleep with a guy who didn't have a vasectomy :)

Sorry that's all I have....just not sure what to say other than that...

GL :0



3kidz123
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:33 PM

oh and I was just kidding about sleeping with someone else and the sperm doner thing I never said to go behind his back. I meant like talk to him and then you guys do it together......by the way what are you even doing in this group???

Quoting mama2gg:

To me sleeping with a random other man, when my husband doesn't want a baby at all makes you a whore PERSONALLY that is

And to go behind my dh back and use a sperm donor are you kidding me i would HOPE he would leave my ass if i was that disrespectful
Quoting 3kidz123:

why is that not an option? it was sarcastic but technically she could...or even just a sperm doner :)

Quoting mama2gg:

Really... is this even an option for a women?





Quoting 3kidz123:

yes, sleep with a guy who didn't have a vasectomy :)

Sorry that's all I have....just not sure what to say other than that...

GL :0



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