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TTC - Trying to Conceive TTC - Trying to Conceive

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Posted by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 9:52 AM
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When do I go get help? I'm 24 and my boy friend is 35 and we have been trying for about 6 months. I am considering natural fertility pills but at what point is it time to go to a doctor and have my fertility tested. The first fertility pill I'm considering is call Fertiliaid but if anyone has any feedback on that it would def be taken under concideration. Also I know nothing about temping and all this testing everyone keeps talking about. I had no idea getting pregnant could be so much work.
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AmandaN1
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 10:30 AM

After a year of unsuccessful trying.  

Never taken fertilaid.  
Your best best would to be starting to track your cycles because it could be as simple as timing.  

Btw most healthy couples it can take 6 months to a year to get pregnant. So don't stress yet!!  I say track your cycle and figure out when you ovulate so you can plan BD'ing accordingly. GL! 

bookworm97
by Kelly on Feb. 4, 2013 at 11:16 AM

 For most docs, you have to be TTC for at least a year before they will do any testing.

I've never taken Fertilaid, but some woman on here have said it helped them.

And like AmandaN1 said, a lot of healthy couples can take 6-12 months to conceive....that's why most docs won't check fertility labs until at least 12 months.

GL to you! Oh, and welcome!!! :)

bookworm97
by Kelly on Feb. 4, 2013 at 11:17 AM

 One more thing....for temping, get yourself a free account on fertilityfriend.com. It's a really good TTC charting tool and has some good info. Also, vaginally temp at the same time every morning. Hope some of this helps you!

icn_mom
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:41 PM

I know many places wont give actual fertility help unless you have been activly trying for a year or more.. are you due for a pap smear any time soon? you can always bring it up at your anual ob visit! I tried soy iso flavones for my natural remedy, and I will  never do it again. I skipped an entire  month of ovulation and menstral cycle, but everyone is different! try bbt charting and opks :)

ShellBeth
by Michelle on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:42 PM

Most doctors wont see you about infertility until you have been actively trying for a year. Do you know that you are ovulating? Are you charting? Using OPKs?

coleyandtrevor
by Robin on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:54 PM
Exactly what the others said. Not until you have been actively trying for at least a year.
Leilo88
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:22 PM
I don't know that I'm ovulating, haven't charted, and don't know what opk's means. I really didn't realize how much work just went into getting pregnant.


Quoting ShellBeth:

Most doctors wont see you about infertility until you have been actively trying for a year. Do you know that you are ovulating? Are you charting? Using OPKs?


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ShellBeth
by Michelle on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:29 PM

For alot of people it is as simple as just stopping birth control. For others it takes a little work. For my first son we tried for 4 months (just having sex all the time and no birth control). I charted and used Ovulation Prediction Kits for 1 full cycle and got pregnant. So the little things can help.

If you go to fertilityfriend.com you can sign up for a free account. You can keep a calendar. The first day you bleed is cycle day 1. You can temp - first thing in the morning before you go pee or talk or anything take your temperature and you can enter you temp in your chart. Right after you ovulate your temperature spikes. The computer program will tell you IF you ovulated by just entering in your temperatures and other data. 

The alternative (or to be used together) is OPKs (ovulation prediction kits). You pee on a stick a few times a day starting around cycle day 10 and when you have a positive test that means you should be ovulating within 18-36 hours. Then you have sex to make sure you are timing the sex correctly. A positive is when the test line is the same color or darker than the control line (not if there are 2 lines in general like a pregnancy test). You can buy the kits anywhere. My last one was from target - $10 for 20 strips. 20 strips last me 10 days so i can use them twice a day from CD 10-20 and since i have normal cycles that does it for me.


Quoting Leilo88:

I don't know that I'm ovulating, haven't charted, and don't know what opk's means. I really didn't realize how much work just went into getting pregnant.


Quoting ShellBeth:

Most doctors wont see you about infertility until you have been actively trying for a year. Do you know that you are ovulating? Are you charting? Using OPKs?




SAHM927
by Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 10:56 PM


This was very informative ;) thank you, I am rather new to this group as well.

Quoting ShellBeth:

For alot of people it is as simple as just stopping birth control. For others it takes a little work. For my first son we tried for 4 months (just having sex all the time and no birth control). I charted and used Ovulation Prediction Kits for 1 full cycle and got pregnant. So the little things can help.

If you go to fertilityfriend.com you can sign up for a free account. You can keep a calendar. The first day you bleed is cycle day 1. You can temp - first thing in the morning before you go pee or talk or anything take your temperature and you can enter you temp in your chart. Right after you ovulate your temperature spikes. The computer program will tell you IF you ovulated by just entering in your temperatures and other data. 

The alternative (or to be used together) is OPKs (ovulation prediction kits). You pee on a stick a few times a day starting around cycle day 10 and when you have a positive test that means you should be ovulating within 18-36 hours. Then you have sex to make sure you are timing the sex correctly. A positive is when the test line is the same color or darker than the control line (not if there are 2 lines in general like a pregnancy test). You can buy the kits anywhere. My last one was from target - $10 for 20 strips. 20 strips last me 10 days so i can use them twice a day from CD 10-20 and since i have normal cycles that does it for me.


Quoting Leilo88:

I don't know that I'm ovulating, haven't charted, and don't know what opk's means. I really didn't realize how much work just went into getting pregnant.


Quoting ShellBeth:

Most doctors wont see you about infertility until you have been actively trying for a year. Do you know that you are ovulating? Are you charting? Using OPKs?






ms83501
by Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 12:26 AM

Added to what the other ladies have said...DO NOT take Fertilaid. it is not FDA tested or approved. it can actually hurt you if you have undiagnosed infertility. My regular OBGYN suggested I take it when I was about your age. all the vitmens and herbs in it masked the real problem. if you question your fertility (or his) speak with your doc. typically they wait until you have been actively trying for at least 1 year. if it still doesn't happen for you after that year, look into a fertility specialist. They are well worth the money. after 5 years ttc, we are FINALLY on the road with IVF

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