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Disappointed With My Health Clinic

Posted by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:05 PM
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I've been seeing a doctor about my fertility issues since October. Since then, my husband's sperm has been checked (came back "above average"), I got a blood test done to rule out endometriosis, an ultra sound to look at my uterus, and an HSG to confirm that my tubes are not blocked (I'm the one that asked for the HSG to be done). All my tests have come back normal, so my infertility problems are still unknown.

I am currently on my third cycle of Clomid. They told me they only allow 4 to 6 cycles on it, which I know is normal because I've read about it, but I only have a couple cycles left. I have not been monitored with ANY of the cycles I have been on Clomid. They send me home with the pills, and then I come back when my period starts, so they can check for any cysts. From what I've read online, most women on Clomid are monitored during their cycle. My last cycle, I still didn't get a positive OPK until day 17, and my doctor even said that this is a little later than they wanted.

This cycle, I asked if we could do the IUI. I figured I would be better monitored, and that maybe they would trigger the ovulation for me. Instead, they just sent me home with a piece of paper that said to call the day I get a positive OPK, to schedule my insemination.

Now, I'm paranoid as hell that I am going to miss it, or that I won't be able to get an appointment the day that I need to. They didn't even do a blood test, to check my egg quality before they gave me permission to do the IUI, which I thought was standard, especially since my infertility cause is still unknown.

I'm officially frustrated. I feel like I am wasting both my time and money. Do I have a right to feel this way, or am I just being impatient?
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Libby22
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:14 PM

 You have every right to feel that way. I think you should switch to a new specialist. This is an arduous and frustrating process already, but if you can get someone that listens to you it might be better.

KJ786
by Silver Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:16 PM
Another thing that bothers me is that I haven't even seen my fertility doctor since January, since before they started me on Clomid. Every time I've gone in for a Clomid check, they've given me a new doctor because apparently, mine is "busy."


Quoting Libby22:

 You have every right to feel that way. I think you should switch to a new specialist. This is an arduous and frustrating process already, but if you can get someone that listens to you it might be better.


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toopicky429
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:16 PM
I would be frustrated too. My RE won't do Clomid without monitoring your cycle. Their office does an US on CD 2 or 3, Clomid CD 3-7, and an US on CD 12 or 13. They trigger in the office on day 12 or 13, and IUI the following day of you go that route. Is there another doctor you could go to?
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GwenMB
by Gwen on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:19 PM

They didn't check your egg quality as part of the initial testing?  They should have, if they didn't, since it could point to the cause of your infertility.

Yes, I'd be annoyed.  Not all OBs monitor Clomid cycles that closely, but they shouldn't be that casual about the IUI.  

Do you even know for sure if you are ovulating?  Are they checking your progesterone?  I think they should be doing that at a minimum (that's the extent of the monitoring my OB does - but he'd do more if I wasn't ovulating with Clomid).

Libby22
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:20 PM
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 You need a new RE. They are not treating you right!

The day after my nurse called with my BFN blood test my RE called (on a SATURDAY) to check in with me. He talked with me for like 15 minutes, answered all my questions, and repeated how optimistic he was for my case. It makes me feel 110% better that I have a doctor who genuinely cares and wants a positive outcome.

Quoting KJ786:

Another thing that bothers me is that I haven't even seen my fertility doctor since January, since before they started me on Clomid. Every time I've gone in for a Clomid check, they've given me a new doctor because apparently, mine is "busy."


Quoting Libby22:

 You have every right to feel that way. I think you should switch to a new specialist. This is an arduous and frustrating process already, but if you can get someone that listens to you it might be better.


 

KJ786
by Silver Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:30 PM
Yeah, that's what I thought they were supposed to do. I called them last cycle, worried because it was day 16, and I hadn't ovulated yet, and I asked if I could be seen by someone, to make sure everything was developing as it should, but they told me there was nothing that could be done this cycle, and when I asked about the trigger shot, they refused me, and said it wouldn't make me ovulate, which I didn't understand. Isn't that the point of the trigger shot, or am I just dumb? They told me that if I didn't ovulate by day 21, I would have to wait until the next cycle and try again. I cried when I got off the phone with them because I was so frustrated, and felt like it was a wasted cycle.

I think there is one other place in the area that I am going to check out!

Quoting toopicky429:

I would be frustrated too. My RE won't do Clomid without monitoring your cycle. Their office does an US on CD 2 or 3, Clomid CD 3-7, and an US on CD 12 or 13. They trigger in the office on day 12 or 13, and IUI the following day of you go that route. Is there another doctor you could go to?


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KJ786
by Silver Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:34 PM
Exactly! Especially since all my other tests have come back normal so far, the egg quality is what is making me wonder now, and it bugs me I haven't been checked.

They didn't even explain the IUI process to me. They just told me I could do it, handed me a one page paper about the cost and schedule, and sent me on my way.

I have never had my progesterone checked, so no, I don't know if I'm ovulating. I have always had horrible luck with OPK tests, and even told them that. This last cycle on Clomid was the FIRST time I saw a positive OPK, and even though they say it was later than they wanted, they're still not doing anything about it. I don't understand.


Quoting GwenMB:

They didn't check your egg quality as part of the initial testing?  They should have, if they didn't, since it could point to the cause of your infertility.

Yes, I'd be annoyed.  Not all OBs monitor Clomid cycles that closely, but they shouldn't be that casual about the IUI.  

Do you even know for sure if you are ovulating?  Are they checking your progesterone?  I think they should be doing that at a minimum (that's the extent of the monitoring my OB does - but he'd do more if I wasn't ovulating with Clomid).


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KJ786
by Silver Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:35 PM
Wow, you are lucky! Thanks so much for your input! I'm going to call another clinic today...


Quoting Libby22:

 You need a new RE. They are not treating you right!


The day after my nurse called with my BFN blood test my RE called (on a SATURDAY) to check in with me. He talked with me for like 15 minutes, answered all my questions, and repeated how optimistic he was for my case. It makes me feel 110% better that I have a doctor who genuinely cares and wants a positive outcome.


Quoting KJ786:

Another thing that bothers me is that I haven't even seen my fertility doctor since January, since before they started me on Clomid. Every time I've gone in for a Clomid check, they've given me a new doctor because apparently, mine is "busy."



Quoting Libby22:


 You have every right to feel that way. I think you should switch to a new specialist. This is an arduous and frustrating process already, but if you can get someone that listens to you it might be better.



 


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GwenMB
by Gwen on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:42 PM

Definitely sounds like its time to get a new clinic!  Good luck!

Quoting KJ786:

Exactly! Especially since all my other tests have come back normal so far, the egg quality is what is making me wonder now, and it bugs me I haven't been checked.

They didn't even explain the IUI process to me. They just told me I could do it, handed me a one page paper about the cost and schedule, and sent me on my way.

I have never had my progesterone checked, so no, I don't know if I'm ovulating. I have always had horrible luck with OPK tests, and even told them that. This last cycle on Clomid was the FIRST time I saw a positive OPK, and even though they say it was later than they wanted, they're still not doing anything about it. I don't understand.


Quoting GwenMB:

They didn't check your egg quality as part of the initial testing?  They should have, if they didn't, since it could point to the cause of your infertility.

Yes, I'd be annoyed.  Not all OBs monitor Clomid cycles that closely, but they shouldn't be that casual about the IUI.  

Do you even know for sure if you are ovulating?  Are they checking your progesterone?  I think they should be doing that at a minimum (that's the extent of the monitoring my OB does - but he'd do more if I wasn't ovulating with Clomid).



KJ786
by Silver Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 4:19 PM
I just called another clinic and got another consultation appointment at a different place. I can't get in until next month, but I feel more confident with this place, they agreed with me that it is weird that I haven't been monitored, especially since I am only 26 years old, and should definitely be pregnant by now.

So, I am going to go through with my first clinic for this next month, before I can get into the new one. More and more waiting, I feel like that's all I do, but I hope it'll be worth it.


Quoting GwenMB:

Definitely sounds like its time to get a new clinic!  Good luck!

Quoting KJ786:

Exactly! Especially since all my other tests have come back normal so far, the egg quality is what is making me wonder now, and it bugs me I haven't been checked.



They didn't even explain the IUI process to me. They just told me I could do it, handed me a one page paper about the cost and schedule, and sent me on my way.



I have never had my progesterone checked, so no, I don't know if I'm ovulating. I have always had horrible luck with OPK tests, and even told them that. This last cycle on Clomid was the FIRST time I saw a positive OPK, and even though they say it was later than they wanted, they're still not doing anything about it. I don't understand.





Quoting GwenMB:

They didn't check your egg quality as part of the initial testing?  They should have, if they didn't, since it could point to the cause of your infertility.

Yes, I'd be annoyed.  Not all OBs monitor Clomid cycles that closely, but they shouldn't be that casual about the IUI.  

Do you even know for sure if you are ovulating?  Are they checking your progesterone?  I think they should be doing that at a minimum (that's the extent of the monitoring my OB does - but he'd do more if I wasn't ovulating with Clomid).





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