Would you use a donor egg? Update 5/12 Thx for all your replies.:)
As many of you know I am facing the choice of IVF.
The success rate for me using IVF and my own eggs is 28%.
50% with a frozen cycle and these numbers go down each month I age.
If I used donor eggs it would be a whooping success rate of 96%!!!
DH and I have discussed the donor egg option only briefly both of agreeing that we want the baby to be both of us.
The more I think about it tho the more I wonder if we should reconsider.
We really only can afford one shot at IVF. Well, two... 1 fresh cycle and one frozen cycle.
The chances of MC and trisomy are much higher using my eggs.
I can't help but think if we only have this one shot we should just be ok that the baby would only have DHs DNA.
If your odds were like mine. What would you do?
I know we have to make up our own minds. I'm just curious.
5/12 Thank you so much for all your wonderful replies. I have read them all and am so grateful for all the advice given.
As of today we haven't made a decision. I mentioned to DH that I made this thread and his reply was "you need to stay off that darn internet." LOL (He said this light heatedly.) We only talked briefly but decided that we would talk more about it when needed. Still hoping for a natural BFP (AF is due today tho) or a BFP next cycle when we do another IUI.
There have been some great points made here and some great advise and support. I appriciate it more than I can express. Thank you.