Pregnant again

[Mommy2FallonRae]

Hi everyone I don't mean to bother anyone but i'm just beside myself. I have a 10 month old and i'm 10 weeks preggo... I'm 21 and both my kids dad lives in nc and doesn't want me to keep the baby... And well i have to admit i'm scared to death of haveing literally 2 babies but i'm kind of excited. now if i could find my own places and getout of my moms and get a fultime job i'll be good.  any suggestions?

[mom2wy]

Hun there are alot of places that can help you. I hope that you would not consider having the preg ended. Dont do it cause he wants you to cause you will regret it later. If it does come to that you can do adoption. But there are alot of places that could help you. I know that you can get help going to school and that way you can get a descent job that pays well. You can also go to school online and they have alot of things you can take now. Wishing you loads of luck. IF you need anyone to talk with or just a shoulder to cry on I am here. GL and God Bless.  Remember God has given you these babies for a reason. Janet

[eirejade]

I know this seems like a tough time...and it is, but you will get through this.  Try applying to a community college (there usually isn't an application fee, and the tuition is cheaper) that way, you'll have some extended education under your belt.  You can take courses whenever you want (some classes may even be online) and if you're having trouble finding a babysitter, some colleges actually have a daycare center at a discount for students.  You could work at the college, too, and maybe find another job off campus.  I know you want to live on your own, but save up enough to have a couple months covered in bills before moving out and make sure you can make financially and timewise (having your baby taken care of regularly while you're not home) when on your own.  When you go to the college, talk to a counselor and discuss with them the majors offered and the total schooling involved before it can pay.  For example, a certificate (2 years) for nursing can get you a job at a hopsital where they can help you finish to become a RN or whatever is better paying.  Or having a two-year child development degree can open up jobs in daycares and schools.  You might want to apply for a job to a pharmacy; they can train you to become a pharmacy tech (higher pay) as you work there.  I sort of know what you're going through.  I lived with my grandparents for several months before my first child, then for 18 months after she was born.  My husband lives with us (even though he works all the time), but I do have a friend in VA who is now separated from her husband and has custody of their infant daughter.  She had a hard time getting a good job, too.

Well, that's enough to think about for now.  Just organize, plan, and think what will be best for the future while working for today...and good luck.