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Considering I.V.F or I.U.I

Posted by on Jun. 4, 2017 at 5:12 PM
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I wanted to know if these treatments are ideal for me as I just turned 40 years old.

hubby and I never had any infertility problems and have had all of our children naturally but it is just that we are trying for our last baby and I am going on month 4 and I do not have that much time it's not like before we're I can say oh it will happen maybe in a couple of years.

i will be so thankful for any advice.

would these treatments just be a waste of time and money due to my age?


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island_latina
by Member on Jun. 4, 2017 at 5:15 PM
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I know IVF works for woman in their 40's so I don't think it's waste. It is super expensive though. I have done 2 rounds of IVF and was successful both rounds. My insurance covered the first round and 2nd round I played completely out of pocket
mommyof7921
by Bronze Member on Jun. 4, 2017 at 5:18 PM

I researched a little and it tends to be successful using donor eggs is this true?  Is my age against me?

Quoting island_latina: I know IVF works for woman in their 40's so I don't think it's waste. It is super expensive though. I have done 2 rounds of IVF and was successful both rounds. My insurance covered the first round and 2nd round I played completely out of pocket


kajira
by Emma on Jun. 4, 2017 at 5:22 PM

No. But if you do IUI's, you'd probably do best having 4-6 follicles released per attempt as long as his sperm check is good.

If you don't conceive in 4 tries, then do IVF.  Alot has to do with egg quality, your reserve, sperm quality, and what the doctor feels comfortable doing.

statistically women over 35-38 have their fertility tank and the risk of multiples is much lower then a woman between 25-36.

kajira
by Emma on Jun. 4, 2017 at 5:27 PM
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You would need to have your FSH and AMH tested, it tells you egg quality, and quantity. It gives you a rough estimate if you'd be wasting your time. Your doctor/specialist will not want to risk doing IUI or IVF with someone who has a low chance of getting pregnant. It hurts their statistics. So if your doctor is confident you can conceive via one of those options, go with it.

It is expensive.

Out of pocket, Femera will run you about 50-200 per month, depending on dosage. (Our insurance covers 30 tabs with a 10 dollar copay, so we get lucky.)

I have 40 dollar copays out of pocket for the doctors, but if I didn't, I'd be looking at 120-400 per office visit, possibly more if they didn't include cost of labs and ultrasound with their office pricing.

IUI will run you 300-500 out of pocket, not including sperm washing, that might cost you another 100. Timed intercourse IS an option if hubby has good sperm, and they can just trigger multiple eggs to increase your odds of conception. (which is what we do, but I'm only 31 for another couple weeks.)

IVF will run you 12,000-25,000, and the meds may run you 3000-5000.

Injectable cycles - my insurance pays for the meds, and it's a flate rate fee, 55 dollars for trigger shot, 55 dollars for a month of progesterone suppositories, and 55 for whatever medicine my doctor orders for me, per medicine from the speciality pharmecy.

These meds however, out of pocket would run my 180 for trigger shot, 125+ for the progesterone, and 2800-3200 for the Menopur.

And, I hyper respond to the meds once I get going, so it also depends on how much medicine you need, how long of a protocol, the meds really could run you 5000-8000 for an IUI cycle if you had to use a lot of them, and if you want to save money, it might be worth just going straight to IVF if you're paying out of pocket.

Quoting mommyof7921:

I researched a little and it tends to be successful using donor eggs is this true?  Is my age against me?

Quoting island_latina: I know IVF works for woman in their 40's so I don't think it's waste. It is super expensive though. I have done 2 rounds of IVF and was successful both rounds. My insurance covered the first round and 2nd round I played completely out of pocket



mommyof7921
by Bronze Member on Jun. 4, 2017 at 5:28 PM

I see. Thank you for being so helpful.  I got pregnant naturally at 35, then 37 and at 39 my youngest is 7 months I wonder if I just keep trying for a few months will it just happen:) oh my gosh I would be so happy..I would throw the biggest party ever.

Quoting kajira:

No. But if you do IUI's, you'd probably do best having 4-6 follicles released per attempt as long as his sperm check is good.

If you don't conceive in 4 tries, then do IVF.  Alot has to do with egg quality, your reserve, sperm quality, and what the doctor feels comfortable doing.

statistically women over 35-38 have their fertility tank and the risk of multiples is much lower then a woman between 25-36.


mommyof7921
by Bronze Member on Jun. 4, 2017 at 5:31 PM
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 I appreciate your insight so much Kajira:)  you are very knowledgeable and smart.

Quoting kajira:

You would need to have your FSH and AMH tested, it tells you egg quality, and quantity. It gives you a rough estimate if you'd be wasting your time. Your doctor/specialist will not want to risk doing IUI or IVF with someone who has a low chance of getting pregnant. It hurts their statistics. So if your doctor is confident you can conceive via one of those options, go with it.

It is expensive.

Out of pocket, Femera will run you about 50-200 per month, depending on dosage. (Our insurance covers 30 tabs with a 10 dollar copay, so we get lucky.)

I have 40 dollar copays out of pocket for the doctors, but if I didn't, I'd be looking at 120-400 per office visit, possibly more if they didn't include cost of labs and ultrasound with their office pricing.

IUI will run you 300-500 out of pocket, not including sperm washing, that might cost you another 100. Timed intercourse IS an option if hubby has good sperm, and they can just trigger multiple eggs to increase your odds of conception. (which is what we do, but I'm only 31 for another couple weeks.)

IVF will run you 12,000-25,000, and the meds may run you 3000-5000.

Injectable cycles - my insurance pays for the meds, and it's a flate rate fee, 55 dollars for trigger shot, 55 dollars for a month of progesterone suppositories, and 55 for whatever medicine my doctor orders for me, per medicine from the speciality pharmecy.

These meds however, out of pocket would run my 180 for trigger shot, 125+ for the progesterone, and 2800-3200 for the Menopur.

And, I hyper respond to the meds once I get going, so it also depends on how much medicine you need, how long of a protocol, the meds really could run you 5000-8000 for an IUI cycle if you had to use a lot of them, and if you want to save money, it might be worth just going straight to IVF if you're paying out of pocket.

Quoting mommyof7921:

I researched a little and it tends to be successful using donor eggs is this true?  Is my age against me?

Quoting island_latina: I know IVF works for woman in their 40's so I don't think it's waste. It is super expensive though. I have done 2 rounds of IVF and was successful both rounds. My insurance covered the first round and 2nd round I played completely out of pocket



modmommabear
by Member on Jun. 4, 2017 at 6:01 PM
I'm seems kind of desperate when you aren't. Give it the year, with what you said I bet you'll get pregnant soon!

Do you know when you ovulate and have sex before and after?

Are you active and at a healthy weight?

Um.......what else. Have you tried herbal supplememts?
kajira
by Emma on Jun. 4, 2017 at 6:10 PM

When you are odler than 35, they do NOT recommend waiting more than 6 months. When you are 40+ they recommend 3 months before seeing an RE.

Women 38-42 are often on a time clock as their eggs deteriorate so women in the upper 30's and early 40's range, should not "wait" as long as a woman under 35 or 35-38.

If she's losing egg quality, each month that goes by, reduces her chances. At 40, they recommend just going straight to a specialist after 3 months of naturally trying.

So, age plays a huge part in these decisions. If she waited a year, with bad eggs, she could waste all her eggs that she has left.

Quoting modmommabear: I'm seems kind of desperate when you aren't. Give it the year, with what you said I bet you'll get pregnant soon! Do you know when you ovulate and have sex before and after? Are you active and at a healthy weight? Um.......what else. Have you tried herbal supplememts?


modmommabear
by Member on Jun. 4, 2017 at 6:39 PM
Wow, I didn't know that. I am only 30 and don't plan to have kids past 32 perferably, so I had no clue.

Quoting kajira:

When you are odler than 35, they do NOT recommend waiting more than 6 months. When you are 40+ they recommend 3 months before seeing an RE.

Women 38-42 are often on a time clock as their eggs deteriorate so women in the upper 30's and early 40's range, should not "wait" as long as a woman under 35 or 35-38.

If she's losing egg quality, each month that goes by, reduces her chances. At 40, they recommend just going straight to a specialist after 3 months of naturally trying.

So, age plays a huge part in these decisions. If she waited a year, with bad eggs, she could waste all her eggs that she has left.

Quoting modmommabear: I'm seems kind of desperate when you aren't. Give it the year, with what you said I bet you'll get pregnant soon!

Do you know when you ovulate and have sex before and after?

Are you active and at a healthy weight?

Um.......what else. Have you tried herbal supplememts?

kajira
by Emma on Jun. 4, 2017 at 6:43 PM

*shrugs* yeah, it's easy at 30 to talk about waiting a year, but when you're 40, you're running out of time. Statistically, your odds drop by more than 50% of natural conception.

Quoting modmommabear: Wow, I didn't know that. I am only 30 and don't plan to have kids past 32 perferably, so I had no clue.
Quoting kajira:

When you are odler than 35, they do NOT recommend waiting more than 6 months. When you are 40+ they recommend 3 months before seeing an RE.

Women 38-42 are often on a time clock as their eggs deteriorate so women in the upper 30's and early 40's range, should not "wait" as long as a woman under 35 or 35-38.

If she's losing egg quality, each month that goes by, reduces her chances. At 40, they recommend just going straight to a specialist after 3 months of naturally trying.

So, age plays a huge part in these decisions. If she waited a year, with bad eggs, she could waste all her eggs that she has left.

Quoting modmommabear: I'm seems kind of desperate when you aren't. Give it the year, with what you said I bet you'll get pregnant soon! Do you know when you ovulate and have sex before and after? Are you active and at a healthy weight? Um.......what else. Have you tried herbal supplememts?


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