Im sick of hearing about it!! Vent

[Kayere]

My ex and I are no longer together as of the beginning of decemeber. We have a beautiful and wonderful little boy who is 2.. And my ex is dirving em crazy

Im now a single mother going to school. Id be working too but I still cant find a job. Ive applied for everywhere in town but I do not have the time to drive to another town. But I cook for my son, clean up after him. The past week hes been throwing up sick from what I guess is bad milk.Im trying to keep up with my homework. Im getting As right now and working my ass off to keep them. On top of that I live in a house with my parents and brothers and end up clenaing up after them and cooking for them more then I like.

My plate is full!

And I am so fucking sick of hearing about my Exs problems! He comes over for an hour or two a day unless I have class. He watches Dakota for more then an hour or two for 3 days a week. Thats it. I wnat him here an hour before I leave for class. I dont think thats hard.

He shows up today 15 minutes fromw hen I have to leave. So I have to rush through getting ready.  As Im wlaking out the door, he asks if they can come. Im already frustrated because of his lack of responsiblity but I say fine, whatever, just get ready NOW. He sits there for another minute untill I come and bitch at him and tell him I have to leave now, then asks me to pack up food for dakotas diaper bag. When I say you guys are staying here, he bitches about how he worked late last night and hes starving because he JUST woke up and blahblahblah. So I pack up the diaper bag and we are finally out of there. The entire drive he keeps treating me liek Im stupid. Saying thinsg like  I dont understand why you are SO mad.

He picks me up saying teh same things and it turns into a fight about him being irresponsible. About hwo my schooling isnt silly and stupid and easy liek he thinks it is. Its HARD WORK and Im putting everything I have into it. I dont see why it is so hard for him to see that its not JUST 4 days a week.. its not JUST 2 classes.. Its not JUST an easy class.

Then the fight turns how it always does. To him saying how he gave up everything. How he lost everything. How he barely sees dakota and he has to leave to eat. That he lost everything because we broke up blahblahblah. The second I try to say well things arent easy for me either, he twists it to saying * Well then why dont you give me Dakota if you cant handle him* liek he always does. It gets old. I get sick of this crap. I just want him to stop talking and he wont. He never does. Nothing I do makes it ever stop. Ive threatened to call the cops. Ive screamed. Ive cussed. Ive refused to speak. Ive ignored him. Nothing works and its all the same and its all teh same mind games

Im just so sick of him. I wish he would disappear. Im sick of hearing about hwo horrible things are for him because he treated me liek shit.. as if its my fault that we arent together. Its His fault! I just get sick of all of this. Even when we arent together and I dont care what he says, he bitches just as much. Just drags dakota into it now and never stops. Never.

All this has to get easier at some point right? At some point hes just going to go away? Leave me alone? Grow up? Quit trying to make me feel bad or crazy? I just dont even know what to do anymore. I just want it to stop.

[IheartArianna07]

Well my SO and I are still together but if I was in your situation, everytime he'd say "Its so hard" I'd cut him off and say "Well you shouldve thought of that before you did ____". Literally EVERY SINGLE TIME. I would repeat it until I was blue in the face. If it is so horrible then he'd be trying to change. Seems like he is just trying to make you believe its easier to just give up and be with him. He sounds like a control freak and not worth your time. I guess I really have no advice but I hope he shuts up soon lol

[mrhodgeswife]

it will get eaiser, when me and my babydad broke up for the last time like a month afetr my daughter was born i was in school to and i watched a baby 3 weeks younger thna my daughter all day so i had two infants, i did do school on line but it was hard n he barly came around it was always his problems and if i said it was hard and asked for help it went to well let me keep her this and that, um hell no u did shit whil iwas pregnant left n moved to ga and moved back only because i wouldnt SEND her to live with u RIGHT after she was born and TRUST that ud bring her ot me every weekend like yea right u cant make it one a month for my doctors appointment and u dont evne talk to me i dont trust you with anything and im raising my daughter. it was also the i cry every night because i have ot wake up with out her bull shit, if it was tht bad ud bust ur ass everyday to see her and i wouldnt have to beg u to come around and ud actually spend time with her whiles she at ur house not leave her with ur mom. they will tell u fooish stuff and play teh mind games, it stops when u stop lettting them get to u. My babydad and his mom try the stuff he stopped awhile ago when i put my foot down, if he was late i left and he had to come get her from i told him i didnt care wat his reason was valid or not becaue hes late every time and he lies to much, from now on im leaving after 10 min of waiting and after u show me u can be on time then i will give u slack with a valid reason. and i put my foot down on other stuff as well. his mom finally stopped with her games yesterday i asked him to help me pay for this new daycare and he didnt even respond his mom did and said she would watch her but she lives farther than her babysitter now which is why im leaving that sitter i love her to death but its just to long of a drive and i told her that and i told her i dont appricaiate you answering for him, she tried to say hes at work and couldnt respong so i told her he had time to tell you wat i texted him so he could of at least told me something and that i didnt want to make plans to meet her everyday my schedual is to hectic to plan around others scheduals. she just texted me back and said watever. and for her thats a big loss to be called out on her lies and not have anything else to say to keep the argument up.

It will get easier and it will stop but u have to put an end to it and it will take time. You have to first stop letting it make u feel bad and always tell ur self ur doing right no matter wat he says and soon it will show that hes not getting to u any more and a change will come. Then after that shows to him you have to put ur foot down and take more control. i feel for you hunny

[Kayere]

I think that is alot of my problem right now. I dont have any control. Im nto working so he is paying the bills and bitching every second of it. Asks me every other day if Im going to be able to put any money into bills this month. Harrasses me, telling me that I cant find a job because I dont want to work and Im lazy. Ive been a stay at home mom for 3 years so I dont have ANY recent work experience. Next quarter Im increasing my class load and cutting it back to only two days a week. So Ill literally be at school all day for two days rushing form class to class to have the other 5 days off.. Then maybe ill be able to find something.

But I dont have anyone else to watch our son. My mother watches Dakota on Monday because My ex works. That is the only day she watches him. And she isnt exactly helpful. I have to remind her every week. And she never seems happy to do it. Which always bothers me. She doesnt agree with how I raise him and I know she doesnt listen as well as she should be to my rules when Im not there. This monday I think he had cereal for dinner : /

I can borrow my mothers car most of the tiem to make it to class, but if she has something to do I have to ask my Ex to drive me.

He doesnt GET to me so much as after an hour or so of the bitching, Im done. And he knows hwo to push my buttons. He will bitch for an hour, Ill tell him to get out, leave. He wont listen so I get pissed and tell him to get the fuck out. Then he says *Please dont cuss in front of our son* Then I lose it.

At this point Im stuck with needing him around.. I cant wait untill I have everything figured out and I dont need anything from him. I think everything will be tons better then.

[mrhodgeswife]

yea i understand that my sit was a lil difference i needed help from him with money but didnt get it but i had my parents to help where it sounds like you dont much, and ive done the 4 classes a day only two days a week thing. im not sure if it was easier or harder. but i hope it all works and if you want to talk about things feel free to email me any time at [e-mail] even if u just want to talk about class and school. My daughter is 2 as well. do you have any close friends my daughters sitter is her godmoms mother who has a daycare and her new sitter will be her other godmother who has the baby 3 weeks younger than my daughter and is my best friend. do you have a head start near you, my daughter will hopefully be in headstart next year for school durring the day so i can not worry about paying a sitter and driving her to the daycare because my school will be i nthe other direction next year and they start at 3.