I dont want to Offend anyone. But well just read
I was wondering, what age is really a young mom?
I was just rading the post "is it just me or does anybody feels this way" or what ever the title was. And I decided not to post because there were 59 replies and didn't really think me saying. " i have never felt that way" would really make the difference, lol, BUt The last page a girl was like I am going to be a mom in 3 weeks, and I am 23, and I never felt that way.
I just wondered. Hmmm Should she feel like she is missing her youth? SInce she really isn't really in her "youth" any more? She is in her early twenties almost -mid twenties. I don't think anything bad about her, at all, but she is the age of a normal parent isn't she?
Why is it if you have a kid before 25 you are looked at like a basket case? just in the last centry people where married at 16 having children and no big deal? My husbands grandma and grandpa were 13 and 14! Which I think is crazy!
But my Best friend is 23 and she was a virgin till she married at age 18, got pregnatn about four months later, and now she has two boys 4 and 2 and a 8 week old daughter and she is done. But people still are in awe of you have how many kids? Why is that????!!!!
I know me on the other hand is looked at shocked, and I suppose for good reason. I had my first when I was 16 got pregnant when I was 15 and me and him are no longer together, but he still sees rylee, and then about a year later I meet my husband and we ended up getting pregnant with my second when I was 17, and then six months later We got pregnant with my third and got married, So now I am 19 with three beautiful girls, and I am a stay at home mom, loving my life, homeschooling my kids, and we have made the decsion to be quiverful (leaving the number of children up to god- like the duggars) and I am only 19!!!! so when a first time mom is 23 or 24 and thinks theya re "young moms missing out" I am dumb founded....
What do you guys think makes a young mom?
Anything under the age of 20 really.....I was 23 when I had my first. I feel like I could have waited a few more years but I love my DD to death!
Nicole
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I picked 14-17. I am a young stay at home mom, too. Well, now I'm not as young but I was 16when I got pregnant with our first and 17 when I had her. Then I got pregnant with our second at 18 and we got married when I was 6months pregnant. I got pregnant with our third when I was 20 and had him when I was 21. I'm now 22 and my husband is 23. People always look at me crazy. We're in the military, and when I say that He's the one in. And people still look at us crazy. We met 6years ago. I think it's pretty weird when older people think they've missed out. And by older I mean my age. I was already mature when I was younger, but grew up fast. I just started to have fun a couple months before I got pregnant..and I wouldn't change anything for the world. I don't really drink now, don't go to paries..havent in a long time. My husband and I are trying to be good parents. Now, hopefully in 6months we will be on our way to sumwhere alone with out the kids to go have some fun for a week after the deployment. Sorry I skimmed thru the questions. I think somewhere inbetween 14-17 is a young mom.......im kind of scared to see anything younger....
I think around 25 is a good time to have babies. I think at this age you have enough life experience and maturity, and you have had your time to be young and enjoy your youth and not have to be responsible for another person.
I am not saying a young mother in her teens could not be a good mother I'm just saying that she will miss out on a lot and I don't think this is really fair. I think everyone should use their teen years and early twenties to get out in the world, see what it is about, and find themselves.
i think 23is still young, anything under 25 is young to me. they just werent AS young as some of us. people have every right to feel the way they do, regaurdless of age or whether anyone else agrees w them.
i was 19 when i had my first, and i am part of a teen mom group. some people in other groups say thatit doesnt count bc i wasnt in high school, or bc i was suppoting myself on my own already. but it doesnt change the fact that i was nineTEEN. that makes me a teen mom.
this group is for young moms, and i think the ages stated in the gruopname are pretty accurate.
I was pregnant and had my baby at 18 (I just turned 19 lol) and honestly I don't feel like I'm missing out because I don't drink and I was never the type to just go out and party. I don't feel like I'm missing out on what people say you should do when you're young. I have older people tell me "you're young! you should be out partying not having kids!" but well 1)i'm married and 2) I want to be a young mom because I had friends who where 18 with 60 yr old moms and they hated it. I want to be able to connect with my kids without them thinking I'm "too old" Thats just me tho. I've met moms who waited to have kids and they tell me they wished they would have had them earlier and others who love the fact that they waited. I've also met young moms who love being a young mom and others who hate it. So i guess the right age to have kids is difrnt for everyone. I do think you should atleast be done with hs and be responsible. I hate hearing stories of 12 yr olds having kids. I'm like "i didn't even think of sex until i was like 15 and waited until I was 17 to engage in it! (lol) So what I'm trying to say you can't really say someone is too young just because they're 19 or 20. Maybe it's the right time for them.
I got pregnant with my first when I was 17 and in my last year of high school. I still finished but I knew after I graduated I had to be a mom and had to hold off on going to college. I got pregnant with my first 3 months after my first was born. 19 with two kids fresh out of high school. That's young to me and I lived it. But I love my kids and if that's what fate had in store for me then so be it.
i think it depends on the 23-25 year old. if they were living their lives like they were 18 then yea they might feel like they are missing out on their youth.
i was 22 when i got pregnant...i was engaged but i was living it up! i worked at Hooters, partied every weekend, had sponantious get aways with my fiance and friends, drove a lil 2 door truck, took out the dirt bike whenever i felt like it.....and for a lil while i was getting used to being pregnant, i did feel like i was gonna miss out on being a young free adult.
so i dont think age determins if you were a young mom so much as your mentality when you got pregnant.
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- vcarver
on Mar. 20, 2010 at 9:51 AM