Just a vent. I hate that my parents feel the need to comment on my parenting decisions and even just do what they want against my word with my son. I am "young" and live under their roof so they think it's okay to do. Makes me so mad. I am his mom. Out in public my mother takes complete control mostly because my son doesn't listen well, but still gr. Then I have people thinking I am just his sister because I look so young. Any one go through this? And do I really look more like his sis then mom?
And just for the heck of it, here's my son and MY mom
Ashley, Momma To Dallas and Fiancee To Howard
Well if moving out isn't an option for you then the only thing I can say is you can start butting heads with her even if it is out in public, since she seems to have no problem doing it with you, and never miss an opotunity to remind her it's your child not hers. It may piss her off but if you want to take control of your son's upbring it's the only way I can see that might work. As far as him not listening does he not listen at all or just not to you?
put your foot down and make it known that you are his mom. you need their support, and when you ask for it, their advice. when they do something you have expressed you don't like, pick your son up and leave the room. don't tolerate it. you don't have to be rude and tell or have any kind of attitude, but you can assert yourself. good luck mama.
I hear ya there. I am the oldest of 4 girls. We all live at home still. My youngest sister is 11 and gets away with everything and when I say something to correct her I am told I'm not her parent, but it's okay for them to parent my son.
Quoting Brandi_Pokrivka:My mom does this. and it makes me madder especially b/c her daughter is soooooooooooooo disrepectful and bad. I dont need advise from someone that can't parent themselves.
Ashley, Momma To Dallas and Fiancee To Howard
Unfortunately moving out isn't an option yet, my fiance and I had to just put alot of money into our car and then bought a new one anyways, but as soon as we get it all paid off in like 2 weeks we are back onto saving up to get out. Now he does listen sometimes to me, alot for his sitter, and most of the time for my parents. I know it's because he's a momma's boy and it's hard for me to be real strict, but I am working on it.
Quoting witchdragon:
Well if moving out isn't an option for you then the only thing I can say is you can start butting heads with her even if it is out in public, since she seems to have no problem doing it with you, and never miss an opotunity to remind her it's your child not hers. It may piss her off but if you want to take control of your son's upbring it's the only way I can see that might work. As far as him not listening does he not listen at all or just not to you?
Ashley, Momma To Dallas and Fiancee To Howard
Im sorry this is happening to u. U do look like his sister but ur mom def. looks like grandma not mom. I get called sister all the time, thats why i make it a point when i am out in public to say. "mommy said come here sweetie" or "mommy will do that for u later" so anyone who is listening gets the point. I think he looks just like his dad though. :)
LOL I do that in public too. Yeah my mom is 48 so just a bit too old to be a mom to a 2 yr old imo. Thanks for the comment about him looking like his dad, do you mean the guy in the pic?
Quoting JayBearsmomma:Im sorry this is happening to u. U do look like his sister but ur mom def. looks like grandma not mom. I get called sister all the time, thats why i make it a point when i am out in public to say. "mommy said come here sweetie" or "mommy will do that for u later" so anyone who is listening gets the point. I think he looks just like his dad though. :)
Ashley, Momma To Dallas and Fiancee To Howard
No, you look like mommy...just young mommy. So many people have babies young they should be used to it by now. They shouldn't just assume. But I know how you feel...let your mom know that when you are in public you don't want her always taking control because you want to be known as his mom not his sister. He calls you mom right?
And in the house...let them know you appreciate them trying to help but you want to make the decisions that has to do with your son. I can't stand when someone interferes and tries to be a parent to your child.
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- arianaxangel23
on Mar. 20, 2010 at 2:55 PM