So I have a friend who's son is only 12 days older than my son, so he's currently 19 months.
She just posted new pics on Facebook and I thought it was sort of odd. He has a full bed in his room (it was a convertible crib that they converted to a toddler bed and then to a full) and she dresses him really cute but also in some clothes that an older child would wear. She has been gelling his hair since he was just a newborn all spikey and cute.
It just seems to me like she's trying to make him older than he really is. My son still has days when he's in his jammies all day. I've never "done" his hair anything more than just spraying some water and brushing it to the side so his cowlick isn't crazy. My son is still in a crib, and isn't ready for a toddler bed let alone a full bed. I'm not saying her son shouldn't be sleeping in his own bed instead of a crib or that all kids should develop the same but my son will probably be in a toddler bed for a while.
My BF's niece is 2 and is sleeping in a toddler bed, and my friend who's daughter is 3 is sleeping in a toddler bed as well.
I mean I doubt he can barely climb into the thing, and IMO if your kid can't get into his own bed (cribs are an exception lol) then he probably shouldn't be in it. I don't know I just get that feeling and it makes me sad. I'm cherish every second of my child's toddlerdom because I know it will be over in a blink of an eye and I will wish that he was still a baby. I'm not saying you shouldn't encourage your children to grow and develop or that you should baby them, but isn't there a middle ground?
I guess some people are like that. i didnt move my oldest out of her crib til close to 2 and I dont plan on moving my youngest until she is climbing out of it. Im a "dont do for baby what baby can do for themselves" kind of parent. But my 3 yr old is still in a toddler bed we are getting her a loft bed next yr she will be close to 4 by then.
I moved my son to a twin bed when he was 20 months, not that I was tryin to make him grow up it was just easier. He kept trying to climb out of his crib and my sister in law had just moved in to her own house and had a recently bought twin bed and gave to us. He never slept in a toddler bed, and at 20 months could easily climb in and out of bed. And as far as the hair thing I admit I am guilty of occasionally putting gel in my sons hair. Not everyday but he looks so cute with a lil mowhawk.
Dosent sound like to me your friend is rushing her son to grow up too fast. My daughter was in a twin bed by 16 months (long story) but yup she was just fine with it no problems. Granted there are our days that we stay in jammies all day long sevearl people do not like to do that ever, whatever that is their choice I just find jammies more comfy especially if I'm just at the house all day long. I've seen lots of people do up their little boys hair with gel & little girls always have their hair done (except mine who hates her hair to be touched!).
Dont feel sad for this little boy because from what you wrote here dosent sound like he is being forced to grow up too soon at all but that is just my opinion.
Just depends on what you want to do.. or I mean the kid decides when he wants to grow up.. my parents still haven't grown up (lol) my son would be stoked to have a full bed! He's 2 and a half in a toddler bed. Doesn't change the way he thinks ; )
If that makes any sense! Basicly your friend is probably bored or likes change. Gelling my sons hair is the last thing on my mind in the morning!
I'm with you. Just my opinion, but it sounds like she is making him grow up too fast. My son is 20 months old and he is still in his crib. I won't move him out of it until he can easily climb out himself. Then he will go to a toddler bed til he gets to big for that. I'm not rushing anything with him. I know that soon i'll have to buy another crib because my 3 mo. old daughter will need one, but were not pushing my son out of his bed. Your friends son may also be suggesting these changes like climbing out of a crib or maybe seeing his dad or mom get ready and do their hair.
Idk, we stat in our jammies most of the time unless we are going somewhere. I just give my son a buzzcut so i dont do his hair a all.
Some people just like to do their kids hair. my daughter is two and was in a toddler bed by 15 months and is now in a twin size bed. One I needed the crib for baby number two but she is a mover and likes the bigger bed. my daughter had screaming fits because she hated the crib that much because she started crawling and walking early.
Think about it this way your friend won't have to spend money later on for a bigger bed or go through several beds. It could be they thought ahead of time about costs in the long run. a lot of the new clothes do make kids look older because of the fashion that they are made. doesn't mean she does it on purpose. Every parent and kid is different thus what makes this world so interesting.
Well with the bed thing i guess that just depends on the bed...my neice sleeps in a crib at one gaurdians and a twin bed with a toddler rail at the others and she is 23 months....my daughter will probably be in a crib for a while because if she sleeps in our bed where she has freedom she gets out of bed and walks around the house at 11 MONTHS!! (now 13 months)...but she can climb into our bed all on her own shes an expert climber....and as for the clothes thats just how some people like thier children dressed...I only let my little girl wear babyish clothes around the house and sometimes to daycare...if were going out somewhere or to visit people shes dressed in adult like clothes...shes like a mini me its so cute....today we went to visit family and she wore a kahki old navy skirt with front pockets with buckles and a cap sleeve button up peach colored shirt I actually wish they had it in my size lol....i dont see any problem in dressing your kids in that type of clothing....I love that american eagle now has toddler clothing....as far as the growing them up all together....I do miss when she was a tiny little thing but every new thing she does is so exciting its like i can't stop working with her on new things...shes advanced for her age but it just makes me feel good to know shes smart lol so thats just how I feel about it with my daughter...everyone has different views :)
I'm not saying she's a bad mom I just got the impression. Maybe she's just a fashion forward mom who likes to dress her son up every day. As for the bed I dunno, my sons crib turns into a toddler bed and then a full size bed but I don't plan on turning it into the full size for a while. Twin beds are ok, and I sort of wish that my son's bed turned into a twin instead of full. But a full bed is HUGE for a 1.5 year old. Lol
Maybe I'm just overly nostalgic. I like the fact that people see my sons an assume he is the age that he is instead of older. Lol Im weird I guess.
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on Mar. 20, 2010 at 9:06 PM