Let me just start off by saying that I work at a daycare center. My son goes to the same center but we are separated all day due to the fact that I work in a different building. Several months ago the center hired a woman, if you can call her that, she is 19 buts has the maturity of a 12 year old. She seemed nice enough and I was nice to her. The night before New Years Eve she called me and wanted to hang out. I wasn't doing anything special so I obliged. This "hang out" turned into her staying the night, hooking up with my boyfriend's best friend after I specifically asked her not to, and staying until the following night. Odd, I thought. But I passed it off until she started making it MY problem that the guy she hooked up with didn't want to be with her. I had warned her far before her hook up that he wasn't the kind of guy to get attached to. Yet she was making me the middle man. Wanting me to talk to him for her like we were in middle school. I told her that I didn't care because I warned her about him and because I wasn't responsible for pairing them up. She got angry at me and refused to talk to me, especially at work when she worked under me.
So, the last, and pretty much first, time we hung out was months ago. Yet, she acts like we're BFFs. I don't see her outside of work and I ignore her calls. She will call me 5 times rapid fire if I don't answer the first time. Any time I show the slightest annoyance with her the world comes crashing down and she throws a tantrum like a giant two year old.
That's not the biggest problem, I can deal with the tantrums, its how she treats my son. She sees him more than I do during the work day and has a "special" relationship with him. Recently I have found that she has convinced him to call her "Auntie" I am not fond of calling my friends aunties and uncles, let alone someone I am not close with at all.
She kisses my son on the lips and scoops him up first thing when we walk in in the morning. I'm glad that she loves him but this is a little much right?
Now here's the kicker. She will give my son food and SODA of hers throughout the day. I'm not strict as far as his diet is concerned but this is uncalled for. I have never given permission for her to do any of this.
My problem? How do I tell her to stop without having her whole tantrum affect our working relationship and her relationship with my son?? I know she will get upset and I am afraid that she will either start neglecting my son or over do the loviness just to spite me. Both of which I am not OK with.
I am nice to her during the work day because I understand the importance of a healthy work relationship, but enough is enough! What do I do???
So, the last, and pretty much first, time we hung out was months ago. Yet, she acts like we're BFFs. I don't see her outside of work and I ignore her calls. She will call me 5 times rapid fire if I don't answer the first time. Any time I show the slightest annoyance with her the world comes crashing down and she throws a tantrum like a giant two year old.
That's not the biggest problem, I can deal with the tantrums, its how she treats my son. She sees him more than I do during the work day and has a "special" relationship with him. Recently I have found that she has convinced him to call her "Auntie" I am not fond of calling my friends aunties and uncles, let alone someone I am not close with at all.
She kisses my son on the lips and scoops him up first thing when we walk in in the morning. I'm glad that she loves him but this is a little much right?
Now here's the kicker. She will give my son food and SODA of hers throughout the day. I'm not strict as far as his diet is concerned but this is uncalled for. I have never given permission for her to do any of this.
My problem? How do I tell her to stop without having her whole tantrum affect our working relationship and her relationship with my son?? I know she will get upset and I am afraid that she will either start neglecting my son or over do the loviness just to spite me. Both of which I am not OK with.
I am nice to her during the work day because I understand the importance of a healthy work relationship, but enough is enough! What do I do???
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on Apr. 11, 2011 at 5:57 PM
She kisses him on the LIPS. 4 one i would flip on a family member for doing that and for to report her to ur job. Thats not appropriate for a daycare center and the only reason its probally let go is because you work there and they asume you two are cool and its ok with you because you havnt done anything. I wouldnt care about any work relationship I would stop that now and probally have her moved to another building. If i had to id tell who ever it is to tell to make it anonomous it could be a parent complaining.
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on Apr. 11, 2011 at 6:10 PM
maybe go to whoever her supervisor or whoever is over her...treat it like you would if he was at a daycare you didn't work. regardless of what happens to your working relationship you need to do what you think is best for your child
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on Apr. 11, 2011 at 6:23 PM
this and good luck!
Quoting brysonsmommy_10:maybe go to whoever her supervisor or whoever is over her...treat it like you would if he was at a daycare you didn't work. regardless of what happens to your working relationship you need to do what you think is best for your child
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Sabrina
on Apr. 11, 2011 at 7:20 PM
I would be so angry I don't think anyone could stop me from getting right in her face and telling her to get away from my baby
Quoting BAMBAMmommy:
Just found out minutes ago that she threatens to SPANK him when he doesn't listen to her! Will be speaking with my super (owner of the daycare) ASAP!! I want this crazy lady away from my son!
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Bethany
on Apr. 11, 2011 at 7:44 PM
Yep
Quoting mrhodgeswife:
She kisses him on the LIPS. 4 one i would flip on a family member for doing that and for to report her to ur job. Thats not appropriate for a daycare center and the only reason its probally let go is because you work there and they asume you two are cool and its ok with you because you havnt done anything. I wouldnt care about any work relationship I would stop that now and probally have her moved to another building. If i had to id tell who ever it is to tell to make it anonomous it could be a parent complaining.
She doesnt need to be around kids thats for sure...she sounds like a crazy..... yea def talk to a super
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Rachael
on Apr. 11, 2011 at 7:53 PM
O hell no lol u better call that super cuz I wouldn't be puttin up with that shit
Quoting BAMBAMmommy:
Just found out minutes ago that she threatens to SPANK him when he doesn't listen to her! Will be speaking with my super (owner of the daycare) ASAP!! I want this crazy lady away from my son!
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on Apr. 11, 2011 at 5:49 PM