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I really need some advice please! :(

Posted by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 5:23 PM
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 Honestly I have no idea where to post this on, but I feel the most comfortable in this group so I figured I'd give it a shot here. When I was younger (age 8-10) I was molested by my sister's 1st husband (I refuse to call him brother ever again) Well He threatened to kill my family so I didn't talk. Finally at age 10 I told my mom everything. Finally 2 years later (gotta love the justice system) he finally got put in prision. We ended up screwd over by my lawyer (who ended up being put in prision later on for child porn) and he told me that the jury wouldn't believe me so I should just take the plea bargin and have him serve 5 years. (come to find out if I had of testified he could have gotten as little as 25 years) Well fast forward to 16 years old. He ends up getting out early for "good behavior" (seriously?? He was in for ruining my life!) Well he ended up moving back to his hometown which was 35 miles from me. The restraining order wasn't able to be re issued since he never came around.(Gave up his rights to my 2 nephews for a car) So I mean I was scared but not as bad. He worked at an auto glass store and lived on a part of town that even when I go to this town I never go to that part. So I never had to run into him. Before he went to prison he started dating this girl who I found out had 2 girls around my age. I told her what he was and I feel like I save those girls. Well I get a message from my sister yesterday saying that now he works at Pizza hut as a DELIVERY DRIVER!!! Which mean he goes to ppl's houses! Idk I just feel like if I don't stand up and say something, what happened to me might happen again to another little girl. Please help. AND PLEASE NO BASHING!

by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 5:23 PM
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marine.wifey
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 5:36 PM

Really there is nothing you can do.... He served his time even though it indeed was not long enough. If you were to go around basically being a public announcement, he CAN sue you. I would just leave it alone and move on with your life. He was convicted, it's up to his employer what they hire him for. Regardless, any sex offender will at some point have contact with a child the age range of their victim.

a5hl3yC
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 6:08 PM

I understand your concern but as marine wifey put it you can get yourself in trouble. You obviously aren't lying to anyone but it can be considered slander and you want to be very careful with that. I don't exactly understand what your sister was getting at by telling you unless she was worried for your sake and wants you to avoid the place he works. It should be in his records though so it's up to whoever wants to give him the job if they are ok with it. If he was directly working with children you might be able to fight it, but this doesn't exactly count as that. I'm sorry he caused you this pain, and I know this doesn't help but if he really hasn't changed and tried something I guarantee you he won't be as lucky next time around for attempting where you had already filed a case against him.

KaroGreenly
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 6:52 PM

I agree.

Quoting a5hl3yC:

I understand your concern but as marine wifey put it you can get yourself in trouble. You obviously aren't lying to anyone but it can be considered slander and you want to be very careful with that. I don't exactly understand what your sister was getting at by telling you unless she was worried for your sake and wants you to avoid the place he works. It should be in his records though so it's up to whoever wants to give him the job if they are ok with it. If he was directly working with children you might be able to fight it, but this doesn't exactly count as that. I'm sorry he caused you this pain, and I know this doesn't help but if he really hasn't changed and tried something I guarantee you he won't be as lucky next time around for attempting where you had already filed a case against him.


raydons_mom
by on Feb. 9, 2012 at 9:18 PM
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actually check out ur state's laws some states allow you to put flyers up announcing that there is a sex offender in the neighborhood... however even if you cant put one up with his face and name you can always put up flyers about ur states local sex offender registry list and you are allowed to inform the public of ways to stay safe and prevent crimes against children... the same thing happend to me and the man who did it to me was allowed free after less then a yr. and has his grandchildren living with him so no there is no justice when it comes to these kinds of things

LadyDeath665
by on Feb. 9, 2012 at 9:21 PM


Quoting a5hl3yC:

I understand your concern but as marine wifey put it you can get yourself in trouble. You obviously aren't lying to anyone but it can be considered slander and you want to be very careful with that. I don't exactly understand what your sister was getting at by telling you unless she was worried for your sake and wants you to avoid the place he works. It should be in his records though so it's up to whoever wants to give him the job if they are ok with it. If he was directly working with children you might be able to fight it, but this doesn't exactly count as that. I'm sorry he caused you this pain, and I know this doesn't help but if he really hasn't changed and tried something I guarantee you he won't be as lucky next time around for attempting where you had already filed a case against him.


momma201116
by on Feb. 9, 2012 at 9:21 PM
He should have registered as a child molester y haven't they done anything
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gabrielat
by on Feb. 9, 2012 at 11:37 PM

Unfortunately I don't think you can do anything. Since he's been convicted and sentenced already, it's on his record so those decisions are completely up to the employer. Every big corporation employer does back ground checks so I'm sure they saw his molestation record, unless he changed his name and/or social security number. But even then, I think they ask you if you've ever changed your name and/or SS number. So if they've already hired him, I doubt you can do anything :(. Unless he ends up doing this to another girl you can help testify about what he put you through but other than that I don't think there's anything. I'm so sorry you went through that. I got molested at 11 years old by my crush and it scarred me for a long time and I found out last year that he has a girlfriend and a kid. It made me mad that he's living a good life when I went through years of hell because of him. 

Hopefully he doesn't do this again. But if he does, god forbid, hopefully you can help testify so he can be put away for a long time. 

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Jennifer_57
by on Feb. 9, 2012 at 11:54 PM
If he is a convicted pedophile, he isnt aloud to be around where children are or near schools..if he is a convicted pedophile, and is in the system, you can contact law enforcement as well as his employer and inform them.
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Jennifer_57
by on Feb. 9, 2012 at 11:56 PM
Not everywhere does a background check, so its possible they dont know. At my old job I was hired immediately before a background check was even done, on the spot.
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wonderwomen1
by on Feb. 10, 2012 at 12:10 AM
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I would call pizza hut and ask if they do background checks... I would then let them know they hired a sex offender. How could you get in trouble for an annonomous call?
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