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Rude comments you've received for being a young mom or young & pregnant

Posted by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 9:33 AM
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First rude comment I've gotten about my pregnancy (sort of)...

I was at work yesterday and we had been super busy all day long. It was an hour before the end of my shift and the involuntary yawning started. 
While I was waiting on a (regular) customer, he asked how much longer I had left in my shift and I said about and hour and I was talking about how much I was ready to get home to go right to bed.
The customer was like: "Why?"
I said: "Because being pregnant makes me tired all day and I go to bed early these days."

Then he grabbed his bags and said: "Well, you weren't too tired to lay down to get pregnant."

I took that as both insanely rude and stupid.
Or maybe I'm just hormonal as hell.
Either way, what would make someone say that to someone else?? I know him and I are cool as far as cashier/customer goes, but he doesn't know me like that.

What are some of the rude and/or really stupid comments you've gotten from being a young mom or young and pregnant??

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by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 9:33 AM
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by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 10:02 AM

My first rude comment came from my dad when i was pregnant with my first. He told me "how am i suppose to be happy or proud, when im 19 year old daughter is unmarried and pregnant, dating some guy i barely know? Do you really thing you will be able to handle this? I think you should have tried a little harder to be safe"

First off, i lost it on him. Ive NEVER giving my parents any reason to doubt me, i had good grades in school always had a job and NEVER been in any trouble, i moved out and 17 and had always supported my self, so for him to say i couldnt handle it really pissed me off, but he soon came to realize he was very very wrong, im now married (to the same man) and we have 2 little boys who we fulled support and take care of our selves!

on that note, i get dirty looks and rude comments all the time when i go out any where weather it be taking my boys to the doctors of shopping for food. It must be my style that makes people think im a shitty mother or something like that. plus i get the comment that i look 16, i will be 23 in march lol. whatever the reason is for there judgements i just smile and walk away, that or i fuck with them just because i think their reactions are funny. :)

by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 10:09 AM

it wasn't really really rude i just get dirty looks and people always tell me i'm so young and that its not going to be easy. But maybe thats because everyone around where I live think they have to be knocked up to!

by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 10:38 AM

my best friend and room mate at the time said by getting pregnant and keeping the baby will ruin my life forever and she didnt understand how it was a good thing. 

Ever since that day (8 yrs ago) things went downhill and we dont talk anymore

by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:01 AM
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I get this one a lot "Dont you know how babies are made?" (I have 3 kids). Yes, i actually do know how they are made...would you believe that they were PLANNED!?

by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:38 AM
That was a very rude comment.

I can't remember any rude comments from people. My teachers didn't judge me, nobody from church judged me, and all the customers at work were great. But when I think of it I did work with an old hag that made the stink face at me when she realized I was pregnant.
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by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 12:44 PM
I didn't get them to my face.
The pastor at my church told my mom that I couldn't be in the music group or have my baby shower there because I was young and not married yet. Which was sad because he let someone else older not married have hers there, and they didn't actually go to church there.
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by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 1:00 PM

Wow, that was rude.

I found something offensive: My mom called up dh's dad at work and let him know that I was pregnant andwe need to have a abortion.



by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 10:44 PM
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I consider that comment rude.

A few I've gotten were pretty blunt from customers and strangers such as "Wow are you even old enough to be a mother, you're just a child yourself."

One day fairly far along around 5 months I asked to go to the bathroom. I said it quietly to my manger and the customer I had chimed in and said, "You're just a cashier you shouldn't need to go to the bathroom can't you just wear a diaper instead of making me wait!" I was so embarrassed at the time and cried afterwards.

Another good one was "Do you even know who the father is?" I'm guessing he's the only guy I had been with for the past year....

Last one I really hated was, "You know you could have taken care of this once you found out so you could actually be having a life instead of ruining it."

All of them along with looks and such I just brush off for the most part. I'm a good parent and you will be as well. They say "older" people make better parents yet I rarely see them being involved, and they are so quick to judge, doesn't sound like a ready parent to me.

by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 10:47 PM

OMG That is rediculous. I live in a nice area of town with a lot of older moms and when I went in for my son's conference the principle said "well we have a really young mom today". WTF dickhead, not all moms have to be in their forty's. :)

Can you potty train your toddler by noon tomorrow?

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by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 10:51 PM
I get more rude looks when shopping for langerie while not wearing makeup than I ever got being pregnant or now being nineteen with a four yr old. My schools were always supportive, teachers and students. Family supportive. I know I am lucky for that.
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