Ok, I am 19 years old, almost 20. Before I got pregnant I had guaged ears and a lip ring, black hair. The whole nine yards. After I had Jackson, I didn't have any of it anymore. Took out my guages and my lip ring and let my hair grow out to its natural color. I just feel like I've lost myself. I always expressed myself through my clothes and my style, but I didn't think it was appropriate for a mom at the time. Now looking back, I regret changing how I looked. I mean, I'm a big girl, so I'm not running around in skimpy little mini skirts and ripped up leggings and crazy spiked hair. I just had my own specific style. I can't figure out how to get myself back. I've wanted to repierce my lip and/or get my guages back. Keep this in mind, I never had the huge ridiculous gauges. My ears were guaged just enough that you could notice it. My fiance doesn't want me too, shuts me down everytime I even mention it. Should I allow him to decide that for me? Isn't it my decision? I don't know, what do you guys think I should do?
All in all it is your decision. IMO I think that moms are supposed to dress more appropriately in a way or more mature? Idk hard to explain. And if you and your Fiance are really serious, then there is going to come a time where you will have to come to an agreement. Relationships are hard when couples do not listen to each other.
I too was a young mom, and i also felt that i had to maintain an image since i became a mom. i didn't have any Piercings but i did dress differently. honestly when i changed my sense of i style i lost myself. I think you could go back and wear some of the things that made you ..you. And also there's a time and place for everything. When you with your daughter be a little more conservative, and when your going out let your hair done. Now the case with your fiance i think its all about compromising I'm pretty sure there are somethings he can tolerate ..(that is the way he met you) ..i hope this helps
Do what makes you happy!
Sure, compromises will always be made with your fiance, but don't let society make you into their version of what a mom is suppose to look like.
At first I did think that it was a compliment that he didn't like me not wearing makeup or anything like that, but i just completely let myself go since I had Jackson, and now my hair is always just up in a pony tail and I NEVER put any makeup on. My fiance makes mean jokes when I do put on makeup and he won't even kiss me if I do. I wear makeup and stuff because it makes me feel better about myself. I don't know, sometimes it is VERY hard to compromise with him. He's ALWAYS right (according to him) and he gets real mad if I don't agree and things tend to get a bit heated.
Plus I'm a 17 year old single mom with 3 tattoos and 13 piercing. Lol. I still wear my bob marley shirt <3
As long as your kids are well fed and have everything they need who cares if you look "mom appropriate"
Quoting Hn2baes:
I think moms come in all shapes and sizes.
Do what makes you happy!
Sure, compromises will always be made with your fiance, but don't let society make you into their version of what a mom is suppose to look like.
I've thought about trying something like that. I don't know if I want my old style back, or I just have too much time to think about things. I have a huge self-esteem problem and my df never acts like he even notices that I'm around. I don't know. All my previous boyfriends have told me little things, like "Oh, you look pretty today." or "You have beautiful eyes." Just something small like that, but that made me feel so much better about myself. My df has never said anything like that to me in the entire two years we've been together and that's something I need to here, I guess. I guess my whole mindset on it is that maybe if I did something like that he would notice me more or make a little comment about it. I don't know.
Quoting blackoceanveiw:
i understand im there myself. could u mayb just pierce ur ears without having the gauages? do u think ur df n u could agree on that? n maybe a new hairstyle would make u feel better wit mayb some red highlights. just mayb some suggestions to make u both happy
It doesn't matter how badass you think you are,
when a child hands you a toy phone,
you will answer it.
Breastfeeding--please help me!!!
- jacks_mommy11
on Feb. 14, 2012 at 11:50 PM