Please help, I dont know what to do anymore.

[Mommy2LNS]

So, I'm a young mom and living with my dad. Today my dad told me that I'm abusing my son. When I asked him how, he told me that I will see when I lose my son. I'm a great mother! He is always in a clean diaper, always fed, and always smiling. What do I do? This isn't the first time he has said stuff like this. Yesterday he told me that I'm a terrible mother, and still won't tell me why he thinks so.

[Vipergirl22]

You can't really do much if you live with him...its his house he can say what he wants unfortunately. Prepare yourself to move out soon..

[BeachMama05]

oh wow how rude of him. Girl find your way to get out :/ hugs

[NICHOLE87]

hugs

[littleinsect]

I'm so sorry mama. I'd try to find an organization that can help you find a place to live. :/

[Mommy2LNS]

I just bawled my eyes out to my step mom about it and she's pissed. She said she is going to talk to him about it.

[Shy_Dia]

i'd have another conversation about it with him. approach him. ask him, "when you said i was abusing him, HOW do you mean? you cannot expect me to be a good mother if you'll only gonna accuse of wrong behavior without giving me advice to change it". if he cant explain why- i wouldnt even bother with him anymore. ask others around you, if they believe you are a good mom or not. and ways that they think you can improve. i do that with my family every so often... my dad thinks i'm too strict on my son... but its coming from a guy who got his son's plates, drinks til he was about 12 years old. bro is 14 now- and dad still organizes his clothes, hangs them, picks them out, etc. lol so in some ways, i wont listen to my dad-- my son is 6 and gets his own clothes, puts them away, etc and has chores... but in other ways- i do listen to my dad.

sometimes we are too close to the problem to see the problem itself.... but keep in mind- everyone's parenting is different. his view of you abusing your son could mean that you're showing him too much affection (hugs and kisses), and be wont be a "man" when he grows up.... should you listen to him with that one? no way- give the young one all the loving he can stand! but maybe his "abuse" accusation is that you arent putting enough layers on him when its cold outside- and thats normal grandparenting worries, something you can be thankful for cuz you know its b/c they are worried for their grandbaby.

but it does sound like your dad is just being a butthead! =( and once you prove thats the case, you dont have to listen to his "parenting concerns" afterwards

[MommaP_7]

Talk to him about it while your son is not in the room, in case things get loud he wont have that to hold over you. And, if at all possible find a way to assurt your athority as a mother... in a calm manner of corse. You may be his daughter, but you are now someones mother too, and you have every right to know where these statements are coming from. You may say to him something along the line of, "If you see something you think needs improvment with my parenting, please share with me." Remind him that hes had a lot more experience at being a parent and that you would "love to learn from him". If that does't get through to him, remind him that if he truly cared about his grandchild, he would tell you what he thinks your doing wrong to help you change/learn, in order to protect the child. And that emotional abuse from your father, is not helping you to be the best mother you can be.  You are strong, your a mother! You'll get through this, just trust your instincts. 

[heather4511]

I'm sorry :(

Quoting BeachMama05:

oh wow how rude of him. Girl find your way to get out :/ hugs

[Mommy2LNS]

I tried asking him while Lucas was napping, and he refuses to tell me how I am abusing Lucas. He keeps saying that I will find out when he gets taken away. He is my only babysitter and I need him to watch baby while I go the dentists and my work thing in the morning, but now I'm afraid to leave him, but he can't go with me. I asked my step mom if she thought I was doing anything wrong and she said that I am doing great and I'm an amazing mom. And it can't be the clothing thing, because Lucas doesn't go outside in the cold without a blanket over him, long sleeve shirts, socks, car seat cover, etc.