Boyfriend

[Daecensmommy]

I have a boyfriend who is always on the video games and never really wants to spend time with me and or his child. I want to be with him but I also need the feeling to be loved because I feel like I am not worth it to him anymore. We've been together for 3yrs and things went down hill ever since he cheated on me when we first started dating. I gave him chance after chance and after the 3rd time he never cheated on me again. But I don't have that trust for him anymore. I don't like it when people tell me to just leave him because thats not what I want. I want to be with him but I also can't make him change. Is there any advice from teen moms who are going threw the same thing?

[sxymomma20]

Im srry your having a hard time with that.....have you talked to him about it?

[KaelynnsMommy64]

Your situation sounds exactly like mine!!! Sadly they never change :(

[Hyapatia10]

I'm sry for u. Me and my bf use to hav a lot of probs, kinda the same ones. We seperated for 6 months after our daughter turned 3 months, and now were a lot better and happier. Good luck. And u guys make a cute lil family.

[remaining_me]

well like you've said. you can't make him change. if he is not willing to then the advice to leave is good advice. if he is willing to do counceling or something then try that. if you haven't talked to him about how you feel already i suggest you do that and see if he decides to make any changes. if not, he's not worth the effort.

[BeachMama05]

Quoting sxymomma20:

Im srry your having a hard time with that.....have you talked to him about it?

[CieraMN]

i'm sorry! our situations are almost alike, my boyfriend loves to play video games all day, or be on his laptop or do just what he wants to. I am the only one taking care of my son. but he works and stuff.. but i would love it if he did more stuff and showed affection towards me other than in the bedroom. 

[teenmomnluv]

Im sorty hun ill be in the wrong to give advice because im kinda going thru the same thing but ima tryna build that love back up with me and my bd so I decided to spend the week with him and wear sumn sexy and on the last day let him remember why we got together in the first placd because we love each other and why he got hooked on me because I got the good lol but thsts what im doing becsuse I love him and wanna fight for my family

[Sara52]

You can't change him, and if you don't want to leave him your stuck like this until you deside your sick of it. It took me almost a year and for him to start beating my son, yes he actually hit a 10 month old baby and bit him cuz he wouldn't stop crying and made him die in a game.  I left got a order of protection met my wonderful husband and a great father to my son and great to his pregnant wife.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over agian, but expecting different results. - Albert Einstien

[C.H.E.L.S.E.A]

 You said it yourself. You can't change him. So if you want to be with him, you have to accept him as is, knowing he may never change. And if that's unacceptable to you, then you leave. I know it's easier said than done, but there's really nothing else that can be done. People only change when they want to.

Quoting Daecensmommy:

 I want to be with him but I also can't make him change.