I have a co worker who's been basically in love with me since he started working with me, which was in April of last year. Everyone knew he liked me a lot and he made it known too. Well he texted me tonight and told me someone started a rumor at work that my son is his. Seriously? I've been on maternaty leave since January so I haven't even been at work. So someone took that opertunity to start some bull shit like this? I had a feeling he was the one who started it since he's always been butt hurt whenever I'd tell him I don't like him in that way. He told me he didn't, but right now idk if I believe him or not. But either way, that's crap. I'm so mad that this is happening, especially since I'm not going to be back at work until May. Someone had to be a bitch about it and do it while I'm not there to say something? Wtf, I thought work was supposed to be exactly that. Work. Not high school. There's one girl that works with me and one manager that I can tell hate me more than anything, so I'm thinking one of them might have done it but who knows. I'm just so fuckin' mad. People are so immature.
My goodness that's terrible! Trust me I know how you feel. During the busy months of work I was asked to babysit for my boss and because I try to be a geuninely sincere person I just said no problem. There was no favoritism or anything yet I could tell others were jealous and upset. I never bragged or spoke about it at work. It's just whenver his kids came in they were super excited to see me. So when I did end up pregnant with my boyfriends baby. The rumors started to go around that I was having my bosses baby. So much so the human resource lady from a couple states away came and questioned me 5 almost 6 months pregnant!
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. If I were you I would try speaking with the manager in charge and explain the situation that way a complaint would be put in and if the matter continues you have it in writing and it can be considered harassment if it continues. I would hate for you to look around for a new job but I would consider that an option depending on how they go about it to solve this.
Omg that's even worse for you since they claimed that crap with your boss instead of just a coworker. I swear people just need something to make their pathetic lives intertaining so they start rumors. But it's like, why start a rumer like that, that could ruin someone's job you know? Obviously I need this job. Even though I only get paid minimum wage, it's still an income. I don't know why people seriously have to do things like that.
I'm going to go talk to one of my managers that I really get along with soon. I just don't know who was the one that started it, the coworker that likes me told me he heard it from 2 of the ladies in the service deli so I'll start there. But it's like idk if I tell her if whoever started it will think I'm snitching and start some more shit. But I don't want to go back to work with stupid crap like that. Hopefully they can do something. What did you do when the people at your work started rumors? Did you go to your manager or the higher bosses?
Quoting a5hl3yC:My goodness that's terrible! Trust me I know how you feel. During the busy months of work I was asked to babysit for my boss and because I try to be a geuninely sincere person I just said no problem. There was no favoritism or anything yet I could tell others were jealous and upset. I never bragged or spoke about it at work. It's just whenver his kids came in they were super excited to see me. So when I did end up pregnant with my boyfriends baby. The rumors started to go around that I was having my bosses baby. So much so the human resource lady from a couple states away came and questioned me 5 almost 6 months pregnant!
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. If I were you I would try speaking with the manager in charge and explain the situation that way a complaint would be put in and if the matter continues you have it in writing and it can be considered harassment if it continues. I would hate for you to look around for a new job but I would consider that an option depending on how they go about it to solve this.
Oh god, I can't believe people would say that about you. That would make me more mad than what's going on with me at work. My mom started rumers about my cousin's ex wife that she trapped him and all that and it was just horrible. But my mom told me the same exact thing that you're saying, no matter how old people are or where you work, there's still going to be games and immature idiots. It still just gets annoying you know? The co worker and manager I think might have started it never do their job and I always did that chicks work for her so they have plenty of time to start it. But it's like, when you're at work shouldn't you be focused on your work and not try to sabotage someone?
Quoting Hanab818:
God that's awful. And let me tell you just because your out of high school doesnt mean ppl will stop asking like immature jackasses that spread rumors. When I was in college and 23 rumors were spread about how I trapped my husband into our marriage by getting pregnant in purpose behind his back! Because he was cheating on me and didn't want to be married to me 3 months after our wedding. Which is not true ds1 def an oops baby but the best oops ever. Also the same girls said that I was lieing about my dad dying just so I could take a week off of school. So don't let it get to you! You know the truth and thats all that should matter. No matter how old we get ppl are still immature jackasses. I mean my moms boss is like that and she's in her 50s
Ugh I know. My mom always told me that. She used to work at Bank of America in the home loan section and people would start rumors left and right and talk crap all the time. So she was like, if I'm working in that type of setting, I can gaurantee you people will start high school drama anywhere you go. I've always believed her because I knew it was true but it's still so irritating when it happens you know? Especially to bring my not born son into it, how pathetic do you have to be?
Quoting mrsbrimer:no matter how old you are, or what job you have, PEOPLE ARE LIKE THAT EVERYWHERE YOU GO omg it sucks. my 53 year old mother, is always telling me about her co-workers and the crazy drama they cause, and they are all mid 40s and up!! and police dispatchers!!!
Quoting gabrielat:
Yea it's annoying and yea I got mad about the dad thing. I was actually in the deans office crying about it for 2 hours the other thing I just know they only said that cuz they were jealous of my relationship with my husband that they have always wanted to have with someone so it didnt bug me. But yea your right they should be focusing on work not you. It's retarded but that's the way of the world don't worry about them let them act pike a bunch of immature dumb asses.
There really honestly wasn't anyone hire up I could go to unfortunately. The higher ups were the ones questioning me about it. Like my bosses, bosses, bosses, boss type of deal :/ I ended up switching and going to a different store and they conveniently found a way to fire me... I've moved on since and I'm at a new job that makes me happy.
I'm not sure why people start work rumors that could risk a job for someone. But they do. And I don't want you to think every job is like that. Yes there are people you won't get along with but some companies really don't put up with the bullshit and will actually do something about it. I don't know where exactly you work but there are always numbers at the bottoms of reciepts. You could have a friend call and make a complaint saying the person was heard making comments they didn't feel comfortable with. It leaves out details and it wouldn't completely fall back on you if you are worried. Good luck :)
Oh last thing how does your boyfriend feel about it?
Quoting gabrielat:Omg that's even worse for you since they claimed that crap with your boss instead of just a coworker. I swear people just need something to make their pathetic lives intertaining so they start rumors. But it's like, why start a rumer like that, that could ruin someone's job you know? Obviously I need this job. Even though I only get paid minimum wage, it's still an income. I don't know why people seriously have to do things like that.
I'm going to go talk to one of my managers that I really get along with soon. I just don't know who was the one that started it, the coworker that likes me told me he heard it from 2 of the ladies in the service deli so I'll start there. But it's like idk if I tell her if whoever started it will think I'm snitching and start some more shit. But I don't want to go back to work with stupid crap like that. Hopefully they can do something. What did you do when the people at your work started rumors? Did you go to your manager or the higher bosses?
Quoting a5hl3yC:My goodness that's terrible! Trust me I know how you feel. During the busy months of work I was asked to babysit for my boss and because I try to be a geuninely sincere person I just said no problem. There was no favoritism or anything yet I could tell others were jealous and upset. I never bragged or spoke about it at work. It's just whenver his kids came in they were super excited to see me. So when I did end up pregnant with my boyfriends baby. The rumors started to go around that I was having my bosses baby. So much so the human resource lady from a couple states away came and questioned me 5 almost 6 months pregnant!
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. If I were you I would try speaking with the manager in charge and explain the situation that way a complaint would be put in and if the matter continues you have it in writing and it can be considered harassment if it continues. I would hate for you to look around for a new job but I would consider that an option depending on how they go about it to solve this.
Idk why people can't grow up sometimes. It's like hello, you're at work. Last time I checked, petty jealousy and gossip was kid stuff. When you work you have to be an adult. But I guess not always lol
Quoting Hanab818:Quoting gabrielat:
Yea it's annoying and yea I got mad about the dad thing. I was actually in the deans office crying about it for 2 hours the other thing I just know they only said that cuz they were jealous of my relationship with my husband that they have always wanted to have with someone so it didnt bug me. But yea your right they should be focusing on work not you. It's retarded but that's the way of the world don't worry about them let them act pike a bunch of immature dumb asses.
Well you got fucked over :/. At least you got another job. I've been thinking about looking for another job but that'd be a whole process I don't want to go through again unless I ABSOLUTLY had to. I know not every job is like that. I work at a grocery store and managment isn't always doing their job right, so there's a lot of crap that I had to deal with anyway, not just rumors. No one has started a rumor about me at work so since it's there and since managment doens't really do their job, it sucks. Because I feel like even if I say something, nothing is going to get farther than them listening to me then have it slip their mind once I leave. So who knows. But I'm still going to say something to them, just to let them know people are being immature.
I don't have a boyfriend. I left my boy's dad and I don't think he's going to be there for us now. But if I was still with him I think he'd partly believe it. So I guess best thing he's not around lol.
Quoting a5hl3yC:There really honestly wasn't anyone hire up I could go to unfortunately. The higher ups were the ones questioning me about it. Like my bosses, bosses, bosses, boss type of deal :/ I ended up switching and going to a different store and they conveniently found a way to fire me... I've moved on since and I'm at a new job that makes me happy.
I'm not sure why people start work rumors that could risk a job for someone. But they do. And I don't want you to think every job is like that. Yes there are people you won't get along with but some companies really don't put up with the bullshit and will actually do something about it. I don't know where exactly you work but there are always numbers at the bottoms of reciepts. You could have a friend call and make a complaint saying the person was heard making comments they didn't feel comfortable with. It leaves out details and it wouldn't completely fall back on you if you are worried. Good luck :)
Oh last thing how does your boyfriend feel about it?
Quoting gabrielat:Omg that's even worse for you since they claimed that crap with your boss instead of just a coworker. I swear people just need something to make their pathetic lives intertaining so they start rumors. But it's like, why start a rumer like that, that could ruin someone's job you know? Obviously I need this job. Even though I only get paid minimum wage, it's still an income. I don't know why people seriously have to do things like that.
I'm going to go talk to one of my managers that I really get along with soon. I just don't know who was the one that started it, the coworker that likes me told me he heard it from 2 of the ladies in the service deli so I'll start there. But it's like idk if I tell her if whoever started it will think I'm snitching and start some more shit. But I don't want to go back to work with stupid crap like that. Hopefully they can do something. What did you do when the people at your work started rumors? Did you go to your manager or the higher bosses?
Quoting a5hl3yC:My goodness that's terrible! Trust me I know how you feel. During the busy months of work I was asked to babysit for my boss and because I try to be a geuninely sincere person I just said no problem. There was no favoritism or anything yet I could tell others were jealous and upset. I never bragged or spoke about it at work. It's just whenver his kids came in they were super excited to see me. So when I did end up pregnant with my boyfriends baby. The rumors started to go around that I was having my bosses baby. So much so the human resource lady from a couple states away came and questioned me 5 almost 6 months pregnant!
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. If I were you I would try speaking with the manager in charge and explain the situation that way a complaint would be put in and if the matter continues you have it in writing and it can be considered harassment if it continues. I would hate for you to look around for a new job but I would consider that an option depending on how they go about it to solve this.
Breastfeeding--please help me!!!
- gabrielat
on Feb. 17, 2012 at 12:18 AM