Cold feet about marrying my boyfriend.. Help?

[LatinaMommy32]

Well i love him and all but sometimes he just gets on my nerves and i just feel like hes not the one. I feel like im stuck in the past, his friends, his old crushes that are now really good friends. Even though im the one who cheated on him once in the past. I cant seem to trust him. Ive had so many jerks in my life that i gues i feel like i cant trust anyone anymore. I know thats not an excuse for what i did. But even now i still feel like i cant trust him. And when he gets on my nerves its for him not wanting to take more care of the baby or wamtin to be with me more. I feel like he plays video games more tham he pays attention to me and the baby. I know he needs time for himself but i mean seriously playing games why not somethin more productive. I mean im 16 and hes 17 so i get were still young and i know theres bigger issues than him playing to much. But sometimes he can also be a little rough when we play fight and idk how to tell him to be more gentle. Also i feel like he usually just wants to be with me to be sexual. He likes slapping me
On the ass which i dont understand if it makes him
Feel manly or whatever but i wish he was his sweet lovable self. Not horny and mad self.

[heather4511]

He definitely sounds like a 17 year old. You are 16, why are you worried about marrying him? Give it a couple years and see how things go. He may change as he gets older and for the better. Or he may not and at that point you will be glad you didn't marry him.

[momoftwins_2]

Wait then!

[ELC8311]

I think that's a natural feeling. I feel the same way sometimes because my fiance is always playing video games and not spending time with his daughter like he should. I'm the one wanting to marry him for the most part, though. He's been saying he wants to marry me for a long time but he's the one who keeps coming up with excuses and not chosing a date. It's super frustrating.

[1.hot.mama2005]

Quoting heather4511:

He definitely sounds like a 17 year old. You are 16, why are you worried about marrying him? Give it a couple years and see how things go. He may change as he gets older and for the better. Or he may not and at that point you will be glad you didn't marry him.

[littleinsect]

I'd wait! You want to make sure you really want to spend the rest of your life with him, so if you rush into it when you're not 100% sure you might start to feel trapped. Two years may seem like a long time now, but if you wait until you're 18 and still want to marry him then you know that you've given it time and are able to do it legally as adults without your parents needing to sign a consent form.

[LatinaMommy32]

my family is disapointed i was even pregnant, so they feel the best thing would be to be marrying him. 

[LatinaMommy32]

true,, my family really wants me to marry him though, i want to marry him too sometimes, and than sometimes i feel trapped, im going to be 17 in may and its just a matter of time until my family expect for us to be married

[cspitzer]

 First off your family cant make you marry him, if your having doubts then really consider that. Make a list of things you like about the relationship and things you dont. Are those big things or little things? Could you live with those qualities the rest of you life? Do you think this could possibly end in divorce? If so it isnt worth it. Hon you are still very young and have plenty of time to get to know him adn really to get to know yoursef. Dont rush into marriage just because he is the father of your baby.
Hope this helps. Praying for you.

[Joellen3797]

Quoting heather4511:

He definitely sounds like a 17 year old. You are 16, why are you worried about marrying him? Give it a couple years and see how things go. He may change as he gets older and for the better. Or he may not and at that point you will be glad you didn't marry him.

[tmbmommy11610]

If you don't know then wait. And you need to tell him exactly how you feel too. If my hubby is being too rough, I say baby your being too rough. And he starts being more gentle. If it happens again I remind him. Guys need shit spelled out for them sometimes.
Just tell him how you feel. If your even thinking you might marry him, you need communication. That's so important.
Good luck with everything. (: