Why is there this big competition between SAHMs and working moms?? WHO CARES? If you're a good mother, you just are. If your kids are happy and you're happy, then that is GOOD. I am a stay at home mom, it doesn't make my husband unhappy and it doesn't make me unhappy. I'm starting college and will have my degree by the time my second child is 3. Does this make me lazy? I would think not. Do I think mothers that hurry off to work are horrible? NO. Every situation is different. There is so much jealousy and moms bashing other moms and it is sickening. We all have children and those SAHMs bashing the working ones? Maybe one of these days you'll be forced to work, then where are you going to get your support from if you've bashed the other working moms? Working moms may end up with some sort of disability and can't continue to work, better not upset everyone that might be a friend.