Natural Birth Snobbery

[KristyCat]

Let me start off by saying I have absolutely zero desire to deliver naturally. At all. I want pain medication(s) because I want to focus on being in an alright mood and not focused on how much it sucks to be torn in half by a watermelon in my pelvis. 

I would never ever knock someone for going au natural. But it’s when woman act superior and ‘holier-than-thou’ that it gets me heated.Yeah, great. You suffered through labor and delivery and I got pain meds. You must be so much stronger than I and such a better mom...

Yes, there are risks with everything. Even giving birth! I’m cool with it if you want to “feel the whole experience,” you masochist, you. But please don’t act like you’re better than me or I took “the easy way out.” Who wrote the book on L&D a decided if you take pain medication that you’re a wimp? 

Come time for my little bugga to get here, I’ll be getting an epidural. I know some women experience a slow in labor leading to a Cesarean, but I know my doctor and she will not put me under the knife unless the baby’s health and welfare is threatened. 

I know the risks of epidurals, I've also done my homework on other pain relief methods, just an FYI.

I just cannot wrap my head around why some women act like:

"OMG! Epidurals are so bad. Natural or go home! Why would you want to take something that could affect your baby? Don't you realize natural is better? You had a c-section? HA! I had a natural birth and if I can do it you can too!"

So if you can help me wrap my head around this Natural Birth Snobbery, please enlighten me.

[phrenicfire89]

My doc forced me into a c section, I wanted a vaginal birth with an epideral lol. My city doesn't authorize VBACs or is be trying for one. My MIL was a bragger, her exact words for months were "I delivered both my boys naturally, no meds, I proved my womanhood!" Always followed by a laugh. I wanted to slap her and remind her of all the crap she put those 'natural born' sons of hers through.

[Redwall]

I had two C-sections.  My first was necessary, my second wasn't.  But cripes, I still gave birth to two healthy boys.  Tell all those natural birth snobs to give it up.  The baby is the reward...regardless of how it gets here.

 

[Jennifer_57]

lmao, I went natural BECAUSE I am a wimp, I am terrified of needles..let alone them inserting a small tube into my spine. Screw that, I went natural because I am terrified of things like that being put in my body, and I was hell bent on refusing the epidural.

[lizjones]

I was going to do it natural with my son but my contractions were not going away. They got up to nearly 200, and my "break" in between contractions was 178 at the lowest. My doctor came in and made get me an epidural, which I was open to, because the constant pain was putting too much stress on my son because my body wasnt getting a break. Doctors wouldnt have you do something that is that seriously dangerous. There are risks in everything with labor. Epidurals and pain meds were invented for a reason, such as my case. You do what you feel is right for you. The way you give birth to your child doesn't dictate wether youre a good or bad mother, the way you care for them does. Anyone who brags that doing it au natural makes them better than others just have their heads up their ass ;) Do what you want, youre gonna be a great mother :)

[C.H.E.L.S.E.A]

I think if a woman can go through labor with absolutely no pain meds then she has the right to brag because that is a big accomplishment. So it doesn't bother me at all!

[ms-superwoman]

Ugh! My mother acted like that. After I got an epidural, my mother actually left with an attitude. She missed the birth because she wanted to act like a child. Her loss. I had a beautiful delivery and it was very pleasant and short.

[KristyCat]

Quoting ms-superwoman:

Ugh! My mother acted like that. After I got an epidural, my mother actually left with an attitude. She missed the birth because she wanted to act like a child. Her loss. I had a beautiful delivery and it was very pleasant and short.

Dude, wtf?! She was that upset that you wanted pain meds that she couldn't keep supporting her daughter? What a trip. I'm sorry!

[KristyCat]

Quoting Redwall:

I had two C-sections.  My first was necessary, my second wasn't.  But cripes, I still gave birth to two healthy boys.  Tell all those natural birth snobs to give it up.  The baby is the reward...regardless of how it gets here.

Exactly! Labor is labor!

[ms-superwoman]

Yea ikr! She had the I did it, so you can do it to mentality.

Quoting KristyCat:

Quoting ms-superwoman:

Ugh! My mother acted like that. After I got an epidural, my mother actually left with an attitude. She missed the birth because she wanted to act like a child. Her loss. I had a beautiful delivery and it was very pleasant and short.

Dude, wtf?! She was that upset that you wanted pain meds that she couldn't keep supporting her daughter? What a trip. I'm sorry!

[Aslen]

Havign had a birth with the epidural and one completely drug free... the drug free was infintiely EASIER, and I recovered faster. That's how I'll be doing it from now on