Put your kids first! YOU are not that important anymore!
You can solve pretty much ALL of your issues by putting your children first, from the get go. Let me tell you ALL that MEN are NOT as important as your children. Do you not think of them before you bring a man around? Do you think it is better for children to watch an unhealthy relationship? I honestly don't care if YOU love him, or if YOU don't want to be alone, if it is not what is BEST for your child, don't do it. That will save you a lot of hardship! If you are with a dead beat, drug user, abuser, or any of the million things I have seen posted on here, think of this. Do you want your son to turn out that way? Do you want your daughter with a man that treats her that way? And if they do that stuff, why in the HELL are you having MORE children with them. Hello!!! " Wow, this situation really sucks and is unhealthy, lets have another baby!"
If you can not put your children first, and you continuously have them thinking things will change, you are WRONG. Stop thinking about yourself! You are NOT as important as your children!