My DF and I have been together for 4 years this summer, and over the last few days he seems to have completely retracted himself from me. He used to be super affectionate and sweet, he used to rub my back and playfully smack my butt all the time, and he even used to cuddle with me until I fell asleep before he went to sleep, no matter how late it was.
Over the last few days he's just... changed. He doesn't say I love you any more. No kisses or hugs or anything. I have even tried to convince him to have sex with me, and he's just not interested (which has never happened), I am at my wits end with this, I ask if everything is fine and he says yeah, then goes back to whatever he was doing which is usually playing his xbox. He hasn't been showering either which is starting to really bother me. I put so much effort into trying to look good for him, and he doesn't even shower.
I love him with all my heart, and I don't want to lose our relationship right before my daughter's 1st birthday but i feel like that's where it is headed. I've tried talking and being physical and affectionate, but he's just... blank.I really don't want to leave him either, because all of my family is well over a few hundred miles away and that's where I'll have to go if our relationship is over, and he'll never really get to see our daughter. i'm sitting here in tears over this, because i'm still madly in love with who he was and i don't know if this is just a phase or if there's something seriously wrong. I know all of his passwords so I know he's not cheating, and if he is, he's being really really sneaky. I pick him up from work most days, and he doesn't ever go out except for D&D with his friends, I've told him he could if he'd really like to. I even told him to go out on his birthday and he just says "eh, i'd rather not" .
I'm sorry this is so long, i'm just so emotionally torn right now. and i am super super confused about why he's acting this way.