Does your BF/DF/DH/SO have other kids? Does it bother you?
My boyfriend has kids. To be completely honest, he has 3 other kids. BEFORE you judge, I want to tell you a background story.
When he was younger, he was hit in the balls SO hard he bled and had to go to the hospital. They thought he would have trouble having kids. So him & his GF of 5 years never used condoms. They broke up, she ended up pregnant. She kept the baby so he would "have no choice" but to get back with her. She even told me this herself when she was pregnant. They were still broken up. They had a daughter, named Aubrey & we still see Aubrey whenever his EX isn't on a power trip and keeps her from us.
He got into a relationship with another girl who "missed" her birthcontrol when she was never actually on it. He should've wore a condom too, and regrets it because the pull out method doesnt work. This girl doesn't "believe in abortions" so she kept it. He had another daughter named Callie, and helped raised her from the start. He was an AMAZING father to her, and everyone who knows my BF knows this. Then they broke up after fighting constantly, and we ended up getting together.
I have known him since we were kids, so I was fine with him having 2 daughters. I didn't mind at all. BUT when we found out his ex was pregnant again because she "forgot" her b/c I was highly upset. I cried for days! We didn't find out until she was 6 months pregnant! She wanted to keep their son from my BF. Well now she took off with both of the kids and begged my BF to sign over rights, so he did. ONLY because it was the best choice for the kids.
But it still bugs me that he has 3 kids! He feels like a piece of shit, which he really isn't. He misses his daughter tons. He calls our son his first son, because he never got to meet his other one. It still bugs me that my son really isn't his first and we both know that. What do I do when my son gets older though? Do I tell him he has more than just 1 half sibling, since he will only know Aubrey? Or do we keep is a secret unless the other kids decide to come find my BF one day? I'm disappointed, and my BF gets teary eyed when we talk about this situation. He feels like a dirtbag, but he really tried to be there but his ex hid their son and ran off with them.
What would you do in my situation?