I feel like Im a bad mother and I want to cry :,( UPDATE

[parisonmom]

I had to go get blood work done and I left DD and DS with Dh(which DD and DS don't listen to him). My DS was running and tripped over a toy which Dh told him to pick it up. He tripped and hit the coffer table and now his right eyebrow is busted open. I am mobile so I can't upload a picture. I just feel like if I stayed home this would never happened :( I just want to cry. So I'm on the bus heading hone to take him to the ER to make sure he don't need stitches to me it does. When DS moves his head it starts bleeding and Dh yelled at me saying if I didn't go this would never happen. I feel so bad now. I am a bad mother, and I don't knw anymore. I should just give them up completely maybe nothing like this would happen. But I feel Dh should of made him pick it up or he toy gets put up for good until DS knows how pick his toys up. DD don't listen either and she is 1 and DS is 3 so DS should of listened. So I feel bad as is so please don't be hateful or bash.


UPDATE: my Dh said sorry for yelling at me. He just freaked out and I took my son to the ER and he has 4 stitches. DS was a BOY BOY about it and didn't even cry when they put the stitches in. I'm so proud of him. He is a strong boy. And apparently DD pushed DS and he tripped and fell. But besides that DS should of listened when Dh told him to pick his toy up. My DS is a strong boy.

[heather4511]

It'd not your fault! Accidents happen, and the kids should have listened in the first place. So maybe this is something you can remind DS of in the future when he wont listen

[parisonmom]

Hope so! I just think if I stayed home this would never happened because he listens to me but he don't listen to Dh. Maybe because Dh is a nice father and I will make him listen and DS knows I will make him do something I tell him he has to do.

Quoting heather4511:

It'd not your fault! Accidents happen, and the kids should have listened in the first place. So maybe this is something you can remind DS of in the future when he wont listen

[mommy_flaw]

It isn't your fault! Things happen sometimes. Your DH shouldn't have been like that either..

[mommy053008]

I feel like you are overreacting a bit. Things happens. Maybe DH should use his authority to make them listen...perhaps a time out for his son when he didn't pick up his toy the first time. Sounds like your kids think they rule the roost when daddy's home...

[.Angelica.]

accidents happen. you are not at fault. your dh should know how to handle the kids for a little while on his own. though I wouldn't blame him for it either.

[jbeato]

Its not your fault. & in my opinion DH shouldn't have blamed it on you, though its not his fault either, because its a teamwork. Accidents happen & dh should have came about the situation better because at that time he was present.

[Vipergirl22]

Things happen, nothing you can do about it. Kids will be kids too..you can't baby and protect them forever. And shame on your Dh for making you feel that way . Mama you need to give yourself a break. Your dh needs to learn how to make them listen. Don't blame yourself.

[rory10]

Not your fault. You had to get blood work done. I had a similar thing Sunday with DD getting hot food on herself, but everyone was there and I was made to look like shit. Luckily there's no sign of it on her anymore and was almost gone the next day.

[remaining_me]

your husband's an asshole. i dont see how that makes you a bad mother. accidents happen. you can't help prevent an accident when you're not even there (not this doesnt mean lock yourself in a room with your children until they're 18). if hubby can't see how that was his responisbility what exactly is his purpose? he's their father... don't beat yourself up about it!!

[KylersMom8-16-7]

Its not your fault, your son was told to pick up his toy, this is the consequence of not doing so. It could of happened if you were there too. Some lessons need to be learned the hard way. Try asking your son how this could of been avoided. Kids are smart let him learn. Yes you should feel empathy but not guilt:) He'll be just fine.

Sorry I have been taking Love & Logic parenting classes and it teaches parents not to take the blame unless you directly caused the issue.