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What would you do? ......update...

Posted by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 3:01 PM
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I met this man and he invited me to party in his college town after his football game back in sept. We got really drunk and had sex. We stayed in contact after that and I wanted to get to know him and maybe have a relationship with him. Well 3 weeks later I had found out I was pregnant. I was on the pill at the time. I let him know we were going to be having a baby and he told me he would be in his sons life. I didn't know if he would or wouldn't. I only seen him once during the whole pregnancy but we kept in contact I let him know about all the appointments and if anything was going wrong. He missed the actual birth by literally 5 mins. He was 3 hours away at his parents house. Our son is now going on 3 weeks old and he is so in love with his son. He still is living at his parents house 3 hours away from us. He is going back to college in august possibly end of july which is only 45 mins from us. He is always texting me for pictures and telling Rylan goodnight and he misses him. I just got back from driving to his parents house where me and Rylan stayed over night. We went so his family could see Rylan and dad could spend some time with him. Now my question is this. I had feelings for Michael in the beginning obviously we had sex. But throughout the pregnancy I didn't at all. Because he wasnt really around and I didn't know for sure if he was gonna be around at all. Well now he is and hes a great dad. This is bringing very strong feelings back for me. Problem is he has a gf now. And I'm getting mixed vibes from him. I dont know if hes just being friendly or he possibly has feelings for me now too. Just some things he says like he told me I was a great mother and then he said wait your just overall an amazing girl. And he tells me when I'm in pictures with rylan its a good added bonus to see me in the pictures and he said the same about me taking rylan to see him it was a good added bonus for me to be there with him. When we put Rylan to bed he just kinda hung out in the room and kept conversation going and was pacing the room like he didnt want to go to his room. He gives me hugs and he was in his room and came back to mine just to give me a hug goodnight. These are just some of the things he has done/said to me. I just don't know how to go about it because he has a gf. I want to tell him how I feel but at the same time I don't know if I should. And at the same time I want to know how he feels. What would you ladies do in my situation?


Update: So I did it. I told him how I felt. And it really didn't go bad thankfully! Basically he said he didnt know what to say because it comes with us having a child together. And I told him I know that because having a child together gives you that connection but I told him its not just the connection with having a baby together its more than that and I was confused by the mixed vibes I was getting from him. He then said i have a gf you know so its hard to say cuz when I was with him it was good. and hes glad I told him how I felt. So basically I think he has feelings for me but doesnt want to come out in say it because he has a gf. But I'm just going to sit and wait it out and see what happens and just gonna keep going on with life the way it has been going. Hoping for something good in the end. :) Thanks ladies!

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MommyLehr
by Member on Jun. 26, 2012 at 3:04 PM

I would just tell him you need to talk about things and tell him how you feel.

MrsRinehart2010
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 3:05 PM

I would staight out ask him how he feels about you an tell him how you feel about him :O) thats the best you can do.

Vero2410
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 3:07 PM
It would be good to tell him how you feel. But If the outcome isn't what You wanted don't let that affect what y'all have now
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heather4511
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 3:15 PM
The most you can do is tell him how you feel. If it works for the best, great! If not, then just remain friends and keep being great parents.
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MayDay93
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 3:22 PM

 He probably has some sort of feeling for you, obviously. You are the mother of his child. I'm sure he is thinking the same thing you are, just wondering how you feel about him. Seems like you guys are handling this situation great and I'm sure bringing up the topic of "Where is this going? What do you want?" would be easy to talk to him about.

Jessica181989
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 5:22 PM
Yah I agree with that. I just hope he won't let it affect anything if he doesn't feel the same.

Quoting Vero2410:

It would be good to tell him how you feel. But If the outcome isn't what You wanted don't let that affect what y'all have now
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turtlebear
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 5:59 PM

Seems like you already know what you want to do. You both seem to know what you want, and you both will always have feelings for one another because y'all have a child together. I would talk to him but keep in mind your son is only 3 weeks old. He might be caught up in the cute family type moment (although the way you say he acts I wouldn't think so).

How does the gf feel about this situation?

AubreeGrace17
by Aubree on Jun. 26, 2012 at 6:25 PM

I would just be upfront and honest with him and tell him how I feel.

-KC-
by Ymu Momma on Jun. 26, 2012 at 6:54 PM
He does have a gf. Tell him how you feel, but dont make the mistake of being the other girl.
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mlg9209
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 7:11 PM
You just need to be bluntly honest and let him know and tell him to be real no games bc yal have a child together
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