Mixed Emotions

[LandonsMom63009]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3years this Saturday together we have a 2 year old son. He's a great dad and for the most part a great boyfriend, however anytime I bring up getting married or having more children he flips out. I'm 20 and he's 23 so yes we're both still really young but even if I talk about marriage and kids in a far off in the future sense he gets frustrated. I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I don't know if I'm willing to commit myself to someone who won't even talk about marriage or more kids. I just don't want to wake up one morning and feel like I wasted my whole life with someone who doesn't want the same things as me. The insecure part of me also thinks he's just waiting to find something better even though he tells me he only wants me, and would never do anything to mess up his relationship with his son (always his son not me he's concerned about). I know I'm lucky to be with a man who is such a great dad but I'm starting to question if he's in s relationship for me or for just our son. Don't know what to think/feel anymore.

[heather4511]

Well those are definitely deal breaking topics in a relationship. He should definitely talk to you about those things, and if you aren't on the same page, it may be best to re-evaluate the relationship.

[LandonsMom63009]

Quoting heather4511:

Well those are definitely deal breaking topics in a relationship. He should definitely talk to you about those things, and if you aren't on the same page, it may be best to re-evaluate the relationship.

. It's just hard because I know being with him is great for our son because we don't really fight and besides this one thing (which is a big thing to disagree on I know) we have a great relationship and Landon loves being with both his parents I don't want to take that away but I don't want to have to completely compromise what I want either

[heather4511]

You shouldn't settle if you know you want to be married. And even at 23 with having a child, he should be more open to the conversation and at least be up front if he doesn't want to be married.

[LandonsMom63009]

He just flat out refuses to have the conversation, I guess that means its up to me to make the decision. I don't want to be manipulative but I've thought about leaving him in hopes he'd realize how much I do or don't mean to him

[bigmama423]

You need to talk to him, be honest with him. If he doesn't even want to talk to you than you're probably wasting your time. He can be in your child's life without having to be in a relationship with you.