18 year old mom with questions about self esteem and life.
hi everyone my name is brianna. i am18 years old, married, trying to graduate HS and more importantly a mother to a 2 1/2 month old baby girl. i know i am a baby myself which is why i question myself as a mother. i love my baby girl but i just feel like i gave up my entire life. i have no friends, i hardly see my husband because of the crazy hours he works and i am just alone. :( can anybody help me get out of this slump or atleast give me advice? All i want is to be able to talk to someone who can relate and understand the hardship i am going through. all i need is a friend.
I got married when I was 18 and got pregnant right away. I know how you feel, but it doesn't matter if you are 18 or 30, I don't think anyone is ever ready to be a mom. My husband is in the Navy and works crazy hours too, all I can say is keep at it, as they get older it gets easier! I promise! My first one is 18 months old and I have a 4 week old, and it's waaaaay easier now! You'll figure out how to fit into your new life, and learn to love it, try and find some other moms, young or not to connect with. Some of my good friends are close to their 30's because they have kids my children's ages.
I am in the same situation as you, 18 with a one month old son. But I have already graduated high school and my boyfriend is working full-time also. It's hard adjusting to the life of a mommy, just the other night on July 4th I was stuck inside watching the fireworks with my son because he was having a hard time sleeping alone that night. It's hard not being able to be with your friends whenever you want now. But you should definitely try to find classes in your area that have to do with your baby or finding new friends who can relate to your situation. I am going to a La Leche League meeting this month which is where a bunch of moms come together and talk mainly about breastfeeding but also can just talk about being moms. Its hard not having friends who understand what your going through, I TOTALLY get that. If you ever need to talk just message me! :)
I was right where you are honey. I was 16. I wasn't married though. Things do get better. I've learned to accept it and also learned that if I don't second guess myself I'm a better mother.
I had #2 in December when I was 21. If you want someone to talk to, I'm here! I'm in MI so if you're in the area I'd love a new friend!
i had my daughter at 16 & she's now almost 5... i'm not married but have been in a realtionship with my daughters father for almost 6 years now & i feel the exact same way. it's lonely, i have no friends either & i never see my bf b/c he's working so much ! all i can say is... this is what we signed up for when we chose the decisions we did... married life... a family. but, i would suggest you going online & looking up local groups in your area for young mothers like you. i guaruntee there are alot of women in your same situation. also, if you drive just start getting out there & taking your daughter to the park, library, or something after school or while your husbands at work ! the best thing is to get out there... research fun things to do in your area & after a while you'll meet new people & have playdates & maybe even meets some girl friends & have a kid free girls night out ! :)
Honey, you have a hard row to hoe but it wont be that way forever. Anyone who has been a stay at home mom knows what you are going through, regardless of your age. Try to find moms in your area that you can have play dates with. This is an excellent way to entertain yourself and your child. When I was home with mine and they were small like yours, I lived too far away from anyone who I could possibly schedule as play dates. It made for long long days. I know it seems like it will never end or ever get better but it does. I didnt have things like the internet when mine were little. Coming here can be a big help. I hope things get better. Continue forward with your high school diploma and take online courses for college. It will be the best investment you will ever make for yourself and your child!
Keep your head up and know it wont be forever. i was 16 when i had my first and was very lonely and depressed. i filled my tome at home with being a mommy and did the best i could at school. Sometimes it will feel like you have no future, but you do. it wont be what you use to imagine, but you still have many things you can accomplish bith with your family and on your own. As far as friends go, its gonna be tough and you will feel lonely sometimes but again it wont last forever.
Could I be getting ready for labor soon?!
Male or Female?
- BriannaClancy
on Jul. 5, 2012 at 9:37 AM